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debidonnamom
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Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
My Mom had to go to a nursing home about 9 months ago. She called me one day, to say she could not move; She had been in her chair. I took her to her Dr., who said she could not be by herself anymore. Cleaning out her apt. was quite a challenge, because of my own health issues, and family opinions about things. I'd like to hear from others, on their experience with this. Mary
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
We moved my grandmother to an assisted living facility (different than a nursing home). By assisted living, that's not like a retirement community kind of thing. It's very similar to a nursing home but different in the level of care needed & the cost.
Cleaning out the house was a multi-weekend job.
One thing that is essential is to see an eldercare attorney if you haven't already. My grandmother's house is in a trust so that she maintains the "right" to live there for the rest of her life & it gets transferred to the grandchildren when she does pass. If we hadn't done that, the house would have been sold to pay for her care. The other advantage to this is that most people feel like they're being forced into a home. Hearing they have the right to live there for the rest of their lives makes the assisted facility more like a temprorary stop.
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| Posted 1/2/11 1:13 PM |
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debidonnamom
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
Posted by nrthshgrl
We moved my grandmother to an assisted living facility (different than a nursing home). By assisted living, that's not like a retirement community kind of thing. It's very similar to a nursing home but different in the level of care needed & the cost.
Cleaning out the house was a multi-weekend job.
One thing that is essential is to see an eldercare attorney if you haven't already. My grandmother's house is in a trust so that she maintains the "right" to live there for the rest of her life & it gets transferred to the grandchildren when she does pass. If we hadn't done that, the house would have been sold to pay for her care. The other advantage to this is that most people feel like they're being forced into a home. Hearing they have the right to live there for the rest of their lives makes the assisted facility more like a temprorary stop.
Hi, I really appreciate your post!!! My Mom had sold her house yrs. ago, and was renting an apt., but still big job cleaning it out. She's suppose to go to an assisted living, that's curently being built, but by the time it's finished her status could change. She doesn't want to leave the full care home where's she's been for 9 months. Good info about putting a house in a trust. My DH and I might face that up the road. Thanks!!! Mary
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Sandra
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
We had to do it and it was hard. We put a lot of my mom's stuff in storage and really we should now be sorting through that b/c she is still in the nursing home (and she is young...) and it dosen't look like she'll be leaving anytime soon. It is a lot of work and very sad too.
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Peainapod
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
I can only imagine. im in the process now of begging my mother to put her mother into a home or assisted living. she cannot be alone anymore and my mother is her caretaker and its becoming stressful and dysfunctional at this point.
my grandma lives in apt by herself, doesnt own much. most furniture would get trashed and whatever mementos/photos..some would go with her and the rest either to my mom or shared with the siblings. 
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lorich
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
My family has all died and going through years of things is challenging to say the least.
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| Posted 1/2/11 3:49 PM |
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debidonnamom
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
Posted by Sandra
We had to do it and it was hard. We put a lot of my mom's stuff in storage and really we should now be sorting through that b/c she is still in the nursing home (and she is young...) and it dosen't look like she'll be leaving anytime soon. It is a lot of work and very sad too.
Awwwww, Sandra, I know!!!! Sadly, sometimes there are no other options. I still have not gone through a lot of Mom's papers, stuff that's related to boring things like Medicare, etc. papers that are irrelevent now, but I still should go through them!! She had kept all her receipts since the 1950's, which wasn't entirely a bad thing!!! I found precious memories in those receipts: Newlywed/newlyparent purchase receipts signed by my now deceased Dad, and paystubs of both Parents, which are going into my Family History file!!! I immediately went through important family things, and was tickled pink to find an original wedding invitation of my Great Grandparents, their marriage license, and my Mom's report cards, and graduation stuff, along with her wedding book, which I had never seen before!!!! Praying for you all in this part of your lives!!!!  Mary
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debidonnamom
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
Posted by Peainapod
I can only imagine. im in the process now of begging my mother to put her mother into a home or assisted living. she cannot be alone anymore and my mother is her caretaker and its becoming stressful and dysfunctional at this point.
my grandma lives in apt by herself, doesnt own much. most furniture would get trashed and whatever mementos/photos..some would go with her and the rest either to my mom or shared with the siblings.
Diana, praying for your Mom and Grandmother, re: this situation!!!!! Mary
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debidonnamom
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
Posted by lorich
My family has all died and going through years of things is challenging to say the least.
Lora Gina, that's so sad, I'm sorry for the loss of your family members. Were you the one, who had to go through all their belongings? Mary
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Tine73
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
We helped clean out my grandparents house when they went into an assisted living type place. It took us about 2 months worth of weekends and was such a PITA. They lived there for about 50 years.
I vowed never to become a pack rat after that experience.
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| Posted 1/2/11 9:05 PM |
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familyoffive
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
I had to clean out my grandmother's house of 50+ years a few years ago. She kept everything!! It was very difficult, especially with two young kids at the time. Unfortunately her two daughters live out of state and are not very helpful so it was left to me. I went through the important stuff and then eventually called a company to clear out the big stuff and clean the house. All total it took over a month.
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| Posted 1/2/11 9:09 PM |
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debidonnamom
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
Posted by Tine73
We helped clean out my grandparents house when they went into an assisted living type place. It took us about 2 months worth of weekends and was such a PITA. They lived there for about 50 years.
I vowed never to become a pack rat after that experience.
Whoa, 50 yrs.,I think that would have been a long term endeaver!!!!! That's why I have got to get my house in order!!!! I don't want my kids to have to clean it out!!!! Mary
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| Posted 1/2/11 9:49 PM |
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debidonnamom
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Re: Have any of you had to admit a Parent to a Nursing Home, and clean out their apt./house?
Posted by familyoffive
I had to clean out my grandmother's house of 50+ years a few years ago. She kept everything!! It was very difficult, especially with two young kids at the time. Unfortunately her two daughters live out of state and are not very helpful so it was left to me. I went through the important stuff and then eventually called a company to clear out the big stuff and clean the house. All total it took over a month.
Candice, my dear, I can only imagine, a job like that and children too!!! How wonderful of you as a Granddaughter, to take it on!!!!! Mary
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