How do you stay positive

I am on to another month of IUI's and I was wondering as I repeat to myself over and over again.. This is going to work, this month it is going to work, nothing is wrong with you this is going to work.. And deep down inside really not believing it. Do you think your attitude towards this whole thing is holding you back from becoming pg? For some reason I do… I am trying so hard to stay positive but with all the disappointment I think I have conditioned myself to be negative. How do you stay postive? As anybody been negative and still gotten pg?

Thanks girls

Re: How do you stay positive

I don't think it makes much difference in the long run.

I have had some cycles where I just knew they were going to work and they didn't...and some I'm down on the whole cycle and it didn't work.

I think it helps in your head - but in reality the results are going to be what they are going to be.

Re: How do you stay positive

i know, it is HARD. we had 3 unsuccessful IUI. The first time i thought FOR SURE it would work because there was nothing wrong with us, and our friends had probs on both ends and it worked on the first try...but then by the 3rd time i was just so negative. i think that is natural. I know people say "don't think about it" "don't stress" well, that is impossible Just eb yourself, it it natural to feel all these emotions, but know YOU ARE NOT ALONE..at ALL!

Your time will come, don't you worry, as it will for the rest of us as well.


I wish you guys the BEST OF LUCK

Re: How do you stay positive

I've been trying to figure that out for 5 years!

Re: How do you stay positive

If you find an answer, let me know!!

I keep trying to tell myself that it WILL happen, one way or another. As for keeping postivie during each cycle, well I find it very hard to do, especially after the first IUI last month when the counts were terrible. I'm trying to keep my mind on the end result and to just be grateful for what we already have.

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i am the most negative person you could ever meet....and this month i was absolutley positive it had worked, why i dont know. maybe because i got signs i had my first pg, maybe because i had + pg test signs longer after my shot of hcg than i did last month...i dont know. but i do know that this month, my 14th month ttc really hit me the most.

but i was still a pretty negative person when i was pg with ds so i would have to say feeling positive or negative doent really affect pg chance....i think its more about trying not to fall into that depression/funk

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Its hard sometimes, and I take it day by day. I think if you look at the whole picture, it can get really daunting. I don't think being negative can prevent you from getting pregnant, but I do think being negative can affect your body.

Re: How do you stay positive

I look at is as having no choice. If I dont keep an air of positivity about this issue I wouldn't be driven to keep going. The minute I lose my drive, I am closer to defeat. DH and I have too much to look forward to and way too far away from giving up. I have some very dark days full of tears, anger, envy and jealousy but I have many more of hope. I'm supposed to be a mother - THAT is how I stay positive.