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Re: Wedding Invitation
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I think this is definitely a new trend. My BFF just got married and was telling me a lot of the younger brides on her Brides of Long Island page are emailing invitations. I mean, it cost me over $400 at the post office when I got married so I don't think it's a bad idea.
As for the honeymoon registry, to me, it's just a sign of changing times. If the couple is already set up with all the housewares, it's a nice option if someone still wants to give a gift.
I think about how much postage I spend on Christmas cards every year and wonder why I don't just do an email version. Such a waste of money!
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Re: Wedding Invitation
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It makes no sense and who knows what the couple does with the money you give them anyway. For all you know, they could go and blow it all on drugs but I guess that is better than asking for a fund for their honeymoon.
Yeah I think I might think it's tacky if someone registered at the local dispensary or sex toy shop... But for a nice dinner while on their honeymoon? No. I would think it's special that when they are enjoying the dinner they would think of me. If I had done this I would even take a pic of me doing whatever they paid for and send it with the thank you.
Honestly you have no clue what they do with your money you gift them and I have heard people talking about re-gifting shower gifts so probably better just to ask for what they really need.
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Re: Wedding Invitation
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It makes no sense and who knows what the couple does with the money you give them anyway. For all you know, they could go and blow it all on drugs but I guess that is better than asking for a fund for their honeymoon.
Yeah I think I might think it's tacky if someone registered at the local dispensary or sex toy shop... But for a nice dinner while on their honeymoon? No. I would think it's special that when they are enjoying the dinner they would think of me. If I had done this I would even take a pic of me doing whatever they paid for and send it with the thank you.
Honestly you have no clue what they do with your money you gift them and I have heard people talking about re-gifting shower gifts so probably better just to ask for what they really need.
Getting off topic but we already both owned homes when we got married and didn't need much. I did register for a bunch of new stuff but everything got bought and people were begging me to put more on the registry. I was even adding luggage at that point. 15 years later we are going to finally have to throw all the luggage out because it's all worn and broken. Makes me a little sad.
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Re: Wedding Invitation
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It makes no sense and who knows what the couple does with the money you give them anyway. For all you know, they could go and blow it all on drugs but I guess that is better than asking for a fund for their honeymoon.
Yeah I think I might think it's tacky if someone registered at the local dispensary or sex toy shop... But for a nice dinner while on their honeymoon? No. I would think it's special that when they are enjoying the dinner they would think of me. If I had done this I would even take a pic of me doing whatever they paid for and send it with the thank you.
Honestly you have no clue what they do with your money you gift them and I have heard people talking about re-gifting shower gifts so probably better just to ask for what they really need.
Getting off topic but we already both owned homes when we got married and didn't need much. I did register for a bunch of new stuff but everything got bought and people were begging me to put more on the registry. I was even adding luggage at that point. 15 years later we are going to finally have to throw all the luggage out because it's all worn and broken. Makes me a little sad.
So funny as I was just looking at my plates we use everyday and thought, these things are 29 years old and still going strong lol. A few did break but they are Corelle and really stood up to time 
The luggage, still have but can't use as they didn't have the rolling wheels back then, pain to carry around now.
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JME78
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Wedding Invitation
I know that cash gifts are very regional. Many areas of the country give physical gifts for weddings - now with couples getting married older, they don't need many of the basic household items - hence the honeymoon registry.
I would not contribute to a honeymoon registry simply because the company takes a cut. I would want my gift to go directly to the couple so I will continue to give cash/check.
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lpg21
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Re: Wedding Invitation
Regarding Honeymoon registry- I don't really mind it. I have a friend who is getting married in the fall, she lives with her fiancee and they have most of the stuff they need as far as housewares, so they are adding a honeymoon registry. At least its something they can use.
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Re: Wedding Invitation
Posted by JME78
I would not contribute to a honeymoon registry simply because the company takes a cut. I would want my gift to go directly to the couple so I will continue to give cash/check.
That's interesting I did not know that.
I'd definitely skip the honeymoon registry then.
Use my cash gift for it
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Re: Wedding Invitation
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by lululu
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by lululu
Posted by windyweather21
It makes no sense and who knows what the couple does with the money you give them anyway. For all you know, they could go and blow it all on drugs but I guess that is better than asking for a fund for their honeymoon.
