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rdy-4-baby
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Friends being annoying?
No one IRL knows we are TTC...
At least once a week a good friend of mine tells me I need to have a baby.
At first I would just laugh it off and tell her we would when we were ready... Now that we have been TTC with no luck for about 6 months it is getting QUITE annoying, and I just want to snap at her every time she says something, but I hold back.
Am I being a TTC-zilla? Should I be annoyed?
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SryMrsJackson
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Re: Friends being annoying?
You're not being a TTC-zilla!! I'd be annoyed too. All you can do is try to re-direct the topic in some way that it doesn't focus on TTCing. 
Does she know that you are TTCing??
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| Posted 9/27/12 8:17 PM |
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JenandMikey
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Re: Friends being annoying?
i wholeheartedly believe that there are a few questions in life that you should not ask unless given a "green light" of sorts:
#1 when are you getting engaged?
#2 when are you having a baby?
#3 when are you having another baby?
#4 and my personal fave, when are you having a boy since you have two girls already (or vice versa)?
#5 when are you due? to a woman that you have no idea whether she had a big lunch or an actual baby in that bump below her boobs
people need to learn to shut their mouths with personal questions such as the gems written above
Message edited 9/27/2012 8:51:48 PM.
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| Posted 9/27/12 8:51 PM |
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Re: Friends being annoying?
what Jen said, I think it's totally wrong, I have asked friends that I am close with about baby stuff but only if I know it's okay. But I would never ask more than once if conversation had not progressed. I think it's uncool. I would probably say something to her like, "Hey, I know you mean well but it's just kind of a personal issue for me and when I'm ready to share our thoughts and plans, I'll let you know."
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| Posted 9/27/12 9:10 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Friends being annoying?
Posted by JenandMikey
i wholeheartedly believe that there are a few questions in life that you should not ask unless given a "green light" of sorts:
#1 when are you getting engaged?
#2 when are you having a baby?
#3 when are you having another baby?
#4 and my personal fave, when are you having a boy since you have two girls already (or vice versa)?
#5 when are you due? to a woman that you have no idea whether she had a big lunch or an actual baby in that bump below her boobs
people need to learn to shut their mouths with personal questions such as the gems written above
ita with this...but i give ur friend a slight pass bc she is ur good friend and if she does not know u r ttc she is prob just excited for you to start
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| Posted 9/27/12 9:37 PM |
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rdy-4-baby
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Friends being annoying?
Thanks girls!
I totally agree with everything said above.
So rude! And I think the fact that we are actually trying without any luck it makes it an extra sensitive subject.
She doesn't know we are TTC. I'm a pretty private person so no one knows. I have a hard time opening up to ppl!
So just hubby and you girls know :)
Thanks for not thinking I'm crazy!
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| Posted 9/27/12 9:38 PM |
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rdy-4-baby
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Friends being annoying?
Gina you may be right. She's more focused on her career and isn't married so I think she's projecting what she wants but doesn't have on me!
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| Posted 9/27/12 9:39 PM |
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Lillies
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Re: Friends being annoying?
Posted by gina409
Posted by JenandMikey
i wholeheartedly believe that there are a few questions in life that you should not ask unless given a "green light" of sorts:
#1 when are you getting engaged?
#2 when are you having a baby?
#3 when are you having another baby?
#4 and my personal fave, when are you having a boy since you have two girls already (or vice versa)?
#5 when are you due? to a woman that you have no idea whether she had a big lunch or an actual baby in that bump below her boobs
people need to learn to shut their mouths with personal questions such as the gems written above
ita with this...but i give ur friend a slight pass bc she is ur good friend and if she does not know u r ttc she is prob just excited for you to start
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Friends being annoying?
I HATE this question!!!! If she's your good friend then just either change the topic or tell her what the pp said. I wish I could just slap people who ask though. SIL just had a baby and all we got in the hospital is "you're next" and "aren't you ready to start"? People don't know we had a miscarriage a month ago but all I wanted to do was slap something. It's most annoying when people who have been through a miscarriage or a long time TTC, ask those questions. Like, don't you know it hurts being asked that?!?!?
Why not to simply say "I'd prefer you not ask that anymore. It's something personal between me and DH." If she's a good friend she'll understand. She is probably excited for you and it comes from a good place but if you ask her to stop talking about it maybe she will.
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| Posted 9/29/12 1:22 AM |
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TyReseGreen
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Re: Friends being annoying?
That is annoying! I have my IL's nagging me about another one. I want to tell them to go to (you know where) ! It's not as easy as people think. I wish people would realize it
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| Posted 9/29/12 9:29 AM |
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MomInHidingfor2
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Re: Friends being annoying?
this is my biggest pet peeve. We have been trying for almost two years now with no luck and we get this all the time.
Finally i just started saying "We are having a devastating last couple of months " and they kind of snap their mouth shut and dont know what to say lol
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