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-Laurie-
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My friend's one and only try at IVF failed... need advice
Is there anything I can do or say. She doesn't really discuss her IF issues at all but her husband does and ours work together so I sort of know too much. I guess she would have found out over Christmas. They are coming to a NYE party at our house and I'm torn if I should say anything, say nothing or just give her a big hug and leave it at that since I know she probably knows that I know.
Our situation is somewhat special since were all military wives and none of us have family nearby and her RE was actually out of state at their prior base and they travelled as well as had her husband came home early from a deployment to be her support for it and to keep up the front since she didn't want to explain how she got pregnant during a deployment.
I don't really know all that is involved in IVF but I know its alot.
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LisaW
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Re: My friend's one and only try at IVF failed... need advice
I would just give her a big hug...
And then maybe another time (not NYE) let her know you are there for her if she ever needs someone to cry/vent to...
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| Posted 12/27/06 3:31 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: My friend's one and only try at IVF failed... need advice
does she know that her DH is telling you guys stuff?
If so, I agree with Lisa. However, I'd probably just let it be. She may not want the reminder. If she wants support from you - she'll come on her own time and terms.
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| Posted 12/27/06 3:45 PM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: My friend's one and only try at IVF failed... need advice
I agree...give her a hug and maybe just say "If you ever need me just call" without being specific.
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| Posted 12/27/06 4:00 PM |
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Red
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Re: My friend's one and only try at IVF failed... need advice
Posted by Gertyrae
I agree...give her a hug and maybe just say "If you ever need me just call" without being specific.
I agree
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| Posted 12/27/06 4:04 PM |
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-Laurie-
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Re: My friend's one and only try at IVF failed... need advice
Posted by Gertyrae
I agree...give her a hug and maybe just say "If you ever need me just call" without being specific.
Thanks, I'll handle it that way.
Dh spoke with her husband and said not to worry, orginally he said she didn't want to do anything for NYE but since it's our house she is all excitied to get out and start new and said to just be prepared for lots of drinking on their parts and to just try to look out for her with certain pregnancy conversations that may come up amougst the mommy group in case he is busy with the men.
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| Posted 12/27/06 4:16 PM |
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rose825
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Re: My friend's one and only try at IVF failed... need advice
as somoene who has been in her shoes, for me I felt a huge amount of shame after my failed IVF. And read into things people said always wondering "if they know". If she doesnt know you know I would not say a word. If she does know a big hug and subtle I am always here for you would be fine.
Having you there will be a big help to her.
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| Posted 12/27/06 7:14 PM |
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-Laurie-
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Re: My friend's one and only try at IVF failed... need advice
Thank you everyone!     
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| Posted 12/27/06 9:21 PM |
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