DH was upset w/me this morning...

because he feels like I am always annoyed by him, and that I am short w/him and just not nice sometimes. I feel so bad
He said that ever since I've been preggo I've been like this, and he understands the hormones and stuff but he gets very upset over it. I totally apologized...and know what he's talking about but I need to find a way to catch myself before I get attitude. Its like I have no tolerance .... Like the other night he put the hockey game on to see the score quick and I got all in a huff b/c I thought he was going to make me watch it. I'm so bad, is anyone else dealing with this? In what ways are you trying to control it? Thank you!

Message edited 3/24/2007 10:48:58 AM.

Re: DH was upset w/me this morning...

i'm sorry...i've kind of been like this too and im trying to stop it but it's hard.

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Oh yes, I drive my husband nuts at times! But I also realized what I was doing and I am trying to be nicer...he is so good to me and I've been treating him very badly. As long as you realize how you're acting (I know sometimes we can't help it) and you communicate with each other...I think thats the most important thing!

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It took my DH to point it out to me before I started making changes. As hard as it is when you're "in the moment", TRY to remember you are both a team in all this. He's the LAST person you should be rude to.

When I started feeling *crazed*, I would immediately tell DH, "I need a hug"- that was my cue that I was feeling "off" and he usually obliged. How can you be annoyed at someone while they're hugging you?

Try communicating during moments of calmness how quick your emotions change, and how sorry you are that you've been so short-tempered.....

Good luck.... you'll get through it

Re: DH was upset w/me this morning...

I do this, too, and totally need to be more mindful of it.

Re: DH was upset w/me this morning...

i could have written this too. he asked me the other day if he disgusts me, he says he feels like i can barely look at him (partly true - i don't know why - he just annoys me). well i do know what i'm still annoyed at him about (we had an unresolved argument) and partly i think i just resent that i have to make so many changes etc and he doesn't. i think he's insensitive and clueless. top that off with the lack of intimacy and lack of quality time we've had - not a pretty picture. I hope its just hormonal

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I've been exactly the same way with my DH since becoming preggo. Last night, I got all pi$$ed off because we went to dinner and I didn't like where we were sitting. You would have thought they gave us a table in the parking lot, the way I was all mad. My DH has a high tolerance for it but we have gotten into at least 2 fights because of my mood swings. Usually, he'll find a way to make me laugh because I'm not sure there IS a way to control our hormones. I've started writing in a journal in hopes I can get my feelings out and won't end up taking them out on DH. When I do, I apologize and tell him I'm in a bad mood and don't know why. Unfortunately I think this may just be one of those things he's just going to have to deal with because it really isn't our fault...we're hormonal!

Message edited 3/24/2007 5:43:47 PM.

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I am like this too off an on. My DH doesnt like it at all. He is trying to be understanding b/c he knows that its the hormones. But sometimes he just cant take it. I feel so bad about it. last week was really really bad. I am feeling better this week though so far.

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I was like that with my DS. I would snap at the slightest thing and forget if we didnt agree. My episodes were so short maybe a total of a minute and DH just dealt with it because I didn't know when I would loose it. He was such a saint. This time around I haven't snapped yet and I am 25 weeks along.