Yeah I think I might think it's tacky if someone registered at the local dispensary or sex toy shop... But for a nice dinner while on their honeymoon? No. I would think it's special that when they are enjoying the dinner they would think of me. If I had done this I would even take a pic of me doing whatever they paid for and send it with the thank you.
Honestly you have no clue what they do with your money you gift them and I have heard people talking about re-gifting shower gifts so probably better just to ask for what they really need.
Getting off topic but we already both owned homes when we got married and didn't need much. I did register for a bunch of new stuff but everything got bought and people were begging me to put more on the registry. I was even adding luggage at that point. 15 years later we are going to finally have to throw all the luggage out because it's all worn and broken. Makes me a little sad.
So funny as I was just looking at my plates we use everyday and thought, these things are 29 years old and still going strong lol. A few did break but they are Corelle and really stood up to time
The luggage, still have but can't use as they didn't have the rolling wheels back then, pain to carry around now.
I still have my Pfaltzgraff every day dishes from my wedding 20 years ago. Problem is I've done my kitchen over twice since we bought the house and I had chosen the pattern to match the original kitchen.
So... yeah.. lol
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Re: Wedding Invitation
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by JME78
I would not contribute to a honeymoon registry simply because the company takes a cut. I would want my gift to go directly to the couple so I will continue to give cash/check.
That's interesting I did not know that.
I'd definitely skip the honeymoon registry then.
Use my cash gift for it
Yes that's the problem with go fund me.
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Re: Wedding Invitation
I am in a wedding party and asked to do the shower invites. I asked for the registry info and was given a link to wedding website where all they asked for was cash for honeymoon or house. I had to confirm that this was indeed all they are asking for because it did seem tacky to me too...and it was the correct info. No gifts. I felt so uncomfortable putting that link on the invites, but i had no choice. Guess it is trend right now.
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Re: Wedding Invitation
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by lululu
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by lululu
Posted by windyweather21
It makes no sense and who knows what the couple does with the money you give them anyway. For all you know, they could go and blow it all on drugs but I guess that is better than asking for a fund for their honeymoon.
Yeah I think I might think it's tacky if someone registered at the local dispensary or sex toy shop... But for a nice dinner while on their honeymoon? No. I would think it's special that when they are enjoying the dinner they would think of me. If I had done this I would even take a pic of me doing whatever they paid for and send it with the thank you.
Honestly you have no clue what they do with your money you gift them and I have heard people talking about re-gifting shower gifts so probably better just to ask for what they really need.
Getting off topic but we already both owned homes when we got married and didn't need much. I did register for a bunch of new stuff but everything got bought and people were begging me to put more on the registry. I was even adding luggage at that point. 15 years later we are going to finally have to throw all the luggage out because it's all worn and broken. Makes me a little sad.
So funny as I was just looking at my plates we use everyday and thought, these things are 29 years old and still going strong lol. A few did break but they are Corelle and really stood up to time
The luggage, still have but can't use as they didn't have the rolling wheels back then, pain to carry around now.
I still have my Pfaltzgraff every day dishes from my wedding 20 years ago. Problem is I've done my kitchen over twice since we bought the house and I had chosen the pattern to match the original kitchen.
So... yeah.. lol
I have expensive china and wine glasses sitting in my dining room cabinet that I haven't used... so pretty much a waste of money.
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Re: Wedding Invitation
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by lululu
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by lululu
Posted by windyweather21
It makes no sense and who knows what the couple does with the money you give them anyway. For all you know, they could go and blow it all on drugs but I guess that is better than asking for a fund for their honeymoon.
Yeah I think I might think it's tacky if someone registered at the local dispensary or sex toy shop... But for a nice dinner while on their honeymoon? No. I would think it's special that when they are enjoying the dinner they would think of me. If I had done this I would even take a pic of me doing whatever they paid for and send it with the thank you.
Honestly you have no clue what they do with your money you gift them and I have heard people talking about re-gifting shower gifts so probably better just to ask for what they really need.
Getting off topic but we already both owned homes when we got married and didn't need much. I did register for a bunch of new stuff but everything got bought and people were begging me to put more on the registry. I was even adding luggage at that point. 15 years later we are going to finally have to throw all the luggage out because it's all worn and broken. Makes me a little sad.
So funny as I was just looking at my plates we use everyday and thought, these things are 29 years old and still going strong lol. A few did break but they are Corelle and really stood up to time
The luggage, still have but can't use as they didn't have the rolling wheels back then, pain to carry around now.
