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Ex-h is getting married...q
Did any of the ex's who had kids - did the birth parent do anything for the new wedding?
My ex-h and I always get holiday/birthday cards from DS for each other. His mother is living. Should I get them a wedding card from DS?
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Posted 4/28/11 2:17 PM  |
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ThePinkGoose
In Your Hands
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Nunya
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Re: Ex-h is getting married...q
I'm not sure I follow you.............
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| Posted 4/28/11 6:53 PM |
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Re: Ex-h is getting married...q
Last week was my birthday - exH took DS to get me a birthday card.
ExH is getting married, should I take DS to get them a wedding card?
ExH's mother is still living, so does that mean she should take him to get a card?
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| Posted 4/29/11 9:04 AM |
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ThePinkGoose
In Your Hands
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Nunya
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Re: Ex-h is getting married...q
Ohhh OK, I understand now.  Sorry, i'm a little slow lol
I don't think you should or shouldn't do anything, there's no right or wrong.
I certainly think it would be a really nice gesture and probably help your son to adjust and realize that this is a positive thing happening in his life. Again, if you don't feel like you want to do it, it won't be an issue either.
It's a nice gesture.
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| Posted 4/29/11 9:29 AM |
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Re: Ex-h is getting married...q
DS is 3 y/o btw...
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| Posted 4/29/11 9:57 AM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Ex-h is getting married...q
When DH and I got married, my SD was 8. Her mom didn't get us anything. We really didn't think anything of it either. As the PP said, there's no right or wrong. It's just a nice gesture.
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| Posted 4/29/11 11:15 AM |
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Bops
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Re: Ex-h is getting married...q
Disclaimer - My view on this might be slightly skewed because my DH has always been made to feel like a distant relative at best, rather than a father)-LOL, but wanted to give a different perspective 
And I'm not sure if I am going to articulate this correctly, but I'm going to give it a whirl 
While I agree there is no "right or wrong" in this situation, in my opinion I would get a card for them from "you", not necessarily from DS , (that is if you are that amicable.). ...To me, a card from a child to his father and his stepmother could be viewed as a little impersonal, unless maybe you found a card that was appropriate for blended families , kwim ? Not a "congratulations" type card....
Either way I think it is extremely nice of you to even put the thought into this that you have
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| Posted 4/29/11 9:11 PM |
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familyoffive
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Re: Ex-h is getting married...q
When me ex got remarried I didn't do anything. Both kids went to the wedding, in their house, and I provided the clothes. That was enough to me. When I got remarried last summer my ex didn't do anything. I didn't think anything of it. HTH
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| Posted 4/30/11 10:12 AM |
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