First visit to a new mom in the hospital (normal situation)

My niece and nephew were very premature twins so my only experience was that until this weekend. Well its scary!! I mean really never understood how frightening this whole birth process really is when you enter the hospital.

I visited "mommy" but she is livid because she specifically said NO BOTTLE but after 3 hours of pushing she had a c-section so in recovery the baby was given a bottle. Now he doesn't want the boob and i feel horrible because she is trying to feed and he is just screaming his head off for the bottle. Then you have a neighbor next to you who is trying to sleep while your trying to feed a screaming baby and WOW! She doesn't want to disturb anyone and its upsetting for her, baby and roommate. I felt like I was going to have an anxiety attack so I can only imagine how she felt. I feel bad because she wants to go home but she is stuck in the hospital. I told her I thank you for asking me to visit you because this is really a learning experience and completely NOTHING like they show you on a TV show.

So I give it up to you guys. Not only will everyone see your V in the birthing room, you have everyone see your boobs, nipples nursing measuring your pee - examining your poo and all that jazz. Completely not the pretty picture they paint on tv.

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Where is the "like" button?



True... "reality tv" is the furthest thing from "reality".

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It can suck big time. A lot of people complain about it.

I was lucky b/c DD was born on Thursday afternoon and I was home Saturday morning - maybe thats why it didn't bother me so much?

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honestly, everyone is different, but I had a great experience. I too had a c-section and once I was settled it wasn't bad. And personally I enjoyed all my visitors. Also, its all about the baby, sorry, not mommy's comfort. JMO. I did have the room to myself for majority of my stay so it wasn't bad.

Message edited 2/7/2011 1:32:34 PM.

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tell her to keep trying on the breastfeeding- my ds didnt take immediately but you know what- when it was the only game in town and he was hungry- he gave in

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Everyone is different. I didn't want to leave the hospital.

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i keep encouraging her but its kinda pointless coming from me (CF) but i said i read it takes time and some serious screaming but he will do it. I just feel bad because her and i are in the same boat we both didn't think the experience would be like that. I am lucky I didn't go through it but man it really prepared me for the future.