I still have my Pfaltzgraff every day dishes from my wedding 20 years ago. Problem is I've done my kitchen over twice since we bought the house and I had chosen the pattern to match the original kitchen.
So... yeah.. lol
So funny. I have kept the black and white theme for 29 years, 3 kitchens -2 apts and 1 house (actually 4 as we gutted the one in our house now).
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lululu
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Re: Wedding Invitation
Posted by lpg21
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by lululu
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by lululu
Posted by windyweather21
It makes no sense and who knows what the couple does with the money you give them anyway. For all you know, they could go and blow it all on drugs but I guess that is better than asking for a fund for their honeymoon.
Yeah I think I might think it's tacky if someone registered at the local dispensary or sex toy shop... But for a nice dinner while on their honeymoon? No. I would think it's special that when they are enjoying the dinner they would think of me. If I had done this I would even take a pic of me doing whatever they paid for and send it with the thank you.
Honestly you have no clue what they do with your money you gift them and I have heard people talking about re-gifting shower gifts so probably better just to ask for what they really need.
Getting off topic but we already both owned homes when we got married and didn't need much. I did register for a bunch of new stuff but everything got bought and people were begging me to put more on the registry. I was even adding luggage at that point. 15 years later we are going to finally have to throw all the luggage out because it's all worn and broken. Makes me a little sad.
So funny as I was just looking at my plates we use everyday and thought, these things are 29 years old and still going strong lol. A few did break but they are Corelle and really stood up to time
The luggage, still have but can't use as they didn't have the rolling wheels back then, pain to carry around now.
I still have my Pfaltzgraff every day dishes from my wedding 20 years ago. Problem is I've done my kitchen over twice since we bought the house and I had chosen the pattern to match the original kitchen.
So... yeah.. lol
I have expensive china and wine glasses sitting in my dining room cabinet that I haven't used... so pretty much a waste of money.
I wish I had known in my younger years what a waste of money so much of this crap is.
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NervousNell
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Re: Wedding Invitation
Posted by Bonsai
I am in a wedding party and asked to do the shower invites. I asked for the registry info and was given a link to wedding website where all they asked for was cash for honeymoon or house. I had to confirm that this was indeed all they are asking for because it did seem tacky to me too...and it was the correct info. No gifts. I felt so uncomfortable putting that link on the invites, but i had no choice. Guess it is trend right now.
Honestly it's easier for the guests too. Cash is easiest. No need to worry about ordering or buying anything, wrapping it etc
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Re: Wedding Invitation
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Bonsai
I am in a wedding party and asked to do the shower invites. I asked for the registry info and was given a link to wedding website where all they asked for was cash for honeymoon or house. I had to confirm that this was indeed all they are asking for because it did seem tacky to me too...and it was the correct info. No gifts. I felt so uncomfortable putting that link on the invites, but i had no choice. Guess it is trend right now.
Honestly it's easier for the guests too. Cash is easiest. No need to worry about ordering or buying anything, wrapping it etc
Do they just not open gifts at the shower though?
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NervousNell
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Re: Wedding Invitation
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Bonsai
I am in a wedding party and asked to do the shower invites. I asked for the registry info and was given a link to wedding website where all they asked for was cash for honeymoon or house. I had to confirm that this was indeed all they are asking for because it did seem tacky to me too...and it was the correct info. No gifts. I felt so uncomfortable putting that link on the invites, but i had no choice. Guess it is trend right now.
Honestly it's easier for the guests too. Cash is easiest. No need to worry about ordering or buying anything, wrapping it etc
Do they just not open gifts at the shower though?
God I hope so.
That's the WORST-sitting there for hours.
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Re: Wedding Invitation
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Posted by windyweather21
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Bonsai
I am in a wedding party and asked to do the shower invites. I asked for the registry info and was given a link to wedding website where all they asked for was cash for honeymoon or house. I had to confirm that this was indeed all they are asking for because it did seem tacky to me too...and it was the correct info. No gifts. I felt so uncomfortable putting that link on the invites, but i had no choice. Guess it is trend right now.
Honestly it's easier for the guests too. Cash is easiest. No need to worry about ordering or buying anything, wrapping it etc
Do they just not open gifts at the shower though?
God I hope so.
That's the WORST-sitting there for hours.
