PLEASE Help... I am going to lose my mind!!!!!

Cailen was finally sleeping through the night, and it looks like we are starting all over again....

He was even napping! I was posting on here about how happy I was...

I dont know if its because he is teething, but he is now fighting his naps. I didnt care because he was still sleeping though the night, but a few times this past week it was hard to get him down and keep him asleep, but last night he didn't go down until late... then was up from 11-1, and then woke up again at 4... He is still awake. I am too tired to deal with him - he only cries in the crib, but he is just a crank when he's his tired. This morning at 4, I was so tired.. I gave him his bottle, changed him, and he curled up against me to go to sleep. But when I put him down, he woke up. I was so tired, I decided to let him cry and see what happened. well, he carried onfor 15 minutes and I couldnt deal with it anymore, so it was downstairs, planted in front of Noggn once again... I feel like the worst mom planting him in front of the TV whenever he wont sleep and I'm too tired to hold him.... Since I'm off today, I need a break from him right now or I wont have the energy for him - he was so cranky and tired all day yesterday - I cant go thru that all day today alone...

I'm just venting. I think its worse when you get a taste of what sleeping thru the night feels like again.

and what really gets me is that DH is on baby duty tonight, and I know Cailen will go right down and sleep thru the night for him....

Message edited 10/8/2007 8:21:50 AM.

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TV doesn't make you a bad mom! And I hope for Cailen's sake and yours that he sleeps better today/tonight!

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He finally fell asleep at 7 - but its the kind of sleep where he just couldnt keep awake anymore - and he slept until 8!!!!

I am going to lose my mind!!! I was finally enjoying waking up to him every morning, and now I don't know what to do....

I put his mobile on, and I listened - he cries, and is quiet... then he will scream... cry, and then get quiet....

He just keeps fighting the sleep off and I can't go thru this all day... WHYYYYY is he doing this??????

How long can I let him cry for?????? Can I let him just cry and scream for an hour????? Hours???? How long do you ladies let your DC cry when he is just refusing to sleep? He is fed, changed, he just wants to sleep in my arms - but he is 6 mts old and I cant do that with him everynight - I'm lucky I took today off, but if I had to go to work today I would not be able to function...

I'm losing it here because I dealt with this until he was 5 mts old... I thought we were going in the right direction, and now its like he is 5 weeks old all over again....

If I can only get another hour of sleep, I'd be able to do this.... but I cant....

Message edited 10/8/2007 8:23:37 AM.

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Re: PLEASE Help... I am going to lose my mind!!!!!

IMO he is getting used to you holding him while he sleeps. You need your sleep and your sanity too. he is old enough now where you can let him do a modified CIO. I would put him in his crib and let him cry for 3 min., try to soothe him and calm him down, let him cry for 4 min., etc. It will take a week or so but he NEEDS to get used to sleeping in his crib. I went through this with DS when we transitioned to the crib. It does get better but you have to be strong and be the boss, don't let him be your boss!

ETA: It is very possible he is teething. I would give him some infant tylenol before bed also. What time is his last bottle?

Message edited 10/8/2007 8:29:29 AM.

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I just started the CIO at 10 months. I tried it at 9 but I just couldn't follow through. MrsR encouraged me that I WILL see results and she is right. It's hard, but I found myself getting mad at her and being mean to her out of exhaustion when I had work the next day. There are different cries where I just have to go in, but even now that she caught on to what I was doing and cooperates she will still do that hysterical cry for a minute or so. I watch her in the video monitor and see her stop for a second to bend down and pick up her angel so I know it's fake.

It's HARD, but like everyone says, it does get easier and she sleeps SO much better when she puts herself to sleep. When DH rocks her to sleep (and she won't go down for him because she knows he'll pick her up) she wakes up a lot during the night. I never had to do it for an hour. Maybe 25-30 minutes tops and I would go in every now and then. Usually after the 3rd trip in, she'd give up. The first week was the worst. Now either she'll lie right down, or cry for a few minutes and then lays herself down.

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I dont know what to do - I feel like this has been a patetrn and he knows I will go in and get him, and then he's FINE!!! He smiles and laughs, but he's exhausted and can't even function....

I am downstairs with the monitor off so at at least the screaming isn't so loud.... He keeps screaming, then crying, then stops... sometimes he stops for a few seconds, sometimes a minute, but the when he realizes he is asleep he screams and tries to keep screaming.....

WHY is he doing this??????? I am just going to leave him in his crib all morning... ntohign can happen from him screaming it out and maybe he will exhaust himself and get back into a napping and sleeping pattern for the rest of the day.....

I wish he was going to daycare so they could deal with him today.....



i was so looking forward to this day off with him too, and then this sleep thing happened all over again. I swear mornings were such a pleasure - he would sleep thru the night, "talk" to himself in the morning, and then I would get him and we would play together before his bath.... Now I'm so fed up with him because he has been doing this for so many days in a row....

