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4ForMe
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"Mean girls"
I'm so upset right now. Another parent told me that a student made a nasty comment about my daughter. She had a little sleepover last week and when one girl that was coming told this particular girl where she was going, her reply was "Ew." My daughter has no clue this was said -- and is probably very nice to this girl. All I know is that if she found out she would be in tears. They are all in 7th grade.
My daughter is not the most popular, not the most cool and has a hearing disability, but is in honors classes and has a 99.5 average. She herself says "Mom, I'm a geek" and laughs about it. She is a sweetheart and wants to be friends with everyone -- and is generally liked by everyone. Not to mention I think she is beautiful.
I knew this was coming one day. I just had to vent. Kids can be so cruel. I hope I've done a good job in teaching my kids not to be like this.
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stephaniea
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Re: "Mean girls"
Mean girls suck. I always tell my kids, that girls who make fun of other girls are jealous and insecure. You keep telling your daughter how wonderful she is, because she is. Also let her know that the geeks are the ones who rule the world. Mean girls fade quick!!
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hazeleyes33
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Re: "Mean girls"
Girls are VERY mean. I am seeing this on facebook on my dd's account. Not particularly to her (even though some of the girls HAVE made comments to her) but to other girls. There is alot of cyber bullying also and I am thinking of going up to the school next year and speaking to the PTA about doing classes or something on this. ESPECIALLY for the parents as I don't think parents are monitoring their kids AT.ALL online or elsewhere. Parents nowadays (in my experience of having a middle schooler and a child in elementary school) are not allowing these children to be, simply, children. They throw them a cellphone at very young ages (in my opinion) and feel they can take care of themselves at young ages.
I wish I could give you some advice but I am not giving up on this. I am monitoring my dd's fb account, making her delete the mean girls as they are NOT true friends and she doesn't need to deal with them out of school.
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| Posted 6/24/10 2:00 PM |
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4ForMe
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Re: "Mean girls"
Posted by hazeleyes33
Girls are VERY mean. I am seeing this on facebook on my dd's account. Not particularly to her (even though some of the girls HAVE made comments to her) but to other girls. There is alot of cyber bullying also and I am thinking of going up to the school next year and speaking to the PTA about doing classes or something on this. ESPECIALLY for the parents as I don't think parents are monitoring their kids AT.ALL online or elsewhere. Parents nowadays (in my experience of having a middle schooler and a child in elementary school) are not allowing these children to be, simply, children. They throw them a cellphone at very young ages (in my opinion) and feel they can take care of themselves at young ages.
I wish I could give you some advice but I am not giving up on this. I am monitoring my dd's fb account, making her delete the mean girls as they are NOT true friends and she doesn't need to deal with them out of school.
I won't even let my daughter on FB because I'm afraid of what will happen. And 2 or 3 of her close friend's parents feel the same way thank God -- they won't let their girls on it either.
This is another whole story but a friend of the girl that make the "ew" comment posted 2 days ago "the science final can s uck my boyfriend's ****. Can you imagine??? 12 years old!!! Where are the parents???? Like I said before, I hope I've taught my kids better than this. And I won't encourage them to friends with these kinds of classmates -- whether it makes them "geeky" or not.
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| Posted 6/24/10 2:04 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: "Mean girls"
Posted by 4ForMe
Posted by hazeleyes33
Girls are VERY mean. I am seeing this on facebook on my dd's account. Not particularly to her (even though some of the girls HAVE made comments to her) but to other girls. There is alot of cyber bullying also and I am thinking of going up to the school next year and speaking to the PTA about doing classes or something on this. ESPECIALLY for the parents as I don't think parents are monitoring their kids AT.ALL online or elsewhere. Parents nowadays (in my experience of having a middle schooler and a child in elementary school) are not allowing these children to be, simply, children. They throw them a cellphone at very young ages (in my opinion) and feel they can take care of themselves at young ages.
I wish I could give you some advice but I am not giving up on this. I am monitoring my dd's fb account, making her delete the mean girls as they are NOT true friends and she doesn't need to deal with them out of school.
I won't even let my daughter on FB because I'm afraid of what will happen. And 2 or 3 of her close friend's parents feel the same way thank God -- they won't let their girls on it either.
