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anewday
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my friend lost the baby WWYD?
My poor friend/co-worker...she had been trying for over 5 years just when she was about to give up it happend a BFP
We were all so happy!
11 weeks...she called me so worried she was cramping and spotting...I got a message last night that she was in the hospital and she lost the baby...my heart breaks for them
I know this devistation has happend to many...I don't think there is any words to comfort her...
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Posted 9/21/10 9:10 PM  |
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
 That is so sad  I think the best thing you can do is to send a card or note, and let her know you're there for her. I think a lot of times people don't know what to do/say in the case of a miscarriage so they do/say NOTHING, and that hurts so much more for the woman/couple who are grieving, kwim?
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| Posted 9/21/10 9:25 PM |
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KwaaksNest
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
thats so sad...im so sorry for her loss...i wouldnt even know what to say or do...i will keep her family in my prayers
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| Posted 9/21/10 9:28 PM |
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anewday
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
Posted by colette
I think a lot of times people don't know what to do/say in the case of a miscarriage so they do/say NOTHING, and that hurts so much more for the woman/couple who are grieving, kwim?
yeah I was thinking the same...tomorrow I'll pick up a card and I think a little nick-nack type thing of an angel (hope I can find something...the Halmark store by me always has good little things like that)
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| Posted 9/21/10 9:28 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
Remember....
Just simply remember....
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| Posted 9/21/10 9:33 PM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
Posted by hbugal
Remember....
Just simply remember....
well said..
i agree
i am so sorry for your friend , its just awful
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| Posted 9/21/10 9:35 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
Posted by colette
That is so sad I think the best thing you can do is to send a card or note, and let her know you're there for her. I think a lot of times people don't know what to do/say in the case of a miscarriage so they do/say NOTHING, and that hurts so much more for the woman/couple who are grieving, kwim?
ITA! As someone who went thru 2 early losses and almost no one in my life EVER brought it up....send a note, ask how she is dealing when you talk to her....as if she is ok and then take her cue, she may not want to talk, but she mayneed to unload on someone. Either way you not pretending it never happened will be good enough.
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| Posted 9/21/10 10:07 PM |
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Purplegirl77
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
AWW so sad and so unfair...I hate hearing things like this...it really makes me so upset....your a good friend and she knows that....yeah Hallmark is nice they have nice things...maybe one of those sayings she can keep in her wallet?
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| Posted 9/21/10 10:11 PM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
My friend lost 3 babies, she now has a healthy beautiful little girl who is 2 months. The best medicine. . .just let her know you are there for her, there isn't much you can do except just BE there when they need you.
My friends and I took turns sending her a card each week, she loved those. We would have funny weeks, Sentimental weeks, thinking of you weeks. She always knew we were there.
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| Posted 9/21/10 10:14 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
Posted by hbugal
Remember....
Just simply remember....
Absolutely!
I am so sorry for your friend's loss.
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| Posted 9/21/10 10:18 PM |
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labonnevie
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
Posted by DPerotti
My friend lost 3 babies, she now has a healthy beautiful little girl who is 2 months. The best medicine. . .just let her know you are there for her, there isn't much you can do except just BE there when they need you.
My friends and I took turns sending her a card each week, she loved those. We would have funny weeks, Sentimental weeks, thinking of you weeks. She always knew we were there.
i think this is incredibly thoughtful. i would do this!
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| Posted 9/21/10 10:31 PM |
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jerseychick
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
Posted by MaMaTeenie
Posted by colette
That is so sad I think the best thing you can do is to send a card or note, and let her know you're there for her. I think a lot of times people don't know what to do/say in the case of a miscarriage so they do/say NOTHING, and that hurts so much more for the woman/couple who are grieving, kwim?
ITA! As someone who went thru 2 early losses and almost no one in my life EVER brought it up....send a note, ask how she is dealing when you talk to her....as if she is ok and then take her cue, she may not want to talk, but she mayneed to unload on someone. Either way you not pretending it never happened will be good enough.
I agree with this as well...let her know you're there for her, ask her how she's doing, but then follow her lead as to whether she wants to talk about it or not.
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| Posted 9/21/10 10:34 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
I lost 3 pregnancies all after IF treatments. I didnt want any cards - nothing tangible to remind me of what happened. Id say the best thing to do is to let her know you are there for her.
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| Posted 9/21/10 10:35 PM |
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anewday
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
Posted by Goldi0218
I lost 3 pregnancies all after IF treatments. I didnt want any cards - nothing tangible to remind me of what happened. Id say the best thing to do is to let her know you are there for her.
This is why I keep debating....I was thinking about sending her a small bouque of flowers...with a little card that says..
I'm sorry and here if you need me
She has no family here and not many friends...She only moved to the U.S. about 6 years ago...from Russia, in fact she expressed how scared she was becouse she was exposed to radiation as a child living in Russia and both her parent died in thier 30's 
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| Posted 9/21/10 10:45 PM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: my friend lost the baby WWYD?
I feel as if you know this friend, your heart will tell you what to do. While corny, I found this to be true. If you know your friend would appreciate the smiles each week, then send a card. If you know she would rather not talk about it (which many people are) then don't send anything, call her and just say "I love you and I'm here for you when you are ready or just want to get out and NOT be reminded of it" Whatever you choose to do, your friend will at least know you are there, kwim?
You are a good friend for just posting on here for advice
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