dealing with 2 kids that want to do diff things

how do you figure out your day when you have two kids that want to do different things,
i have twin dds that are 2yrs old,
today i said lets go outside, one gets dressed the other refuses, so i said fine we will leave the pajama shirt one i just wanted her to change her shorts, she refuses, she is perfectly content to sit in the corner and play with her toys,
yes i can let her go out in her crappy pajamas, but do I?
i try to engage the other is something else, she just whines and won't do it, and on a sidenote she probably whines 50% of the day
this is just one example, this is all the time, they do play together but when they want different things its impossible to do anything

what do you do???

Re: dealing with 2 kids that want to do diff things

I would schedule your day like this:
kids wake up (change diaper/potty time)
have breakfast
brush teeth
get dressed
change diaper

Now you are ready for the day. You can choose to play inside or play outside. I would give the child the choice of two outfits and let them pick. You need to regain control of your kids. Your kids don't get to pick at this age, you do. It will be so much harder getting them on schedule/to do things if they are talking back now and you don't nip it in the bud. I would also think about instituting chores now so it will be second nature when they are older.

Message edited 7/23/2012 4:19:10 PM.

Re: dealing with 2 kids that want to do diff things

Maybe I am a bad mom, but my kids are 1, 5 and 6 and I never give them a choice of what we are going to do. They go where I go. My 6 year complains about EVERY place we have to go to even if he enjoys it like the park. I just ignore it.

Since you gave them a choice, I would say, now since twin 1 picked to play outside, next we pick what twin 2 wants. If we can't agree to that, nobody plays.