Who did you tell and when?

Just found out last night and I'm confirming with my doctor on the 27th but DH said he doesn't want to tell anyone until after the first trimester! Not even our parents.

I'm dying to talk about it with someone because I'm so excited.

How long did you wait before telling people and if you did wait, what was your answer when they asked if you were?

I just don't know how I'm going to keep this a secret for 3 whole months!!

I just can't imagine what these next few months are going to be like!

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DH and I are struggling with this issue right now. First, it took forever for us to get here so we are being extremely cautious.
We initially wanted to tell everyone at 3 months, however the more we talk to our parents we feel awful not telling.

Then we said we'll wait until Wednesday's sonogram (5 weeks). At least we'd be assured there is a baby in there.

Then we said we'll wait until 7 weeks for the heartbeat and then tell...

I guess we just want to make sure there is a healthy baby inside of me before letting everyone know...

We're still undecided.

Re: Who did you tell and when?

we are waiting until our next ultrasound which will be at 8 weeks. the doctor said once the heartbeat is heard, there is only a 5% risk of miscarriagee, so that is how we made our decision. but i'm spending next week in seattle with my best friend and am so sad not to tell her. the ultrasound is the day after i come back

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We waited two weeks to tell our parents. I wanted to wait until Father's Day. It took me over a year to get PG and I couldn't hold the news in much longer.

I waited to tell my coworkers until 10 weeks.

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We waited until the sonogram where we saw the heartbeat. We thought we would wait longer, but I have been so sick I knew I needed some help from family to get things done. We told everyone at 7 weeks. It was the best decision for us. Both my parents and my inlaws have been over to help me all the time now and when I'm feeling miserable I don't have to hide it.

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As our family knew we were doing IVF we obviously told them and our freinds that knew, people that didn't know I am waiting till 2nd trimester. But I was in a completely different situation so that doesn't realy help at all does it

I think if you get bad m/s your family might notice?? Or if you are the kind of person who likes a drink in a social situation people are going to notice you aren't drinking.

Once you confirm with the Dr can you maybe tell immediate family?

Congratulations by the way

Re: Who did you tell and when?

i actually told work first, at 8 weeks (due to the line of work i do)
we told my parents when we saw them at 11 weeks, we are telling MIL this weekend (we wanted to do it in person)......then everyone else next week after our ultrascreen. we waited a while, its just what i was comfortable with. my mom couldn't understand why we didn't tell everyone right away---you just have to do what feels right

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We each "got one" to tell (couldn't be a parent) as soon as we got the BFP. Then after the first doctor's appt (8w) where we saw the heartbeat and were reassured, we told our parents, our siblings and our families, in that order. Between 8-12 weeks we told people (friends) as we saw them and then after the ultrascreen (12w), I told work and we sent out emails to those we hadn't seen to tell in person.

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With my first pregnancy I only told my mom at 7wks. We planned to tell the rest of our immediate family at 8 1/2 wks when we saw them for DH's birthday and after we saw the heartbeart. Unfortunately, we didn't get to see the heartbeat, so we ended up telling our parents about the miscarriage.

Since they already knew we were trying/had been pg, with this one we told just our parents immediately (the day I got my BFP). We told our siblings a wk later. We are waiting til after the first trimester to tell friends and the rest of our families.

If I could, I would wait until I go into labor to share with work.

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I told everyone fairly early. I couldn't keep it a secret.

Our parents and close family knew at 5 weeks. Friends knew by 6-8 weeks.

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I told everyone the day I got my BFP!

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With my first 2 I told everyone right away however when I got pregnant for the 3rd time I told everyone again but I had a m/c and it was very hard to face everyone at first because people want to show support but at the same time everyone feels uncomfortable around each other, therefore when I got pregnant again I only told dh,mom,sister and waited until I heard the heart beat to tell everyone else. But you should have someone close to you to share your wonderful news.

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We told my family when we saw them at 9 weeks (after we saw a heartbeat). We told DH parents when he was visiting them at about 11 weeks. Everyone else we told at 14 weeks (wanted to wait until second trimester).

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We couldn't help but to tell our folks as soon as we got BFP! We told everyone else close to us after we saw the heartbeat.
I'm waiting until 12 weeks to tell distant family, friends, and coworkers.

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With my first we told everyone right away, except for my job.

With this pregnancy, I was in such shock that we didn't tell a soul until I was about 10 weeks.

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The very first person that was told was my sister - at I think 5 weeks. DH & I then told our mothers together on Mother's Day - I was 10 weeks that day. They were both told not to tell. My mother listened, his didn't and proceeded to tell DH's sisters that day. The following week the rest of my family found out at my brother's 50th b-day party.

I told my immediate supervisor at work the day after my mom, and the executive director later that week


Everyone else found out after we finished the first trimester.

Re: Who did you tell and when?

I waited about 11 minutes before I told my DH - took the test at 5:15 AM.

We waited about 1 month after that to tell our parents.

Friends we told when I was 12.5 weeks b/c I was starting to show

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We're waiting for our first trimester screen results. I'll be 14 weeks then. I think we told them around the same time with our DS. They were offended but we had our personal reasons.

Tell them whenever you are comfortable. Even is, god forbid, something happened would you want them to be there for support. If yes, then tell then asap. If you are very private and wouldn't want anyone to know if something happened - then wait.