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he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

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missrock
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he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

If he is not being held all he does is fusses. How do i deal with this especially at night and with my 2 yo running around? If he falls asleep and I put him down he wakes up fussing and crying.

I cant take much more of this. Did anyone have a child like this and if so when did it friggin end? I DO NOT want to hold this kid all day long.

He is almost 3 weeks.

Message edited 5/8/2009 6:08:16 AM.

Posted 5/8/09 6:05 AM
 
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nrthshgrl
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

Have you tried swaddling him? It will make him feel like he's being held. Everyone raves about the miracle blanket (after my time with my kids).

If all else fails, Baby Bjorn. I know it's tough. Maddie wanted to be held all of the time too.

Posted 5/8/09 6:14 AM
 

missrock
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

Posted by nrthshgrl

Have you tried swaddling him? It will make him feel like he's being held. Everyone raves about the miracle blanket (after my time with my kids).

If all else fails, Baby Bjorn. I know it's tough. Maddie wanted to be held all of the time too.



But when did Maddie get better with not being held?

Posted 5/8/09 6:25 AM
 

Dani922
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

My DS is the same way. He's 1 month old now & just starting to get a little better. The only place I can really put him down though is in the swing (and usually for no more than 5-10 minutes) or on the play mat if he's in a really good mood. Night time is another story. The only place he'll sleep other than my arms is the carseat (for maybe an hour). He's yet to sleep in his bassinet even once. It's hard & I'm hoping it ends soon too Chat Icon

Posted 5/8/09 6:28 AM
 

mrsgafforio
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

Whenever DS fusses, I put him in the swing. Thank god for that thing!!!

Posted 5/8/09 6:54 AM
 

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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

My DD was the same way the first few weeks. I also had a 20 month old. The only difference with me is that at night she was a totally different baby. I would put her down to sleep at 6:30 and she SLEPT! During the day, I would just hold her as I was doing things with DS. If I was reading to DS I would put him on my lap and hold her. If we were doing a puzzle, I was on the floor holding her and putting a puzzle together. SHe hated the bouncer,glider, but did like the swing ONLY for naps. It is very frustrating, but it does pass..

Hugs! Chat Icon

ETA: do you swaddler him? I did with DD and it made a hUge difference!

Message edited 5/8/2009 7:01:16 AM.

Posted 5/8/09 7:00 AM
 

MorningCuppaCoffee
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

Yup, the swing was my saving grace when he was younger! Now that he is a little older, I sit him in the seat in front of Noggin on our big screen TV and it keeps him occupied for a couple of hours! I love the swaddle-me though too. I feel that's what has kept him sleeping through the night for so long!

Posted 5/8/09 7:00 AM
 

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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

what about a sling?

Posted 5/8/09 7:17 AM
 

Katie111806
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

Ugh I feel your pain. Ds cried constantly as a newborn, did not nap, did not like the swing, bouncy, etc. It was hell and so hard. I swaddled him constantly and that seemed to help a bit. At about 3 months I started supplementing with a little bottle of formula and he was a new baby. Doc thinks he had a true case of colic that he needed to grow out of and once he did he was much better. He's still a bit high maintainence at times now at almost 6 months but mostly he is happy and low key

Posted 5/8/09 8:15 AM
 

Diana1215
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

Like the others said, swaddling in the Miracle BLanket is an actual miracle.

Posted 5/8/09 8:39 AM
 

CookiePuss
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

My son was like this. I used to wear him. He lived in the Baby Bjorn. At about 8 weeks, he started to change...I could put him down and he seemed to start liking the bouncy and swing at that time.

Wearing my son was a life saver. I was able to do almost everything with him on...clean, play, go to the park.

Posted 5/8/09 8:50 AM
 

preggo08
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

DD has been fussy....and now that we changed her formula, she is so much more relaxed (the gas that was building up in her tummy made her that way)

Posted 5/8/09 9:18 AM
 

lovemy2boys
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

ds was the same way and he was diagnosed with Reflux

Posted 5/8/09 9:24 AM
 

monkeybride
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

You are describing my life to a T when DS was born. He was like this from day 1.
Do you think there's any chance he had reflux? Are you nursing? He could have a milk allergy.
DS has reflux and milk allergy/intolerence and he only finally improved when I made the switch to Neocate. It's hard to know for sure if that was it because he was 5 months old so maybe he grew out of it but I think it had a lot to do with not being in pain anymore.