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Totally get your frustration...Lucas has been sleeping through the night but last night was up at 2am - 4am. We have work today so both DH and I were crying. I hope that daycare wipes him out today so we can get back on track.

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He is def used to you picking him up. DD still stands up and gets her doll thinking maybe I'm coming to rescue them. I just say I love you, night night and leave and she screams but then lays down rather quickly. You almost have to retrain him. I feel like my mother ruins my hard work sometimes because she doesn't let her cry it out when she's watching her. So she gets confused when we are back home.

I would turn the monitor off and STILL hear the screaming really loud that's how bad it was, but I promise it DOES get better. I even thought she was one of those babies you can't do CIO for. Now I'm mentally okay with letting her cry somewhat because I know she is tired and that she is not hurt or in pain, just upset. And when she wakes up, she's always all smiles, so they don't hold grudges!

I too had days where I looked forward to going to work, just so I wouldn't have to deal with it. Then I would feel so guilty for even feeling that way. You will be happier and he will be happier if you just sort of retrain him.

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No advice since DD is still not sleeping through the night, but I can definitely relate to going insane from lack of sleep. It's the one thing I really can say I hate about motherhood.....the sleepless nights really get to me....I start to feel like I am losing my mind. I would try CIO......the first few times are really hard, but as long as you know he's not hungry, he's changed, etc...and there is nothing else you can do for him....good luck

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OK - I just went upstairs - he was so hysterical that he was still shaking when he saw me

And, the 1st thing he did was smile and laugh!!!!!

I shhhed him, rubbed his hot little face (hot from all the screaming) and rubbed his hair... the whole time he is smiling, giggling, AND then going into "boo boo lip" (that big adorable pouty face) - he just lay there looking at me, but when he realized he wasnt escaping, he began crying again... I put on the mobile again, and stayed with him a bit while he watched it - he looked at me so suspiciously, like he knew it was my exit strategy....

He cried for a bit more, then is doing the quiet for a few seconds, crying thing - but the intensity and loudness is slowing down.... That doesnt mean anything though, he can easily work his way up to a loud screaming fit in a split second.... I am DETERMINED to get him back down for a morning nap if it takes me until noon to do it!!!! I refuse to klet him go the whole day without sleeping like yesterday!!!

Message edited 10/8/2007 8:44:23 AM.

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And back to the loud prolonged screaming.... I don't understand how a baby can go without sleep for so long!!! I would like to b!tch slap the writers of those baby books that say babies need - what?18 hours of sleep???? This kid has not slept for more than 3 hours in a row until he was 5 mts old, and that only lasted for a month....

Message edited 10/8/2007 8:53:52 AM.

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

OK - I just went upstairs - he was so hysterical that he was still shaking when he saw me

And, the 1st thing he did was smile and laugh!!!!!

I shhhed him, rubbed his hot little face (hot from all the screaming) and rubbed his hair... the whole time he is smiling, giggling, AND then going into "boo boo lip" (that big adorable pouty face) - he just lay there looking at me, but when he realized he wasnt escaping, he began crying again... I put on the mobile again, and stayed with him a bit while he watched it - he looked at me so suspiciously, like he knew it was my exit strategy....

He cried for a bit more, then is doing the quiet for a few seconds, crying thing - but the intensity and loudness is slowing down.... That doesnt mean anything though, he can easily work his way up to a loud screaming fit in a split second.... I am DETERMINED to get him back down for a morning nap if it takes me until noon to do it!!!! I refuse to klet him go the whole day without sleeping like yesterday!!!

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It could definitley be teething. A few weeks ago, all of a sudden, Bryan woke up every night for a week straight screaming! I would apply the orajel, give him an oz or 2 of a bottle, he would still cry. I was so tired, I just took him into bed with us.
Lo and behold, 5 days later, his bottom tooth appeared. Now, we are back to sleeping through the night. Im nervous about how it will be waiting for all the other teeth to cut through.

Im sorry this is happening. You are NOT a bad mom. You do what you have to do.

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I have no advice being that Thomas has many sleep issues himself, but I just wanted to tell you that I know exactly how you feel!!

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poor baby, It sounds like teething. I hope you both get some rest tonight

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Thanks ladies.... I feel so guilty getting this upset - I went back up again, and again he is smiling and giggling... he's so cute, and I realize I'm not mad or resentful of him, just tired and worried that I'm not doing the right thing... We have no been going through this for a good hour and I am seeing no sign of him slowing down and falling asleep. I cant listen to him doing this anymore... I am caving and going to get him....

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Message edited 10/8/2007 9:11:18 AM.

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Give it time. I remember one night, I swear she was crying on and off the whole night but I was so tired I just couldn't keep going in. And I was actually able to sleep through it. It will get better!