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jam11308
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Party etiquette question
DS' 1st b-day is 9/9 & we'll be away that week. After having tons of parties/showers/etc the past 3 years, we don't want to do a party for him & have people feel obligated to get him gifts. However, I still want to acknowledge it & would like to have a cake & get some pics of him w/the family. Sooo, DH & I were thinking of doing a family BBQ in late August & just doing a cake & singing to him at dessert time. My mom thinks some people may be put-off that we didn't tell them it's "for his birthday" beforehand & may feel embarrassed that they didn't get him anything. The thing is, we don't want them to! Would you feel ambushed/put-off if you were a guest or do you think it's ok to just do a cake unannounced at the end?
ETA: We can't do a party/BBQ after his b-day/our vacation because my parents will be going away for 3 weeks...
Message edited 6/29/2010 9:54:13 AM.
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Posted 6/29/10 9:53 AM  |
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ali120206
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Re: Party etiquette question
I think it's a good idea based on your reasoning.
If the people want to give him a gift, they can still give him something closer to his birthday.
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| Posted 6/29/10 9:57 AM |
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capricorn75
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Re: Party etiquette question
I think it's fine. We are doing something similar, bbq with a cake for DS's elementary school moving up but it's not a graduation party, no gifts.
If it's family, chances are they'll give him a gift for his birthday anyway, even if they send something closer to his actual birthday.
If it makes you feel better, just mention that you'll be having a cake for your son's birthday. That's what we're doing. I'm telling family that it's just a bbq, but that I'm having a cake for DS because "any excuse for cake".
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| Posted 6/29/10 9:58 AM |
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MrsPowers
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Re: Party etiquette question
I think that is totally fine! Sounds like a good idea.
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| Posted 6/29/10 10:01 AM |
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BethanyLynn
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Re: Party etiquette question
If it makes you feel better, just mention that you'll be having a cake for your son's birthday. That's what we're doing. I'm telling family that it's just a bbq, but that I'm having a cake for DS because "any excuse for cake".
I would do this.
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| Posted 6/29/10 10:02 AM |
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dpli
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Re: Party etiquette question
For close family, I would be bringing the child a gift anyway, whether you told me you were having a cake for him or not. I don't always see my nieces and nephews for their birthdays, but I always give them a gift the next time I do see them.
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| Posted 6/29/10 10:04 AM |
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jam11308
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Re: Party etiquette question
Posted by BethanyLynn
If it makes you feel better, just mention that you'll be having a cake for your son's birthday. That's what we're doing. I'm telling family that it's just a bbq, but that I'm having a cake for DS because "any excuse for cake".
I would do this.
This is a nice idea - thanks! We'll be doing an informal Evite, so I'm sure that I can squeeze that somewhere on there 
Thanks everyone!
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