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MrDeeNMe
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POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
I know that a lot of us are interested and look up to see what's going on with our bodies with every twinge and tweak... Do you share those feelings/concerns with your DH? If so, what's his usual response?
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Posted 8/1/08 11:00 AM  |
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Angel321
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
i don't really share my symptoms anymore, simply because the first month i mentally convinced myself that i was pregnant and AF showed - he was as upset as i was & didn't know what to do with his crying wife...
now - i just share with my ladies on here...
my temps though - he has taken an interest in those and he asks me every day what it is.
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| Posted 8/1/08 11:09 AM |
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futuremommy
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
How about all of the above?!?!?
Sometimes he asks about stuff and he definitely wants to know 'when it's time'. Mostly if I mention things without him asking, he doesn't really respond. But then every now and again I'll have a blowout - this month especially - about how I'm confused about my cyle, that he doesn't seem interested, etc. And his response is that he likes knowing what's going on with my body  He's very difficult to read, but the poor guy does what he's told when he's told to, so I guess I can't complain! 
I forgot to add that he thinks I'm crazy! Seriously, while he does think temping/OPKs are logical and the best way to get pg quickly, he thinks I'm way too technical about it all and usually tells me not to obsess/worry
Message edited 8/1/2008 11:19:10 AM.
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| Posted 8/1/08 11:11 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
i could have answered more than 1
i try not to tell him too much because he constantly tells me not to worry..
he does listen to me.. and sometimes he will answer and give me more feedback.. but usually its the (do not worry) comment..
he also says im on here too much and doesnt think it helps me 
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| Posted 8/1/08 11:12 AM |
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NoStressMom
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
His answer is as long as I do not become crazy and always talking about it and when we have to do it etc. then everything will be fine!! He doesn't want to feel pressured into when we have to BD and so on. SO I'm just gonna in my way make sure it does happen around the time we should be BD so that way I'm not stressing him out over this. Plus this was our first month of not being careful while we BD. I also know how I would be and I don't want it to be that way for him. I just want to take it one day at a time and see what God has in store for us!!
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| Posted 8/1/08 11:40 AM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
Pretty much the first 3 apply for me. Sometimes he's very interested (especially since I will be starting meds) and sometimes he pulls the wretched "it will happen, we have plenty of time" and sometimes he's completely uninterested and doesn't respond.
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| Posted 8/1/08 11:45 AM |
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TTCbaby
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
He says he is interested when I am talking about it but then he is usually halfway out the door to get away from it. He offers no advice of consoling of any sort, He just says to stop thinking about it and it will happen when it happens. I can't help but over anazlye everything and it would be nice to talk things out with him sometimes but he doesn't get as excited/nervous/crazy/upset as I do about it so it is kindof a let down because I start talking about it and then get mad that he isn't as into as me. That is why I am so thankful for you girls!!
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| Posted 8/1/08 12:18 PM |
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QueSeraSera
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
He is worse than me- so I am not telling him much of anything. The other day I was telling him that I was confused b/c I had a bit of spotting, and he started lecturing me about implantation spotting (he had done some online research.) Um, okay, except I haven't ovulated yet....
I have to laugh, though. Everytime I say I'm hot he's like, "really, because it's not hot in here at all! You must be pregnant!" He is totally setting himself up for disapointment and I refuse to be a party to it!
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| Posted 8/1/08 12:24 PM |
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maybeamommy
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
DH is very interested and asks lots of questions. Every morning he asks how my chart is looking and if my temps went up, and sometimes he'll look at my chart and ask about what is going on.
Over these 11 months, he has gotten to know a lot of the lingo too, and he asks how many days past ov I am and when I should test.
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| Posted 8/1/08 12:36 PM |
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
I vent alot about it and cry alot about it...He doesn't want to hear about it anymore...He says let's just see what happens and I am convinced that there is a problem
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| Posted 8/1/08 12:38 PM |
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futuremommy
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
Posted by maybeamommy
Over these 11 months, he has gotten to know a lot of the lingo too, and he asks how many days past ov I am and when I should test.
This just made me laugh - I had been away and just saw DH last night for the first time in over a week. he said to me "How're things, uh, down there" Talk about learning the lingo How romantic!
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| Posted 8/1/08 12:39 PM |
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wcs3504
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
He is a mix of the top 3 choices. We are so far into TTC without a BFP that I just tell him when I am at high, when I have an egg, and when I get the beatch! Every now and then I complain my back hurts, feel weird...and he does say maybe this is the month. Other than that I don't talk much about it with him. It upsets me especially if I have to take a test. 
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| Posted 8/1/08 12:57 PM |
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MrDeeNMe
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
Posted by hopeandfaith75
I vent alot about it and cry alot about it...He doesn't want to hear about it anymore...He says let's just see what happens and I am convinced that there is a problem
I'm in the same boat... unbeknownst to DH, I have been TTC "on my own" without DH knowing about the details (OPKs, charts, etc.), simply because I didn't want to involve him in that yet...
however, after 4 full cycles of TTC, I have made my efforts a bit more known around the house... unfortunately though, DH thinks that I am too literal in his words "trying to conceive" and "let's get PG by the end of the summer"... 
In fact, we just had a blow out fight about how I am obsessed with TTC and how I've made it a mission (when all I am doing are OPKs... and I don't push BD'ing on him... and he's never said "no"...) I've tried explaining to him that I have done my own TTC without his involvement and that after 4 months, I figured he should know what's going on...
Somehow, I'm still obsessing and "crazy"... IDK if it's worth it sometimes to talk to him about this - I feel like that if there's no support at this point... what's gonna happen down the road??? I mean, this is something that he (we) wanted since we first got married... and what is so wrong with trying to give him what he (we) want(s)???
These last four months have been an emotional train wreck for me (and I know I shouldn't complain since there are SO many more women TTC MUCH MUCH longer than we have) and I did my best to keep my composure around him and lose it in private... but now that he's in "the know", he doesn't want to know anything...
I can't talk to my mother or MIL since they both are crazy! MIL is grandbaby crazy... and mine... thinks I'm throwing my life down the sh*tter with idea of having a kid... (wonder what she thought when she had me???)
I feel so alone with this whole process... I don't know what to do... or think... or say... 
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| Posted 8/1/08 1:37 PM |
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maybeamommy
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
Each and everyone of these women on this board are here for you!
This is the place to come for support, venting, happy days, sad days... we are all here for you! 
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| Posted 8/1/08 1:41 PM |
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QueSeraSera
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
I am so sorry you are struggling with this. It is amazing how painful this process can be- I really had no idea before starting. If it's any consolation you can always vent on here- someone is always around that knows just how you feel!
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| Posted 8/1/08 1:41 PM |
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BlueDiamonds
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
the only thing my DH wants to hear is when i get the BFP. he has told me this up front and i am okay with it. i can ask questions and vent here and i also have a few people in IRL that know we are TTC that i can chat about it with.
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| Posted 8/1/08 1:42 PM |
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shiv
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Re: POLL: How often do you talk to DH about what's happening to you???
You forget the 'Other'- gags when i talk about what's happening with my body. Yeah, he's 5 years old.
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