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LuckyStar
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Potty training
DD is 2.5. She is a smart, communicative kid who flat out refuses to go on the potty.
She frequently wakes up dry. I put her on the potty immediately and she’ll sit there until we cannot sit there any longer. Won’t go. The second I put a diaper on her, she goes. Tells me “I don’t want to go on the potty, I want to go in my diaper.” Her teacher tries throughout the day and DD tells her “Ms. xx you know I don’t like this. I’m not going to go in the potty.”
The other day she peed on the floor about 20 steps from the bathroom. Said “sorry mommy” and went about her business.
Any advice? This isn’t an issue of her not getting it. She gets it. It seems like more of a behavior thing than a readiness thing. She’s the sweetest child normally but mention “potty” and she looks at you like “oh no you didn’t.”
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Re: Potty training
This is my DS too. I gave up trying in hopes that in a month we can try again, for my own sanity lol.
My other 3 were very easy, so my only advice would be to bribe her. I know not everyone agrees with that route, but I’d ask her what she wants, to go on the potty. I always gave my other kids candies to encourage, but I think I’d buy this little boy a car if he would go potty on the potty  . Good luck!!
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| Posted 7/11/18 12:56 PM |
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Are the kids in her class potty trained yet?
My son fought it like crazy. He clearly knew how to hold it and understood what he needed to do, but every time I tried to "potty train" him he just refused. Then when he moved into the 3 year old room (he's December birthday, so he wasn't 3 yet), he was potty trained within a week because he wanted to go potty like the older kids in the room. It was like a switch flipped. Since then we've never had an accident, not even at night.
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| Posted 7/11/18 12:56 PM |
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LuckyStar
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Re: Potty training
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Are the kids in her class potty trained yet?
My son fought it like crazy. He clearly knew how to hold it and understood what he needed to do, but every time I tried to "potty train" him he just refused. Then when he moved into the 3 year old room (he's December birthday, so he wasn't 3 yet), he was potty trained within a week because he wanted to go potty like the older kids in the room. It was like a switch flipped. Since then we've never had an accident, not even at night.
No. None of them are. I think thats part of the problem. I don’t think any of the other kids try to go throughout the day, either. The teacher is the one who requested I send in a seat because she thinks she’s ready (this was months ago). She hasn’t gone once.
She’s also December and going into the 3’s class in Sept but she’s going with the same kids she’s with now.
I told DH our only shot is her being the only one not trained and she’ll be shamed into it.
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Potty training
I found most of my son's friends trained closer to their third birthdays. Except for my son who trained only recently around his fourth birthday lol. He wasn't even shamed... He wanted to go in his diaper and that was that. My only advise is don't let it become a power struggle or you will all go crazy.
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alli3131
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Potty training
It’s a control issue. Kids don’t have control of much at that age so some kids will dig in on those that they can. I forced my Ds to potty train. Many will not agree with my tactics but in knew there was no other way. We did the 3 day method and the first day there were lots of tears and more. But he was trained in 2 days.
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Re: Potty training
Posted by alli3131
It’s a control issue. Kids don’t have control of much at that age so some kids will dig in on those that they can. I forced my Ds to potty train. Many will not agree with my tactics but in knew there was no other way. We did the 3 day method and the first day there were lots of tears and more. But he was trained in 2 days.
What did you do?? Please save me!
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| Posted 7/11/18 2:37 PM |
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Re: Potty training
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by alli3131
It’s a control issue. Kids don’t have control of much at that age so some kids will dig in on those that they can. I forced my Ds to potty train. Many will not agree with my tactics but in knew there was no other way. We did the 3 day method and the first day there were lots of tears and more. But he was trained in 2 days.
What did you do?? Please save me!
3 day method. And when he begged for diapers I said no. The first day I had pee every where. Even in his legos. But I took the stance of I’m the parent and my rules.
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Re: Potty training
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Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by alli3131
It’s a control issue. Kids don’t have control of much at that age so some kids will dig in on those that they can. I forced my Ds to potty train. Many will not agree with my tactics but in knew there was no other way. We did the 3 day method and the first day there were lots of tears and more. But he was trained in 2 days.
What did you do?? Please save me!
3 day method. And when he begged for diapers I said no. The first day I had pee every where. Even in his legos. But I took the stance of I’m the parent and my rules.
