I was a blabber mouth

I'm a little annoyed with myself.

I with friends this week catching up and the conversation of when we would start to TTC came up and I said approximately when we plan to start ... but now I wish I didn't give such detailed information- especially if it doesn't happen right away


I'm not looking for a bunch of responses from people saying "Oh I didn't tell ANYONE my TTC plans" because then I will only feel like more of an idiot

I just wanted to vent.

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I know how you feel.

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lol thanks! I guess that's all I was really looking for from that post!


I actually feel like when I talk to those friends again I should be like "So I spoke about it with DH and we are thinking of doing it at a different time than I said but we want to keep when that is on the DL ) But.......... that might look SOOOOOO obvious that I am trying to cover up for something!


Maybe I can convince DH that we should TTC tomorrow so hopefully I'll get pg and we can REALLY throw people off! (Since I told my friends NEXT summer!)

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I was a blabber mouth too and totally regretted it
It took us 5 months and everyone was constantly asking us about it and checking out my belly!

Next time around, I'm keeping my mouth zipped!

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Do not worry about it..its is a very exciting time in your life and you are excited and nervous at the same time. It is an extremely tough thing to hold in.

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aww..that's ok. They are close friends you told.


Besides, they may not remember exactly when you said you would start.

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I hear you on this one-I kick myself every time I mention it. I am starting to learn to shut up-it is no one's business but mine and DH's!

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We told people and in a way I wish we had not, but in another way it's nice to have the support since it is taking us awhile. I really wouldn't worry aout it. So much can happen that can change things. If she mentions it next summer then just say. We're taking a we'll see approach and go from there. Most people get the hint if after 2-3 months you're not pg that it's harder then you thougt and back down a bit. If they don't then have a simple conversation that says it's taking longer then you thought a nd that you really can't talk about it because it's upsetting. If she's a real friend she'll understand. It's been my experience, though, that having a few friends that "get it" has helped me. They understand i'm frustrated and upset so they offer help not a string of it'll happen, or just relax

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Posted by medic6809

We told people and in a way I wish we had not, but in another way it's nice to have the support since it is taking us awhile. I really wouldn't worry aout it. So much can happen that can change things. If she mentions it next summer then just say. We're taking a we'll see approach and go from there. Most people get the hint if after 2-3 months you're not pg that it's harder then you thougt and back down a bit. If they don't then have a simple conversation that says it's taking longer then you thought a nd that you really can't talk about it because it's upsetting. If she's a real friend she'll understand. It's been my experience, though, that having a few friends that "get it" has helped me. They understand i'm frustrated and upset so they offer help not a string of it'll happen, or just relax

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I can totally relate to this...I have a tendency to open up my big mouth too. I don't want to talk about it but when the topic comes up i just naturally say what's going on! I don't think I'd be able to keep it a secret anyway...I am a bit of a party girl so now that I will be more careful my friends will know right away...oh well! We'll see what happens

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Posted by PennyCat

I'm a little annoyed with myself.

I with friends this week catching up and the conversation of when we would start to TTC came up and I said approximately when we plan to start ... but now I wish I didn't give such detailed information- especially if it doesn't happen right away


I'm not looking for a bunch of responses from people saying "Oh I didn't tell ANYONE my TTC plans" because then I will only feel like more of an idiot

I just wanted to vent.

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Posted by Angelheart

Posted by PennyCat

I'm a little annoyed with myself.

I with friends this week catching up and the conversation of when we would start to TTC came up and I said approximately when we plan to start ... but now I wish I didn't give such detailed information- especially if it doesn't happen right away


I'm not looking for a bunch of responses from people saying "Oh I didn't tell ANYONE my TTC plans" because then I will only feel like more of an idiot

I just wanted to vent.

I did this also except I was pregnant and had a miscarriage and I was very embarrassed. That was the worst part. It seemed like it was more about me opening my mouth and telling everyone than actually having the miscarriage. I had to answer all the questions. It was horrible.

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I initially thought i wasn't going to tell anyone as well.. but i found myself telling my 2 girlfriends because i really wanted to share what i am going through - they don't pry about it when we talk, they wait for me to bring it up.
Neither of them live in this area, so we don't see each other in person very often, so it's not like i have to deal with people looking to see if i'm drinking or not when we go out and constantly asking about it.

Don't stress too much about it, your real friends will know when is a good time to ask you about it - and if you feel like being coy about it.. just tell them that your plans have changed, or that you guys are waiting to see what happens and not aggressively trying. You can always throw them off by saying you've decided to wait a bit if they keep asking.

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Posted by Otherme

I initially thought i wasn't going to tell anyone as well.. but i found myself telling my 2 girlfriends because i really wanted to share what i am going through - they don't pry about it when we talk, they wait for me to bring it up.
Neither of them live in this area, so we don't see each other in person very often, so it's not like i have to deal with people looking to see if i'm drinking or not when we go out and constantly asking about it.

Don't stress too much about it, your real friends will know when is a good time to ask you about it - and if you feel like being coy about it.. just tell them that your plans have changed, or that you guys are waiting to see what happens and not aggressively trying. You can always throw them off by saying you've decided to wait a bit if they keep asking.

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It's not a big deal...

If you are honest with it: you'd be surprised how many people you will find who are in similar stages...and may be good listeners.

Once we started talking about it...and thinking about it: the people who we knew who were married for as long as us w. no baby....started looking like they may be trying too. We also ask people "how long did it take?" That will open up doors for conversation too.

Before we were thinking about it...I would ask people & never really care or talk about it.

It's all based on your mentality.
But don't worry...def no catastrophe.

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Posted by PennyCat

Maybe I can convince DH that we should TTC tomorrow so hopefully I'll get pg and we can REALLY throw people off! (Since I told my friends NEXT summer!)