You will still be sitting there though for hours
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NervousNell
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No- I was at a shower this weekend and we were done eating and had to sit around and wait for her to finish opening every last ever loving gift before we could get up and leave. I wanted to stab myself in the eye to get myself out of there as a medical emergency.
The WORSTTTTTTTTT
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Re: Wedding Invitation
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No- I was at a shower this weekend and we were done eating and had to sit around and wait for her to finish opening every last ever loving gift before we could get up and leave. I wanted to stab myself in the eye to get myself out of there as a medical emergency.
The WORSTTTTTTTTT
The last shower I went to, they had cake after the gifts so you weren't going to leave before that. Drinks were also flowing so no one went anywhere lol. I actually wished I had a ride home as I had to stop after a few while everyone else seemed to go for hours lol
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Re: Wedding Invitation
I do consider tacky to send email invites for a wedding. For a bday party, no but def for a wedding. Regarding the honeymoon, if the couple is living together already and have pretty much everything, I don’t think there’s anything wrong to ask for honeymoon gifts. It’s something they’d actually use so I don’t see anything wrong with that.
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The last 2 wedding invitations we got were physical invitations, but the responses were online through their wedding website on The Knot. Very easy. On the website, there were links to their registry, which included honeymoon stuff, but the shower was this weekend and you were also directed to the website for registry info. Both weddings were/are outside of NY, but one person of the couple are originally NYers. Outside of this area, it’s not unusual for people to give registry gifts for the wedding instead of money.
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NervousNell
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Re: Wedding Invitation
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Posted by NervousNell
No- I was at a shower this weekend and we were done eating and had to sit around and wait for her to finish opening every last ever loving gift before we could get up and leave. I wanted to stab myself in the eye to get myself out of there as a medical emergency.
The WORSTTTTTTTTT
The last shower I went to, they had cake after the gifts so you weren't going to leave before that. Drinks were also flowing so no one went anywhere lol. I actually wished I had a ride home as I had to stop after a few while everyone else seemed to go for hours lol
Oh there was no booze at this shower either.
I should have brought a flask
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Re: Wedding Invitation
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No- I was at a shower this weekend and we were done eating and had to sit around and wait for her to finish opening every last ever loving gift before we could get up and leave. I wanted to stab myself in the eye to get myself out of there as a medical emergency.
The WORSTTTTTTTTT
The last shower I went to, they had cake after the gifts so you weren't going to leave before that. Drinks were also flowing so no one went anywhere lol. I actually wished I had a ride home as I had to stop after a few while everyone else seemed to go for hours lol
Oh there was no booze at this shower either.
I should have brought a flask
OMG did you know that before going? That is just WR.ONG
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Re: Wedding Invitation
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Posted by NervousNell
Posted by windyweather21
Posted by NervousNell
No- I was at a shower this weekend and we were done eating and had to sit around and wait for her to finish opening every last ever loving gift before we could get up and leave. I wanted to stab myself in the eye to get myself out of there as a medical emergency.
The WORSTTTTTTTTT
The last shower I went to, they had cake after the gifts so you weren't going to leave before that. Drinks were also flowing so no one went anywhere lol. I actually wished I had a ride home as I had to stop after a few while everyone else seemed to go for hours lol
Oh there was no booze at this shower either.
I should have brought a flask
OMG did you know that before going? That is just WR.ONG
Oh i knew it.
these people are cheap as shit so everything was done at the bare minimum and booze would have been too expensive for them to spring for.
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Re: Wedding Invitation
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Posted by windyweather21
Posted by NervousNell
No- I was at a shower this weekend and we were done eating and had to sit around and wait for her to finish opening every last ever loving gift before we could get up and leave. I wanted to stab myself in the eye to get myself out of there as a medical emergency.
The WORSTTTTTTTTT
The last shower I went to, they had cake after the gifts so you weren't going to leave before that. Drinks were also flowing so no one went anywhere lol. I actually wished I had a ride home as I had to stop after a few while everyone else seemed to go for hours lol
Oh there was no booze at this shower either.
I should have brought a flask
OMG did you know that before going? That is just WR.ONG
Oh i knew it.
these people are cheap as shit so everything was done at the bare minimum and booze would have been too expensive for them to spring for.
Wow. Sounds like my the thread I just posted. I think some of comes out of their OCD of Covid and the rest their cheapness of actually having to feed and provide drinks to guests.
I'll have to tell you about their wedding sometimes....oh boy.... 
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