am i wrong? Dh watching the kids related..

I feel like when DH watches my dd he wants all this praise for doing what i feel he is supposed to be doing as a good dad. No one pats me on the back for doing what i do everyday as a mom. The last two saturdays dh has taken our dd not our son to the ebach club we belong to bc i had bridal showers to attend . His aunt told me how great he is with her etc etc. and he told me as well. I do appreciate it but to me it doesnt deserves praise. His thinking is most of the guys we are friends with down there dont do a a lot with their kids and he feels he does so much more than his friends and i should acknowledge that. my thing is just bc they are wrong doenst make what your doing so wondeful you are just doing what a NORMAl RESPONSIBLE dad woudl so and if your friends arent that way thats not my fault. Am i wrong?

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not at all

Re: am i wrong? Dh watching the kids related..

No, not at all.

I get heated when anyone asks me if DH is "babysitting??" It's his kid, how is that babysitting???

I get it from my IL's mostly. My MIL thinks he "hung the moon" as far as him taking care of DD.

I think he is a great dad, don't get me wrong, but he's being just that, a Dad.



ETA: I do love it when DH will take my DD to my family parties that I cannot make b/c of work. I think that is a nice thing to do. And my family members notice that and comment on it too.

Message edited 7/27/2008 12:33:32 PM.

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UGH, I hear ya.

DH needs praise for everything.

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You are not wrong at all. There is nothing else I cannot stand more than people praising dads for doing their regular obligatory duties. The babysitting thing peeves me too. You don't "babysit" your own kids.

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Posted by Summerrluvv

You are not wrong at all. There is nothing else I cannot stand more than people praising dads for doing their regular obligatory duties. The babysitting thing peeves me too. You don't "babysit" your own kids.

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I agree that he's supposed to be parenting his own child. I do recognize that by an older generation's standards, he's amazing. Fathers are now more involved in their child's upbringing than ever before & I think it's a good thing.

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I'm sorry, Noel, but I think you are wrong. I think he does deserve praise for being a great dad by spending the day with your DD. However, I feel that you deserve the same praise for being such a great mom. We all deserve praise from our SOs. I tell JT all the time what a great dad he is and how wonderful he is with Ava and vice versa. I thank him all the time for taking care of Ava if I run to the store, and he'll thank me if it's the other way around. Your DH obviously needs a little praise, and why not? It just might get him to watch DD more

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Parents should parent.... doesn't matter your gender. DW takes care of DC the vast majority of the time, but she's a SAHM, so mathematically, she will automatically be watching them more. I do what I can, not so I can be praised for "babysitting". I watch them because I want to be involved in their lives, and to help out DW.

I hear too many stories of teen/adult DC complaining that they never spent time with their dads growing up. I never want my kids to ever say that. That is my biggest fear. I want to spend as much time as possible with them because I love them and want to be with them.