My DH and I had THE talk this weekend.

We decided that we are not going to find out the sex of the baby even though I kind of want to know. But I loved that were surprised with DD even though we wanted to know.


But we talked about names again. He is still DEAD set on naming the baby if it's a boy after his father. I LOVE LOVE LOVE his father. That is not an issue for me. My DH is the only male married on is side. His brother will not be getting married or having kids. Both my DH and his brother are named after their grandfathers so it's a tradition in his family, again I like that. But it's the name. As a teacher it's one of those names. It's a name that usually means trouble maker to me. Plus, when I was pregnant the first time we immediately decided that if it's a boy it would be after his dad and if it was a girl it would be Christina Marie. Well then I lost that baby. He even still wants to use Christina and I just can't. Both remind me of that pregnancy and the boy name is complicated by the teacher thing. Every time I say it. I just get images of all my past "notorious" students with that name. 2 of which I will add are in juvie!

Ugh I guess it will have to be like my last pregnancy where I just wish for a girl.

Any advice? How do I get passed the bad part of it.

I am NOT going to post the name because I don't want to offend anyone. It's a nice name just conjures up memories for me.

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Maybe you could look at it that you are honoring both your FIL and your baby.

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Is there any way you can just use FIL's first name as the middle name and come up with your own first name? That way you're honoring FIL but really, a middle name is so rarely used that hopefully it won't be much of an issue for you.

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I understand how you feel. DH and I really wanted to name the baby after my dad if it was going to be a boy. We both adore my father, however, my dad's name is Roger and well...

DH didn't care, but I really had a hard time thinking "My son, Roger"

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DH truly wanted to name a boy after his father b/c of the relationship the two of them had while FIL was alive. Personally, I don't like the name, and always use DH's nickname not his given name (which is his father's name). I pointed out to DH that my father is also deceased and deserves to be honored just as much as his (and let's face it, the child will have his father's last name regardless). He saw the light and we chose our respective father's middle names as our name for a boy.

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Sorry yu are having name issues, but know that you are not alone.
We are also having issues with a boy name as well. DH is adamant against the boy name I want, which makes me want it more!

So we are at an impasse, and with 33 days till EDD, we still have no boy name.

Good Luck and I hope you can come to a compromise.

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If you are absolutely dead set against this name, then tell dh. The name you two decide on has to be something you both really want, your child is going to have this name for the rest of their life. Why not ask him if you can do a similar name, like if its michael use mitchell, or if its Marcus use Martin. Or maybe use it for the middle name.

Hope you two get it worked out!

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