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I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I think it's great that you both agreed to go to counseling, at least you will be able to find out what happened and what there is to be done. Good luck, no matter what way the road may take you, it will be the right on, even if it looks scary right now. All my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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im so sorry you're going through this.

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I'm sorry you're going through this. It def sounds like something deeper is going on. Hopefully you'll get through this and come out stronger.

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I just did a search with your name to see what your past posts were like, and saw you recently discovered he had a low sperm count.

Have you thought maybe this devastated him, that he may feel "broken", less than a man, and unable to possibly get you pregnant, and this could be really devastating him right now? Maybe he feels you are better off without him, and he can't go through the pain of discovering this about himself?

Just a thought... I'm sorry you are going thru this. The mind can be a strange thing and he may have switched this around to protect himself, his ego, and you

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I cannot thank you all enough for your kind words and for your advice. I truly appreciate it. I have had an awful week, but I am going to try and talk to him this weekend. Thank you again. I will keep you posted.

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I can't even imagine what you are going through. I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason. take the time to reflect on your own happiness and what you what out of a marriage. I agree counseling will help but I think it is important for you two to have counseling individually as well as together. Before he can commit to counseling, he has to want to save the marraige. It sounds like there is more to the story. After 14 years together, the least he can do is give you a FULL explanation. I don't believe people just wake up one morning and randomly fall out of love (if that's even possible).

Through it all, please do not EVER blame yourself. Your own self worth and happiness must come from you and NEVER be dependent on someone else. It sounds like you have supportive family (and all of us) so you have help to get through this.

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I am so sorry!! I hope you can get through this. I also feel that somthing else has to be going on that he is not telling you. I hope this all works out for you

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Even though he seems indifferent now, maybe counseling with change that. There is obviously something he is not telling you and hopefully it will come out in you sessions. It is a good sign that he is at least willing to go. I hope things work you for you.

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I am sorry you're going through this. You are in my thoughts.