Finding out sex - sudden change of heart?

So next Friday is the big day. I hate surprises, so does DH. I am a type A planner, etc. but either way I am still doing a gender nuetral nursery/stroller, etc. All of a sudden when we started talking about bringing in the moms for the sono, actually finding out, etc. I am having second thoughts about finding out. I haven't figured out why yet (usually have the epiphany at like 3 am but hasnt' hit me yet as to why)

this happen to anyone else? I haven't told DH I am suddenly on the fence.

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No, we wanted to know from the very beginning, and thankfully cooperated at both the fetal echo we had and the Level II, showing us her girl parts both times!

I would think about it seriously maybe this weekend, and really finalize what you want in your mind. I'm sure the mothers would understand if you change your mind and don't want to find out, they could still go to the sono if you wanted, the tech just could not point out girl/boy parts to you all.

But I would really think about it, so you don't regret your choice. For a lot of us, the Level II could very well be the last sono we get before the baby arrives (some get the growth sono in the 30+ weeks, or even more if they're high-risk and need monitoring), but aside from that, most offices won't just do another sono for you after the Level II just to check for the gender, so you can't change your mind after that really (but you could always go for the 3D or 4D sonos at other places, which you pay for out-of-pocket).

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It's OK not to find the sex. It's actually better for you to hold a bit if you are not sure that way it's not the reverse.....you find out then wished you had not. You could always ask the tech to write it in your file (which I think they do anyway!) but not tell you and if you change your mind, you will be able to know.

DH and I wanted to know and we found out.

But as previously posted, you may not be able to get a sono later to "check things out".

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I didn't find out last time or this time. DH was annoyed. He has gotten over it though...he has learned the sweetness behind my reasoning...ALL the adorable news he gets to share [all on his own ]: the birth itself, the weight/height, eye color/hair, sex, name...He suddenly realized how sweet and special it was going to be to not know and he stopped wanting to know himself. It does drive me nuts a little...I HATE surprises 10000%, but this is the one surprise in life I just love.

I will say that for about 30 minutes the other day when the hens I work with were ARGUING over what I was having, I really wanted to find out b/c I have this aching for a girl [so I'm convinced it must be a boy] and I don't want to be bummed...I know in reality I would NOT be, but the child in me thinks too much sometimes and starts to wonder if I'll be upset to have a boy? The feeling passed...I realized I was just being hormonal and irrational. I would feel like a heel if I snuck and found out [b/c I would've] and didnt' tell DH.

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I actually had a change of heart in the opposite direction. DH wanted to know right away, I had at first said I did not want to know. Then I thought it would be good to find out so we can plan and I don't regret it for one second. Our daughter has already become a person by name to us and our family and she is not even here yet. It is really a persoanl choice. Either way the moment will be special.

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My husband had a change of heart the other way....

I havent had my LEVEL II yet but at my Ultrascreen I was pretty sure I saw boy parts and asked the doctor..my husband and I both thought that it was way to early to tell....BUT the doctor knew what it was...which has been confirmed at a ultrasound I had at not quite 15 weeks...In a way it was still a surprise B/c we didnt think that we were going to find out that early etc...

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Could it also be the fact that you might not want to do it with the moms there? You need to figure out if it's a change in heart, which is completely normal, or because you decided to have the moms there.

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I never wanted to find out. DH all of a sudden DID. I go on the fence about it too but I also know myself and I certainly can't wait until October! Plus, I really want to register for everything pnik or blue!

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I am a planner, total type A personality, and there is something very liberating in not finding out - I cant explain it, but its one thing in my life that I dont have to plan, and I feel it is helping me give up some control so that I can be a little freer with being a mother... does that make sense?