Those with stubborn spirited toddlers-age 2 and up

Time outs are not working with this kid..my 2 year old is going to age me 10 years asap!

My three year old, she did well with time outs, now even the threat of it stops her dead in her tracks...i also count to 3 and that gets her moving..but the 2 year old...she's so defiant, stubborn and has quite the temper. I swear i see this streak down her back and her horns come up and i know G and I are in for it! :)

She hits, pulls hair, bites, pushes, yells at me, openly defies me-mild ex-don't throw that, she'll look at me and throw it..another..she'll get in trouble for pulling her sisters hair-automatic TO, then she'll refuse to say sorry to me or G and be okay with going back in TO or she'll do the sorrys and go right back to doing whatever violent thing she wants back at her sister.

Timeouts are just not working for her, basically i'm looking for suggestions on alternative discipline methods..Cause what worked for my 3 year old is DEF not working for my 2 year old!

Help! This kid is driving me to drink! j/k

Re: Those with stubborn spirited toddlers-age 2 and up

Would taking some things away from her help?

Like a toy?

How about a chart? Stars for when shes good and when she gets a timeout, no star...10 stars get a prize?


Im finding that timeouts work for us and she does say sorry but I think its their personality and phase for now and something that will eventually calm down.. SOON!

Re: Those with stubborn spirited toddlers-age 2 and up

Posted by Smileyd17

Would taking some things away from her help?

Like a toy?

How about a chart? Stars for when shes good and when she gets a timeout, no star...10 stars get a prize?


Im finding that timeouts work for us and she does say sorry but I think its their personality and phase for now and something that will eventually calm down.. SOON!

Re: Those with stubborn spirited toddlers-age 2 and up

Ohhhhhhhhhhh MY DD lies too.

If I yell at her, she RUNS to daddy and tells him, MOMMY hit me!

So of course I yell back, keep lying and I will hit you

I know..its hell right now.

it ends soon!


GL!

Re: Those with stubborn spirited toddlers-age 2 and up

I feel ya!!! I am there!!

First I bought this book "Setting Limits for a Strong Willed Child". Honestly the book is not going to teach you anything you don't already know but it will help in being more aware of your childs behavior and your own behavior.

Stick with the times outs but use a timer. Buy one if you don't have one.

The object of the game is to make her know that what you say is not optional.

This applies to everything you say. You can give her choices but you MUST follow through, if you don't she will consider your request as an option.

The screamming is her dramatic display of trying to suck you into another showdown. Remember that because in the beginning she will think the time out are a joke (becaiuse they probably are to her). Try to think about Super nanny for those, you set the timer you put her in her room, she SLAMS the door shut, she screams at you, she throws her toys (don't react to her drama), when she comes out, put her back and simply state now your time will start over. I promise this will continue and maybe for a few days but DO NOT let up. WHen her time out is over simply tell her (or let her hear the buzzer) and let her out of her room.

When you are out, STOP what you are doing and bring her outside. Talk about a shock to her system. I did this with DS last week, he acted up in a deli, I took him outside and told him we will not go back in until he cools down and uses his listening ears. He carried on I stuck to my words, we went in about 10 minutes later sat down and ate lunch.

It is wearing and hard but if your DD is the type who has to test everything you say then you need to make sure she knows what the answer is going to be. Over time she will test less (but I don't think they ever truelly stop).