How has your relationship/marriage changed since having children? (good/bad)

Dh and I got married in April 08. Our son is due in June. I would love to hear some of the positive and negative changes. Also, how has having a child changed YOU?

Re: How has your relationship/marriage changed since having children? (good/bad)

Our relationship has gotten so much better. We are both just in awww of how much we have grown as a couple with our dd, and very excitted for baby #2 to arrive. We are just a happy family and know we can tackle anything now.

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DH and i have been together almost 6 years. married in October 07, DS was born September 08.

the HARDEST part about having a child for me was learning to let go of my control issues. i need things done MY way and i tend to have very little patience if they are not. DH is a wonderful father and even if he doesn't do things exactly the wway i would like, DS is happy, and it has taken a lot for me to just let him do things his own way.

we do fight a bit when i think he is ignoring DS (like when DS is in his jumperoo whining and fussing and DH is on his computer when he is supposed to be watching him) but that is pretty much it.

other than that, i don't think anything has really changed, per se... i do ADORE seeing DH with DS though, that is a beautiful sight!

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well at first we fought a lot. It was hard adjusting to the changes of having a baby, but since then we have gotten better, less fighting more cooperating. It is important to split chores and responsiilities or else one person becomes resentful. DH and I have been together for 13 years.

Message edited 1/27/2009 12:05:39 PM.

Re: How has your relationship/marriage changed since having children? (good/bad)

I couldn't be happier. Part of the reason i married my dh was because i knew he'd make a great father. I was right and he's probably even better than i expected.

ETA: even during some of the hard times, we've stuck together and really haven't taken it out on eachother no matter how stressed we've been. But we've been together for 10 years so we've had tons of practice (new at parenting though).

Message edited 1/27/2009 12:02:04 PM.

Re: How has your relationship/marriage changed since having children? (good/bad)

DH and I have been together for 5 years, married for 2 and DS is 16 months.

I will say that before DS, we never fought, never really had any issues. Having DS has been the biggest stress on our relationship so far. When we get stressed out about DS... because he is crying, won't eat, won't sleep... we tend to get snippy at each other.

We don't have any major issues and we definitely don't "fight" in terms of yelling and screaming, but there are definite moments of tension.

They say the first year of marriage is hard.. .I thought it was a breeze... having DS was the bigger challenge for us and continues to be.

But there are also wonderful moments of having DS... much more of them. I love seeing DH and DS interact with each other and now DS is constantly saying "dada" all the time and it melts my heart! You just have to be committed to each other to work through the rough spots!

Re: How has your relationship/marriage changed since having children? (good/bad)

Posted by headoverheels

DH and i have been together almost 6 years. married in October 07, DS was born September 08.

the HARDEST part about having a child for me was learning to let go of my control issues. i need things done MY way and i tend to have very little patience if they are not. DH is a wonderful father and even if he doesn't do things exactly the wway i would like, DS is happy, and it has taken a lot for me to just let him do things his own way.

we do fight a bit when i think he is ignoring DS (like when DS is in his jumperoo whining and fussing and DH is on his computer when he is supposed to be watching him) but that is pretty much it.

other than that, i don't think anything has really changed, per se... i do ADORE seeing DH with DS though, that is a beautiful sight!

Message edited 1/27/2009 12:14:48 PM.

Re: How has your relationship/marriage changed since having children? (good/bad)

Happy as always.
But we have really similar personalities and we're both pretty easygoing and agree most of the time. And Lily is the easiest baby ever.

Re: How has your relationship/marriage changed since having children? (good/bad)

Posted by headoverheels

DH and i have been together almost 6 years. married in October 07, DS was born September 08.

the HARDEST part about having a child for me was learning to let go of my control issues. i need things done MY way and i tend to have very little patience if they are not. DH is a wonderful father and even if he doesn't do things exactly the wway i would like, DS is happy, and it has taken a lot for me to just let him do things his own way.

we do fight a bit when i think he is ignoring DS (like when DS is in his jumperoo whining and fussing and DH is on his computer when he is supposed to be watching him) but that is pretty much it.

other than that, i don't think anything has really changed, per se... i do ADORE seeing DH with DS though, that is a beautiful sight!