Question for BFing Moms

A little back story first - this past weekend I was talking to my SIL, we got on the topic of BFing, she tells me a story about her SIL who kept a bottle of breastmilk in her freezer for a year after she weened her son and only threw it away when he husband made her. She was telling the story as if it was gross and creepy.

I told her I could understand how it could happen, it's a phase that can be sad to see come to an end. DS is nursing less now since he has moved to solids and at first I was a little sad about the change.

Then she says, you know they tell you shouldn't get attached to breast feeding. I was really suprised by this, first no one has ever said that to me and second I couldn't imagine NOT being attached to breastfeeding.

Has anyone else heard this, what are your thoughts?

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Thanks for the reply, that's really how I feel as well. As much as I love to see DS grow and learn, I was a little sad when he moved into size 2 diapers

It just the way she said it has just been bugging me all week, I kept wondering if I am turning him into a Mamma's boy or something

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I have no clue who "they" are she is speaking of but no one ever said that to me... I agree with you, how can you not be attatched

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I was very attached to BFing and was bummed when DD self weaned. BFing is just one very important way of bonding with DC.

Not really sure why she would say that.

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I think it would be hard not to get attached to BFing but I enjoyed it. I have a friend who didn’t enjoy it and it’s more of a chore so I guess it’s all your perspective. I was sad when BF ended for us. When we have another I plan to try and keep it up longer.

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Stopping BFing was bittersweet for me. I stopped EBFing my DD 3-4 months ago and just this week I threw out some BM that I found in the freezer.

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BM comes from hard work and sweat. I would freak if 1/2 oz would be wasted.

I found a FORGOTTEN bag of frozen BM way after I had weaned DS. It was bitter sweet. IMO, 1 year is a bit long to keep BM if you have not been BFing for that long. But I am not them either so it's really up to them! And none of my business really. For me, the sentimental attachment would not pass 3 months.

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I think if we weren't "attached" to it we'd have no reason to do it. I excliusively pumped and was sad that I had to give it up(my supply dipped when I got AF 5 months PP) I still squeeze my bbs to see if milk comes out-it does

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I was miserable the first 2 or 3 weeks bf'ing and when I finally started being able to pump more and get out and started working I found myself looking forward to coming home and nursing her. the one day I thought I was losing my milk supply I got so upset at the thought of not being able to bf feed her, it made me realize how sad I will be to eventually stop so I guess I'm attached to it too!

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I'm about to start weaning, and I'm much sadder than I thought I'd be.

Though I'm trying to look at the positive, it will be SO nice to be able to pull out some powder, throw it into a bottle and just give it to her.

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I was so excited about being done with BFing...but my big fear was that josh would not love me the same since the basis of our relationship was around the clock nursing.

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I don't understand how you can not get attached. I've never heard that. I nursed DD for 26 months & I felt sad when she weaned even though she self-weaned & I knew it was probably time anyway. It's a special time with your child that you never get back. I don't see why it's weird to feel sad or be attached?

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Thank you for the responses, I think part of why I was struck by what she said is that I know that I probably won't be BFing my DS for much longer and I am a little sad about that, not so sad that I'll keep breast milk in the freezer as a memento but sad because we don't plan to have another child; it really is bittersweet

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I have never heard that before.. but I will definitely be sad when DD no longer breastfeeds. I am totally attached and get sad even thinking about it. totally bittersweet...