Posted 5/8/09 9:25 AM
 

Bxgell2
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

Alex did this for 6 months. The baby bjorn, swaddle, swing and wrap were my best friends Chat Icon

Posted 5/8/09 9:29 AM
 

eddiesmommy
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

I also HIGHLY recommend the swaddle me. DS slept like a log after I put him down IF he was wrapped up in it. If not, hed be up every 10 minutes. Try swaddling him and then putting him in the swing...there is a slit in the swaddle me where you can pull the buckle through.

Ive heard slings work really well too. I never used one bc I couldnt figure the damn things out, lol.

Posted 5/8/09 9:40 AM
 

MrsS2005
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

DS wanted to be held 24/7. I should've used the bjorn earlier than I did b/c he liked that. Eventually, I could put him in the swing for one nap. I held him while he took other naps and we co-slept. We're still co-sleeping, but he became more independent around 3-4 months. He still loves to be held, but he's also fine for a while in the bouncer, on a blanket, etc. I know it's really rough, but it will get better. Chat Icon

ETA: DS didn't just fuss when I put him down. He got hysterical. A sling may really help you especially since you have another child to take care of.

Message edited 5/8/2009 10:12:09 AM.

Posted 5/8/09 10:10 AM
 

missrock
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

Posted by MrsS2005

DS wanted to be held 24/7. I should've used the bjorn earlier than I did b/c he liked that. Eventually, I could put him in the swing for one nap. I held him while he took other naps and we co-slept. We're still co-sleeping, but he became more independent around 3-4 months. He still loves to be held, but he's also fine for a while in the bouncer, on a blanket, etc. I know it's really rough, but it will get better. Chat Icon



Okay, not so sound like and idiot, but does co-sleeping means that the baby sleeps in your bed right. If so, did he sleep in your arms or did you have one of those snuggy nests?

Posted 5/8/09 10:12 AM
 

annie
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

DD spends several hours a day in the sling. I only rock her at night before bed. Both of my hands are free to deal with my 2 1/2 year old. Get a sling! Now, at 3 months, she doesn't need to be held as much & I swaddle her for naps or she naps in the swing.

Posted 5/8/09 10:21 AM
 

DomesticDeeva
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

My DS was like this & still is at 3.5 months, but he's improving. I can put him down sometimes for a nap if I let him sleep on his belly. I still can't get anything done because I watch him like a hawk...he can lift his head & move it side to side, but I'm still paranoid.

At night, he sleeps with us in the sleep positioner, but at least I don't have to hold him.

He hated being swaddled, hates the swing, likes the bouncer, but to play in, not sleep in. Chat Icon

So when he naps, I catch up on facebook, LIF, and my DVR'd shows Chat Icon

If we go out tho, he will sleep in his car seat or stroller thankfully.

I'm hoping once he can roll over he will nap on his own, because he seems to like his belly better.

Message edited 5/8/2009 10:24:32 AM.

Posted 5/8/09 10:23 AM
 

MrsS2005
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Re: he wants to be held 24/7...what do I do!!!! PLEASE HELP....MOMMIES WITH EXPERIENCE COME IN

Posted by missrock

Posted by MrsS2005

DS wanted to be held 24/7. I should've used the bjorn earlier than I did b/c he liked that. Eventually, I could put him in the swing for one nap. I held him while he took other naps and we co-slept. We're still co-sleeping, but he became more independent around 3-4 months. He still loves to be held, but he's also fine for a while in the bouncer, on a blanket, etc. I know it's really rough, but it will get better. Chat Icon



Okay, not so sound like and idiot, but does co-sleeping means that the baby sleeps in your bed right. If so, did he sleep in your arms or did you have one of those snuggy nests?


I actually held him in my arms. I propped my arm up on the boppy and DS slept in the crook of my arm. He slept on me for the first 3.5 months. Around 3.5 months, DS started to fuss more when he slept on me probably b/c I'm BFing and he could smell my milk. Now, he mainly sleeps on DH.

I never planned to co-sleep, but it was the only way we could get some sleep. I tried to transition him to the crib before I went back to work. We had 6 sleepless nights. By the last night, he was sleeping 10-20 minute stretches all night. We gave up.

Posted 5/8/09 10:23 AM
 
 

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