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BaroqueMama
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Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
you have to stay home from work to take care of DC? Ava's sick, and even though JT is home during the day, she was up all night and so were both of us, he only got home from work an hour before she woke up, so he didn't sleep at all. He's also not feeling well himself, so I stayed home from work so he could sleep and I could take care of Ava, but I feel miserably guilty that I'm not at work. My boss just emailed me a thank you for the heads up that I wasn't going to be in and to take good care of Ava, so it's not like he's making me feel guilty, but I feel like it's always a lose/lose situation, I feel guilty when I go to work and she's sick because I should be taking care of her and now I feel guilty staying home. I just want ONE guilt-free day. Being a mom has just made me feel so incredibly inadequate on so many levels.
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Bxgell2
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
I used to. Particularly with my old job because they would make me feel guilty by sending a gazillion emails a day, or calling me to harass me about this or that case.
But, with my new job, no, I don't. I adapted to the lifestyle here - which is, you work your arse off when you are at work, but your family is ALWAYS the priority, and if you have the time, it is yours to spend, without harassment and without guilt, however you like, even if it's at the last minute. And I figure, really, in the grand scheme of things, the world won't stop because I'm out (even though I'd like to think it will).
It definitely took me a good 6 months to feel this way though...
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| Posted 2/27/08 9:28 AM |
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BaroqueMama
Chase is one!
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
I think I would feel better if we had sick days or personal days I could use. While I'll still get paid for not being there, it's kind of the honor system, and I know that other people are picking up my classes since we don't do subs in my school. I don't know, I guess I just need to get over it, huh?
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| Posted 2/27/08 9:30 AM |
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LInative
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
Yes, I can 100% sympathize w/where you're coming from. I feel a tad less guilty when I'm home w/him sick because I feel that's where I "should" be (and I can log on while he's sleeping if he lets me). But then there's a mountain of work waiting for when I get back. Oh well. Family comes first! Try not to let it get to you 
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| Posted 2/27/08 9:31 AM |
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2BEANS
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
Yeah i feel bad, i was supposed to work today, and called in b/c dd woke up with a rash all over her face. Im not sure if reaction to oatmeal or lotion or a virus. I feel bad calling in, but I would feel a hel l of alot worse, if I was at work and something else was to happen to DD. A job is replacable, my dd is not.
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| Posted 2/27/08 9:33 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
Posted by prncss
I think I would feel better if we had sick days or personal days I could use. While I'll still get paid for not being there, it's kind of the honor system, and I know that other people are picking up my classes since we don't do subs in my school. I don't know, I guess I just need to get over it, huh?
Yeah, that would definitely make me feel uncomfortable - people ALWAYS abuse the honor system and I would never want anyone to think I was one of the abusers. It's easier for me because I have a certain number of days I'm entitled to. But, still, I mean, you're obviously not an abuser - and the honor system is exactly for the kind of situation you're in today, where your family is sick. Try not to let it eat you up inside - your family needs you and that's all that matters. You know in your heart you're a great worker, so no worries!
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| Posted 2/27/08 9:33 AM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
As a working mom I feel like i am not giving my job 100% nor my child. However, whenever DS is sick I make it a point to be with him---this is what matters!! not work
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| Posted 2/27/08 9:33 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
I only work part time, but I work for myself, so if I can't be at work I have to cancel classes and then make them up. There's really only been one time when I knew I just coudn't go to work, and thankfully my mom went and taught for me. Luckily, since I work part time, if DS is really sick I can be home with him untis 3pm, and DH can come home early.
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| Posted 2/27/08 9:39 AM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
I don't feel bad, the law here says I am entitled to have a day off. I just keep in touch with work in case they need me.
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| Posted 2/27/08 9:59 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
Yes, I do. I always feel guilty taking off. It's lousy to be made to feel this way by your employers and/or yourself.
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| Posted 2/27/08 10:01 AM |
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michele31
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
I would feel more guilt if I left my sick child. My children need me more than my job does on any given day. The work will get done. It will be there for you the next day.
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| Posted 2/27/08 10:14 AM |
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Lucky
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
Posted by prncss
I think I would feel better if we had sick days or personal days I could use. While I'll still get paid for not being there, it's kind of the honor system, and I know that other people are picking up my classes since we don't do subs in my school. I don't know, I guess I just need to get over it, huh?
That's different. I never heard of a school where there weren't an allotted amount of sick/personal days.
Honestly, since having DD, nothing that I do with her makes me feel guilty about missing anything else. It's just my mindset that she is my obligation....other things can and will wait.
I hope Ava feels better. Don't beat yourself up over this. You are a great mom who really recognizes the immediate needs of her family!!!
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| Posted 2/27/08 10:15 AM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
Posted by prncss
you have to stay home from work to take care of DC? Ava's sick, and even though JT is home during the day, she was up all night and so were both of us, he only got home from work an hour before she woke up, so he didn't sleep at all. He's also not feeling well himself, so I stayed home from work so he could sleep and I could take care of Ava, but I feel miserably guilty that I'm not at work. My boss just emailed me a thank you for the heads up that I wasn't going to be in and to take good care of Ava, so it's not like he's making me feel guilty, but I feel like it's always a lose/lose situation, I feel guilty when I go to work and she's sick because I should be taking care of her and now I feel guilty staying home. I just want ONE guilt-free day. Being a mom has just made me feel so incredibly inadequate on so many levels.
Right there with you. I feel like I have to be 100% for so many things in my life, yet I just can't be. It's soo hard..most days I feel like I'm ready to break down.
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| Posted 2/27/08 10:27 AM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
YES!!! But, you have to do what you have to do.
The funny thing is that DH is sick. He made sure to tell me 10 times in 10 minutes this morning (in addition to the 20 times he told me last night and the 5 times he took his temperature and told me he had a fever  ). ANYWAY...he is taking a 1/2 day today. when I take a 1/2 day or take off because I'm sick, I still have to watch Steven. But, what does he do? Leaves him by my moms. why can't I do that?
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| Posted 2/27/08 10:28 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
Not really. She needs me when she is sick and work will be there when I get back. I might feel worried about my job and what it might do to my corporate work image when I take a day because she sick but not guilt per se because I know it is the right thing to do and wouldn't think twice.
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| Posted 2/27/08 10:33 AM |
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krwm
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
I'm in the city two days a week the rest from home. Today I had to stay home bc ds was up most of the night. I email my two bosses to let them know and get no response.
I don't feel guilty but I feel as though they could respond and let me know its fine or if its a problem.
But no I don't feel guilty.
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| Posted 2/27/08 10:38 AM |
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gpsyeyes
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Re: Working moms, do you feel guilty when...
Posted by Bxgell2
I used to. Particularly with my old job because they would make me feel guilty by sending a gazillion emails a day, or calling me to harass me about this or that case.
But, with my new job, no, I don't. I adapted to the lifestyle here - which is, you work your arse off when you are at work, but your family is ALWAYS the priority, and if you have the time, it is yours to spend, without harassment and without guilt, however you like, even if it's at the last minute. And I figure, really, in the grand scheme of things, the world won't stop because I'm out (even though I'd like to think it will).
It definitely took me a good 6 months to feel this way though...
Can I work where you do?!! I left a job this year for one that was supposed to have that mentality, but the first time I had to take off for my sick baby, I was given flack about it! I'm looking for a new, family friendly firm!
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