This is another whole story but friend of the girl that make the "ew" comment posted 2 days ago "the science final can s uck my boyfriend's ****. Can you imagine??? 12 years old!!! Where are the parents???? Like I said before, I hope I've taught my kids better than this. And I won't encourage them to friends with these kinds of classmates -- whether it makes them "geeky" or not.
It is horrible how these kids talk. I saw a conversation on facebook (my dd had nothing to do with it or I would have been up at the school, LIVID) but I am still mad about it that I am watching these girls comments still. One said she would make sure that this girl goes missing and then the other came back and said she was fat and her brother would make sure she would go missing.
I could NOT believe I was reading this from 11/12 yr. olds. THAT is cyber bullying and I will not tolerate that at all. I am going to watch over the summer and see what happens when school starts.
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| Posted 6/24/10 2:14 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: "Mean girls"
It starts young, too. We're having issues with a few "mean girls" on the playground at my almost-5-year-old's school! I take it as a wonderful opportunity to coach my daughter on how to respond to them when they are mean to her, or to anyone else for that matter.
I was a tremendous dork in school, with a learning disability that eveyone made fun of me for - I was teased mercelessly, but hey, in the end, I turned out just fine  
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| Posted 6/24/10 3:15 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: "Mean girls"
I was coming on here to make an almost identical post...
My girls are 11 years old...
My one daughter is having the hardest time with friends lately. She says constantly that she doesnt fit in. Neither one of my girls ever had any trouble making friends so I just dont understand this. Part of it is that everyone is turning into "teenagers" and my daughter, at 11, just wants to be a kid....
Right now I just wish she had one close friend to hang out with. She essentially has no one....
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hazeleyes33
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Re: "Mean girls"
Posted by hbugal
I was coming on here to make an almost identical post...
My girls are 11 years old...
My one daughter is having the hardest time with friends lately. She says constantly that she doesnt fit in. Neither one of my girls ever had any trouble making friends so I just dont understand this. Part of it is that everyone is turning into "teenagers" and my daughter, at 11, just wants to be a kid....
Right now I just wish she had one close friend to hang out with. She essentially has no one....
It is so different than when we were kids and how we made and kept friends.
My dd had a friend over the other day and we are pretty sure she took her password for fb and hacked into her page. That p*sses me off to no end. How DARE you come to my house, spend all day, get fed and do that.
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hbugal
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Re: "Mean girls"
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by hbugal
I was coming on here to make an almost identical post...
My girls are 11 years old...
My one daughter is having the hardest time with friends lately. She says constantly that she doesnt fit in. Neither one of my girls ever had any trouble making friends so I just dont understand this. Part of it is that everyone is turning into "teenagers" and my daughter, at 11, just wants to be a kid....
Right now I just wish she had one close friend to hang out with. She essentially has no one....
It is so different than when we were kids and how we made and kept friends.
My dd had a friend over the other day and we are pretty sure she took her password for fb and hacked into her page. That p*sses me off to no end. How DARE you come to my house, spend all day, get fed and do that.
I hear you....
I feel like my girls are forgotten about when it comes to hanging out...
School is fine, they have people to hang out with...
But on the weekend..well..the phone doesnt ring. Everyone seems to have plans with someone else.
Neither one of them were invited to any of the end of the year parties. It's breaking my heart. They are nice girls and always appeared to be well liked with plenty of friends. I dont know what happened.
Im honestly looking forward to middle school where everyone is going to meet new people..
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hazeleyes33
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Re: "Mean girls"
Posted by hbugal
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by hbugal
I was coming on here to make an almost identical post...
My girls are 11 years old...
My one daughter is having the hardest time with friends lately. She says constantly that she doesnt fit in. Neither one of my girls ever had any trouble making friends so I just dont understand this. Part of it is that everyone is turning into "teenagers" and my daughter, at 11, just wants to be a kid....
Right now I just wish she had one close friend to hang out with. She essentially has no one....
It is so different than when we were kids and how we made and kept friends.
My dd had a friend over the other day and we are pretty sure she took her password for fb and hacked into her page. That p*sses me off to no end. How DARE you come to my house, spend all day, get fed and do that.
I hear you....
I feel like my girls are forgotten about when it comes to hanging out...
