work/pregnancy question/vent.....

.....so, i love what i do for a living, but i hate my office. i started this job weeks before I got my BFP, and immediately knew the office was not going to work out---but stayed at the job thinking i could 'tough it out' until i had the baby....if i could go back to my old job i would, but we moved out of state.
so my gut feeling now is i must quit this job......im so miserable, its starting to affect DH & I. im just scared about getting a job already pregnant (i know they can't discriminate....) & also how this 'short stint' will look on my resume. i know there are so many worse things in life and i am very blessed, but it just sux. thanks for letting me vent

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Can you and your DH survive on his salary and benefits?

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I don't know...even though companies can't technically discriminate, they do. I would be prepared to leave your job, and not work until after the baby is born.

If you can afford to live on one salary I say go for it. But I think it's risky to assume you can find another job being pregnant already. JMHO

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Here is the problem: if you start working for someone now who has FMLA, you will not qualify for it, therefore they don't have to keep your job open.

I, too, toughed it out at a job I hated and where they TORTURED me during my entire (very painful) pregnancy. I went out at 36 weeks, using my accumulated sick and vacation time, I was exactly 38 weeks when they fired me. I was not protected by FMLA b.c even though I had been there 3+ years, there were only 6 people in the office.

Be realistic if you can really survive on DH's salary and benefits. We were dependant on my salary, but I have DH's benefits, so with unemployment, we do ok.

It succks, I know

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This is tough. It sounds as if you need to leave the job for your health and the baby's. It's no good to work at a job where you are truly unhappy and there is too much stress.

You could try to find a new job, but while employers technically cannot discriminate, I do think many would in this case. And then there could be issues with your leave if they don't have enough staff for FMLA.

That said, I guess it all depends on how DH and you can do financially.If you can afford to not work until DC is born, I would take that option. Especially if you can get on DHs insurance. Do that before you quit your job.

Good luck!

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I too am pregnant and have been interviewing in order to leave and not commute up to 2 hours a day. I have a 17 month old and it sucks to be so far away.....

I haven't disclosed the pregnancy - it's just slow market in LI for what I do....

I definately won't get FMLA at this point and therefore would be forced to go back after 6 weeks of disablity. Also, I get 6 weeks FULL PAY when I am out so, do I want to give that up..........

I'm not a fan of my job at all and once they find out that I am pregnant they are going to freak out and I know that it will get hostile. It did the first time - now what????

Companies can not discriminate but realistically it's hard to prove and if you can, is that how you want to start a new role.

I say try to get through the pregnancy or quit and stay home until afterwards...

I'm sorry you are in this predicament.

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I'd look for a new job, and be honest on your interviews in hopes someone will bite.

Say your unhappy where you are, you love what you do, your pregnant and are looking just to work in a friendly/happy environment until the baby comes. Tell them you don't "expect" anything extra from them w/being pregnant...you just are looking for a better workplace, some income, and perhaps if it works out, a nice place to come back to after the baby is born.

It can't hurt to look!!

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If you can afford it - quit, and worry about a new job after the baby comes. If anyone questions the "short stint" on your resume, tell them you left b/c of your pregnancy and didn't think it was fair to burden your coworkers with your responsibilites due to difficulties (or whatever) that required you to take time off.