DH family issues

Ok..... So my Dh comes from a rather large "ethnic" family.... Lots of cousins all around the same age.... Now the issue is almost all of his cousins are woman... A recipe for disaster!!! There is one in particular that I really don;t get along with.. I know she always talks about me behind my back , we really don't mesh at all... But her DH and my DH are or were really close... How do I handle a situation like this.. Dealing with her just puts a knot in mt stomach and I truley dislike her. I odn't want to let that effect my DH's relationship with her Dh at all but I trulet can't stand to be around her. ......

Re: DH family issues

I have a similar situation so if you ever want to talk fm me
At large gatherings with all the family such as Christmas I just smile and nod... make very small chit chat and try to stay away from her as best as possible. The good thing about a large family is lots of other people to talk to.. even if it's the older aunts and uncles

Re: DH family issues

bump!!!!!

Doesn't anyone else have any advise for me????? I could add to the previous post with on christmas , she bought my one son who happens to be husband's step son, a 10.00 outfit from walmart and my other son who is her husbands godson, very nice toys . Also didn't bother to say happy birthday or send a gift for my son's (my husband's stepson ) birthday.... She is now trying to hurt me through my son, whne in fact I treat her kids like my own.... I want to rip her eyes out just for what she did to my son let alone how she makes me feel.... My husband tells me ignore it, and be better than her, and if she ever says something to go at her..... But I know she enever will say anything she'll just keep doing what she's doing. and I don't to hurt her kids by not doing right by them... I don't want to stoop down to her nasty level... YOu know.... Anyone???? Please???

Re: DH family issues

she probably knows she is getting to you and she enjoys seeing you get upset.

Unfortunately, there will be people you dont get along with, especially in big families, be cordial, say hello and move on to other family members. You dont have to get along with her and you def. should not let your relationship with her get in the way of your dhs relationship with her(which you said you wouldnt want to do)

You can always have DH talk to her if you think that would do any good. if they are so close, maybe she just needs time getting used to "the new woman" around...

try not to let her get to you