School is fine, they have people to hang out with...
But on the weekend..well..the phone doesnt ring. Everyone seems to have plans with someone else.
Neither one of them were invited to any of the end of the year parties. It's breaking my heart. They are nice girls and always appeared to be well liked with plenty of friends. I dont know what happened.
Im honestly looking forward to middle school where everyone is going to meet new people..
My dd doesn't do much on the weekends either with friends. She is home alot more than I remember being home at that age.
Middle school is when all of this started :(
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RMA9728
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Re: "Mean girls"
I'm so sorry....vent away. I teach 6th grade and girls can be VERY CRUEL. My oldest dd is in 4th grade and had to endure a lot of nasty things said or done to her this year. I can't get over how young the nastiness starts.
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4ForMe
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Re: "Mean girls"
Posted by hbugal
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by hbugal
I was coming on here to make an almost identical post...
My girls are 11 years old...
My one daughter is having the hardest time with friends lately. She says constantly that she doesnt fit in. Neither one of my girls ever had any trouble making friends so I just dont understand this. Part of it is that everyone is turning into "teenagers" and my daughter, at 11, just wants to be a kid....
Right now I just wish she had one close friend to hang out with. She essentially has no one....
It is so different than when we were kids and how we made and kept friends.
My dd had a friend over the other day and we are pretty sure she took her password for fb and hacked into her page. That p*sses me off to no end. How DARE you come to my house, spend all day, get fed and do that.
I hear you....
I feel like my girls are forgotten about when it comes to hanging out...
School is fine, they have people to hang out with...
But on the weekend..well..the phone doesnt ring. Everyone seems to have plans with someone else.
Neither one of them were invited to any of the end of the year parties. It's breaking my heart. They are nice girls and always appeared to be well liked with plenty of friends. I dont know what happened.
Im honestly looking forward to middle school where everyone is going to meet new people..
I hate to tell you this Heather but it gets so much worse in MS. She has 1 more year (8th grade) and then she'll be in the HS. I heard that's not even as bad as MS.
And the same thing happens here -- she has her group of friends that she hangs out with in school, but the weekend comes and no phone calls. She doesn't even text that much while her friends are constantly texting. But on the other side, she is mature for her age and doesn't really want to be bothered with gossip and bashing. If that's what makes her so uncool that that girl had to say "ew", than so be it.
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hbugal
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Re: "Mean girls"
Posted by 4ForMe
Posted by hbugal
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by hbugal
I was coming on here to make an almost identical post...
My girls are 11 years old...
My one daughter is having the hardest time with friends lately. She says constantly that she doesnt fit in. Neither one of my girls ever had any trouble making friends so I just dont understand this. Part of it is that everyone is turning into "teenagers" and my daughter, at 11, just wants to be a kid....
Right now I just wish she had one close friend to hang out with. She essentially has no one....
It is so different than when we were kids and how we made and kept friends.
My dd had a friend over the other day and we are pretty sure she took her password for fb and hacked into her page. That p*sses me off to no end. How DARE you come to my house, spend all day, get fed and do that.
I hear you....
I feel like my girls are forgotten about when it comes to hanging out...
School is fine, they have people to hang out with...
But on the weekend..well..the phone doesnt ring. Everyone seems to have plans with someone else.
Neither one of them were invited to any of the end of the year parties. It's breaking my heart. They are nice girls and always appeared to be well liked with plenty of friends. I dont know what happened.
Im honestly looking forward to middle school where everyone is going to meet new people..
I hate to tell you this Heather but it gets so much worse in MS. She has 1 more year (8th grade) and then she'll be in the HS. I heard that's not even as bad as MS.
And the same thing happens here -- she has her group of friends that she hangs out with in school, but the weekend comes and no phone calls. She doesn't even text that much while her friends are constantly texting. But on the other side, she is mature for her age and doesn't really want to be bothered with gossip and bashing. If that's what makes her so uncool that that girl had to say "ew", than so be it.
Im so not looking forward to this...
The one will be alright. She is in to the gossiping and boys and bashing. The other...not so much...
Does your DD want a new friend? She sounds alot like my DD...
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Why did the Mother need to tell you that?
It was only going to break your heart.
eta: correction...I mean the parent b.c you never said mother.
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