We tried this, but his will was totally stronger than ours. First attempt, I gave up after two days of cleaning up pee EVERYWHERE. This was our first attempt, and he was on the younger side, so when he'd start peeing he'd run around and it would be everywhere (or even when he sat down, he wouldn't push it down and it would be everywhere. Second attempt, he wouldn't even sit on the potty. When I knew he had to go, I locked us in the bathroom to try to get him to sit down, he wouldn't, so the pee ended up everywhere. I gave up after a day of trying to get him to just sit on the damn thing. Then I waited until he was shamed at school, and he basically asked to go on the potty.
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Potty training
Dd was the same. Very verbal, great physical control, very mature. We're tried 3 day method at 2.5 and followed it to a t. She held her pee 12+ hours and it was like going through birth when she'd finally go. So awful. We gave up after I think 2 days.
Right when she was turning 3 I took the advice of a Montessori director. Encouraged her to try new things and relate her successes to encouraging her to try the potty. One conversation and she was trained by naptime with no accidents. It took a few extra days and one accident to get her comfortable with pooping but aside from that it was so easy.
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Re: Potty training
Posted by alli3131
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by alli3131
It’s a control issue. Kids don’t have control of much at that age so some kids will dig in on those that they can. I forced my Ds to potty train. Many will not agree with my tactics but in knew there was no other way. We did the 3 day method and the first day there were lots of tears and more. But he was trained in 2 days.
What did you do?? Please save me!
3 day method. And when he begged for diapers I said no. The first day I had pee every where. Even in his legos. But I took the stance of I’m the parent and my rules.
I agree. 3 day method. Did it with 3 kids. Took 3 days, 1 day and 2 days with a redo when she regressed and blamed the dolls (all were younger than 3). Worked with every kid. Gotta stick with it (it’s not easy), but it works.
To avoid the holding, we fed them juice and tons of it. They literally were peeing themselves the first day.
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Re: Potty training
I wish I had advice- my daughter is the same way, she just turned 3, very smart, talked early, etc... she refuses to pee in the potty, she is deathly afraid... she has no problem sitting after she has peed though. I have tried prizes, lolipops, etc. She will pee in her diaper and take it off, then sit on the potty then say OK I need a new diaper. We also talk about all of the kids at her daycare that pee on the potty, and how peeing in the potty makes you a big girl... I am hoping in a few months she will be ready.
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Re: Potty training
My twins are 3. One has been potty trained since 2.5 and the other just decided she wasn't gonna do it anymore. We trained them both together and once one was trained, the other was like "eff it" and just wasn't having it. We didn't push. They have different personalities and I didn't want to make it as if just because one did it, the other was pressured to go at the same rate. We are at the point now though that we are ready to tackle this head on again.
FYI: don't be pregnant and potty train because wine def. helps!  
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PitterPatter11
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Potty training
When they’re ready, they’re ready. My son seemed trendy to train in August 2016 (2 years, 4 months). Had a good 3-4 days with no accidents and then had like 4 accidents a day for 3 days. I didn’t have enough clothes to sustain that. I tried again in Jan 2017 (2 years, 8 months) and he was trained in one day. No accidents.
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Re: Potty training
Is there a reason you want her to be potty trained now? 2 1/2 is still so young. I found when I potty trained my son, once he was truly ready I didn’t really have to “potty train”..... he just got it overnight. My dh and I joke that we don’t know how to potty train a kid because we really never had to.
“Getting it” is just half the battle. If she doesn’t WANT to use the potty, then emotionally she just may not be ready. Personally if it were me, I wouldn’t overcomplicate and stress the issue. Just follow her lead. If she were 5, that would be another story... but she’s just a baby.
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Re: Potty training
Posted by PennyCat
Is there a reason you want her to be potty trained now? 2 1/2 is still so young. I found when I potty trained my son, once he was truly ready I didn’t really have to “potty train”..... he just got it overnight. My dh and I joke that we don’t know how to potty train a kid because we really never had to.
“Getting it” is just half the battle. If she doesn’t WANT to use the potty, then emotionally she just may not be ready. Personally if it were me, I wouldn’t overcomplicate and stress the issue. Just follow her lead. If she were 5, that would be another story... but she’s just a baby.
This. I have 2 children and never "potty trained" either. If they wanted to sit on the potty, they sat. When they started staying dry, we put them in underwear.
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