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mamabear
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Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
ok- here's my situation. My shower is next Sunday--9/21. FH's mom is flying in from Colorado just for the shower (Thurs-Mon) and will be flying out again for DD's birthday late Nov/early Dec. I have a dr appmt 9/19. We invited FH's mom to the dr appmt since she will be here and will be staying with us. Nobody has come to or been invited to any dr appmts so far. Should I invite my mom to this appointment as well? They have never met before, so they would be meeting for the first time at the dr appointment, as opposed to dinner later that night or the next day. We have a sono (which I'm kind of ok with people being there for, unless they need to do an internal sono to check my cervix) followed by regular dr appmt, where I don't want anyone except FH in the room WWYD? Should I invite my mom to the appointment as well?
Message edited 9/11/2008 11:29:53 AM.
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kerrycec03
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Re: Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
we brought both moms to the Level II sono. Then I had them wait in the waiting room during my doc's apt after. Its a huge thrill for grandmas to be!
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| Posted 9/11/08 11:36 AM |
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ruby
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Re: Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
I say yes, it might be awkward at first since they've never met, but I'm sure they will bond quickly over such a joyous occasion!!!
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| Posted 9/11/08 11:48 AM |
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NinaLemon
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Re: Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
I would invite your mom, it is a really special moment and I think it would be great to share with both of them.
It will also be a fun and exciting way for the Moms to meet. 
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| Posted 9/11/08 11:49 AM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
I personally don't invite anyone to my appointments. It's just not my thing. That being said is your mom the type that will be upset MIL got to go and she didn't? Can your mom go to a different appointment? To me having DH and 2 parents would be overwhelming.
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| Posted 9/11/08 11:49 AM |
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mamabear
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Re: Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
Posted by monkeybride
I personally don't invite anyone to my appointments. It's just not my thing. That being said is your mom the type that will be upset MIL got to go and she didn't? Can your mom go to a different appointment? To me having DH and 2 parents would be overwhelming.
Yes, my mom is definitely the type that would be upset. I also think it might be overwhelming for me, but I'm thinking I should just suck it up to avoid any hurt feelings. My mom could go to a different appointment, but she would probably be upset that she didn't get invited first when she lives here. I also prefer not having anyone additional at the appointments (it's a bonding moment for me and FH) so part of me wants to get it over with in one appointment, even if this one appointment ends up being a little stressful.
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| Posted 9/11/08 11:57 AM |
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kerrycec03
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Re: Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
dont' worry, having them there won't be stressful. Its a happy thing and you'll look back and be greatful you invited them once you see their faces!!
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| Posted 9/11/08 12:07 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
Posted by mamabear
Posted by monkeybride
I personally don't invite anyone to my appointments. It's just not my thing. That being said is your mom the type that will be upset MIL got to go and she didn't? Can your mom go to a different appointment? To me having DH and 2 parents would be overwhelming.
Yes, my mom is definitely the type that would be upset. I also think it might be overwhelming for me, but I'm thinking I should just suck it up to avoid any hurt feelings. My mom could go to a different appointment, but she would probably be upset that she didn't get invited first when she lives here. I also prefer not having anyone additional at the appointments (it's a bonding moment for me and FH) so part of me wants to get it over with in one appointment, even if this one appointment ends up being a little stressful.
To keep the peace then I would definitely invite her. The stress of having her upset would probably be worse than having them all there. 
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| Posted 9/11/08 12:10 PM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
I could never invite my MIL and NOT my Mom - but I'm not really the type who thinks anyone but DH need to be involved in that kind of thing -
Since you already invited your MIL, and you'd rather just get that done and over with in ONE shot, I think you def. should invite your Mom
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| Posted 9/11/08 12:50 PM |
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wannabemom
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Re: Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
maybe it's me and my standoff-ish german ways, but to me, the OB appts are for me and DH only.
mom never even thought to go to one, and I never thought to invite her. DH's mom is all the way in brooklyn, and also doesn't expect any invitations like that.
I guess from my perspective, there's a degree of intimacy with looking at your unborn child, and I feel like DH and I should get to know him first KWIM?
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| Posted 9/11/08 1:08 PM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
Posted by wannabemom
maybe it's me and my standoff-ish german ways, but to me, the OB appts are for me and DH only.
mom never even thought to go to one, and I never thought to invite her. DH's mom is all the way in brooklyn, and also doesn't expect any invitations like that.
I guess from my perspective, there's a degree of intimacy with looking at your unborn child, and I feel like DH and I should get to know him first KWIM?
I feel the same way. However, with that said, that wasn't your question. If you invited your MIL, then I would invite your mother too, otherwise she will feel left out and hurt.
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| Posted 9/11/08 1:58 PM |
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newpaulsbaby
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Re: Opinion needed- re my mom, MIL and dr appmt
Posted by wannabemom
maybe it's me and my standoff-ish german ways, but to me, the OB appts are for me and DH only.
mom never even thought to go to one, and I never thought to invite her. DH's mom is all the way in brooklyn, and also doesn't expect any invitations like that.
I guess from my perspective, there's a degree of intimacy with looking at your unborn child, and I feel like DH and I should get to know him first KWIM?
Agree- and i'm russian not german! ha ha
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| Posted 9/11/08 3:53 PM |
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