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btrflygrl
me and baby #3!
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Shana
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Sort of parenting related....
DH had 2 days off in a row.....he's been cleaning since he made breakfast this AM....
I feel like THE worst wife/housekeeper/mother.....
part of his OCD's is clutter....I had no idea he'd wake up at night because it bothered him so much
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Posted 4/14/08 1:30 PM  |
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KPtoys
I'm getting old
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Karen
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Re: Sort of parenting related....
 Mine would do the same. Don't feel bad. You are a fantastic mother, that is why your house is a mess. You worry about and take care of the more important things
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| Posted 4/14/08 1:37 PM |
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Janice
Sweet Jessie Quinn
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Janice
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Re: Sort of parenting related....
Posted by btrflygrl
I feel like THE worst wife/housekeeper/mother.....
get this out of you head and tell yourself that you have THE best husband/provider/father.
He's pitching in because he's a great man.
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| Posted 4/14/08 1:38 PM |
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Porrruss
Nya nya nya
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Amy
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Re: Sort of parenting related....
Shana- we all have *our thing*. Mine is DEFINITELY not being a housewife. My poor DH is always the one cleaning. AND he is usually the one to cook dinner. I tell him all the time that he is "the BEST wife."
That said, I am the one who does the brunt of the childcare when we are both home.
Don't feel bad at all. What I find is helpful on my guilty conscience is telling him how much I appreciate all that he does-he really seems to like that.
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| Posted 4/14/08 1:39 PM |
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Eireann
Two ladies and a gentleman!
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Re: Sort of parenting related....
My DH and I sound the same. I think if anyone came into my home they wouldn't think it was dirty or cluttered, etc. but my DH does. He says I have a "higher tolerance for squalor"  I say wouldn't it be boring if we were all the same? 
Anyway, last week, for the 1st time in 4 years of marriage, he came home unexpectedly in the middle of the day for something. And wouldn't you know it...the house IS a wreck (toys, books, puzzles) and I'm exhausted, laying on the couch watching Sesame Street with Kate--which is like the 1st time I'd ever done that. He just laughed, but I felt SOOO guilty. I told my mom and she said, "Erin, you stay at home to spend time with your children, NOT clean your house." Which is like one of the only supportive things she's ever said ...so...I'll take it and you know what...it's true!!
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| Posted 4/14/08 1:43 PM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Mommy
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Re: Sort of parenting related....
Posted by Janice
Posted by btrflygrl
I feel like THE worst wife/housekeeper/mother.....
get this out of you head and tell yourself that you have THE best husband/provider/father.
He's pitching in because he's a great man.
Exactly shana You must be so tired and exhausted being pg, tending to a toddler an infant.
You are a great mommy and he's a great father/husband.
Your a great team!
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| Posted 4/14/08 1:43 PM |
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littlejoy06
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Re: Sort of parenting related....
My DH is JUST like that. I told him, hey we were together for 13 years, if you don't like it, clean it yourself. 
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| Posted 4/14/08 2:00 PM |
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Claud
LIF Adolescent
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Claudine
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Re: Sort of parenting related....
Posted by KPtoys
Mine would do the same. Don't feel bad. You are a fantastic mother, that is why your house is a mess. You worry about and take care of the more important things
Can I get an AMEN?? This is *so* true....the kids come first...that is what makes you a great Mom. The house just has to wait sometimes.
HUGS....stop berating yourself or the job you do. The fact is, the "success" of how well you do your job is measured in the smiles your children show on their beautiful faces!
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| Posted 4/14/08 2:06 PM |
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bicosi
life is a carousel
Member since 7/07 14956 total posts
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M
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Re: Sort of parenting related....
Posted by Janice
Posted by btrflygrl
I feel like THE worst wife/housekeeper/mother.....
get this out of you head and tell yourself that you have THE best husband/provider/father.
He's pitching in because he's a great man.
Agreed! if he were an a$$hole, he'd complain about it, instead, he's helping you out and taking care of it himself. Enjoy this and be happy about it! It's a team effort in raising children and holding down a household.
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| Posted 4/14/08 2:13 PM |
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SuzyQ
Mama to 3!?!?!?
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Susan
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Re: Sort of parenting related....
My DH is the SAME EXACT way. We argue about the clutter constantly. Do NOT feel bad about that!!! Seriously, you are a wonderful mom. Cleaning is so not important. You spend your time on the much more important stuff (raising your kids.) And, like Janice said, be glad you have a DH who will help out with the cleaning. Mine would help too if only he had the time...  (or so he says ) He works too much to have any time to help me with stuff like that.
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| Posted 4/14/08 2:14 PM |
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jules
Changing everyday
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julia
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Re: Sort of parenting related....
And you feel bad because???????
You do take care of two young children no?
Sorry i wouldn't feel bad for one second that the DH was cleaning. But that is me
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| Posted 4/14/08 5:57 PM |
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Melbernai
I am a lucky Momma!
Member since 7/05 15652 total posts
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Melissa
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Re: Sort of parenting related....
DOOOOD ----
Send him over HERE!!!!!
I was just looking around thinking----man, between all the toys, plus DH's stuff.....this place is so cluttered and none of it is mine!!!!
This is when you should say "Man, I love my DH and his OCD!"
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| Posted 4/14/08 6:01 PM |
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