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LIPrincess
Foxy Lady
Member since 6/05 1610 total posts
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Jaimie
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I need opinions. (sorry, kind of long)
A few weeks ago I heard from two old friend who I went to school with and back then we were as close as any friends could be. Anyway, I remember why I stopped talking to one and the other honestly we just drifted apart. The one I stopped talking to was dating and later married an abusive man. The final straw was when she called my house one day out of the blue was talking to me and about 20 minutes into the conversation asked her husband (whom I didnt know was listening) if I was the "voice" calling him and telling him I loved him and wanted him. He said he thought so, I told her right then and there that they both needed to get lives and that I couldnt stand him so I most certaintly wouldnt be calling him. Her response was "let me see your phone bills, then I'll believe you". I realized right then and there that the friendship we had was over. I was upset, but he was a nut and I had to think of my own safety.
Anyway, fast forward seven years, she is getting a divorce (actually its just about final) and the three of us went out to dinner and had a great time (a few weeks ago) and then we got together Sat night and again had a great time and this time it was with my husband and all the kids. Anyway, the one who is getting a divorce says to me, I honestly dont know why you stopped talking to me, you know I really needed a friend and if you were still friends with me I wouldnt have wasted 7 yrs with this guy.
Now here is my question, I wasnt going to bring up why, I had decided to just move on and not rehash old things, but now I feel I should tell her next time I talk to her or see her why I stopped talking to her. When she said that - my response was I didnt stop talking to you, our lives just went in different directions.
What do you think? Should I tell her why I stopped talking to her or just keep my story to what I said? I dont want to ruin a friendship that is getting started again, over something that happened seven years ago, but I dont want her thinking I abadonded her either.
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Posted 3/6/06 4:16 PM  |
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LI2VA
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Member since 11/05 3125 total posts
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Melissa
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Re: I need opinions. (sorry, kind of long)
Me personally would tell her why. I think it's better to go back into this friendship with a toatlly clean slate.
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| Posted 3/6/06 4:28 PM |
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LisaW
Time for me to FLY!
Member since 5/05 13199 total posts
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Did I ever tell you that I hate people?
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Re: I need opinions. (sorry, kind of long)
Posted by mrsv1015
Me personally would tell her why. I think it's better to go back into this friendship with a toatlly clean slate.
I totally agree!
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| Posted 3/6/06 4:47 PM |
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dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
Member since 10/05 11561 total posts
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Dina
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Re: I need opinions. (sorry, kind of long)
Posted by mrsv1015
Me personally would tell her why. I think it's better to go back into this friendship with a toatlly clean slate.
I agree.
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| Posted 3/6/06 4:47 PM |
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CookiePuss
Cake from Outer Space!
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Re: I need opinions. (sorry, kind of long)
I would only tell her if she brought it up again. You already told her a reason why you stopped talking and if she accepts that, leave it at that.
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| Posted 3/6/06 5:00 PM |
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CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(
Member since 5/05 13848 total posts
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Christine
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Re: I need opinions. (sorry, kind of long)
I would tell her. She may need to know the information to make better decisions about her relationships in the future.
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| Posted 3/6/06 10:43 PM |
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mrswask
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Member since 5/05 20229 total posts
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Michal
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Re: I need opinions. (sorry, kind of long)
Posted by CkGm
I would tell her. She may need to know the information to make better decisions about her relationships in the future.
Agreed!
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:43 PM |
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