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NYCGirl80
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
Totally agree. The dad can be responsible for the children while the mom runs out for a quick errands. The children aren't babies. They just need an adult home, which is satisfied by the dad being there.
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NervousNell
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by MsSissy
Posted by NervousNell
If dad's weren't allowed to be alone with the kids for play dates, we'd never have anyone over since he is home with DD and I work.
Not sure why it would be an issue to have a DH at home during a play date while the mom ran out.
Are all men sexual predators or something?
Unless he set it up it's not acceptable. Pay attention 
So many rules, so many rules on LIF.....I can't keep up!
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WannaBeAMom11
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Am I wrong or right
Wow, my dh would be incredibly upset if he knew he wasn’t trusted because he’s a dad/man. This is sad. OP, my dh would grumble if it was a Sun since it’s his only day off but he would do it.
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| Posted 1/22/18 10:58 AM |
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LiveItUp
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Am I wrong or right
If the kids are old enough to play down the street, then they should be pretty self-sufficient and watching them shouldn't be much work at all. I could see him being a little annoyed if they were 4 years old and pulling the house apart, needing constant supervision, but if doesn't sound like that was the case.
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| Posted 1/22/18 11:32 AM |
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My DD has one friend who is over all the time, I know the mom well, and DH & I know the kid well. So I've run to the store, and if I know in advance I let the mom know and that DH will be home. She knows DH and is fine with it. Same goes at her house. She's run to the store and left the kids with her DH.
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by WannaBeAMom11
Wow, my dh would be incredibly upset if he knew he wasn’t trusted because he’s a dad/man. This is sad. OP, my dh would grumble if it was a Sun since it’s his only day off but he would do it.
If I haven't met or don't know the dad then I would be uncomfortable with one of my young daughters being left with him. Having DDs himself my husband wouldn't be offended and would understand. Frankly, I couldn't care less how a dad felt not being trusted with my daughters. That is my call to make.
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jellybean78
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
Agree. It shouldn't matter who set up the play date as long as one of the parents are home to watch the kids. My husband is just as capable as I am when it comes to watching our kids so I would see no problem with this.
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FirstMate
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by jellybean78
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
Agree. It shouldn't matter who set up the play date as long as one of the parents are home to watch the kids. My husband is just as capable as I am when it comes to watching our kids so I would see no problem with this.
Agreed and agreed.
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stinger
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Re: Am I wrong or right
I get. I have an ex and bf both single dads who have DDs whose friends come over.
Unfortunately, I see why people hesitate in this day when we hear horror stories. BF and ex understand it too.
But i think the posters DH issue was you planned it so im not watching them.
Message edited 1/22/2018 3:51:00 PM.
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BargainMama
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by MerryChristmas
Posted by WannaBeAMom11
Wow, my dh would be incredibly upset if he knew he wasn’t trusted because he’s a dad/man. This is sad. OP, my dh would grumble if it was a Sun since it’s his only day off but he would do it.
If I haven't met or don't know the dad then I would be uncomfortable with one of my young daughters being left with him. Having DDs himself my husband wouldn't be offended and would understand. Frankly, I couldn't care less how a dad felt not being trusted with my daughters. That is my call to make.
Yes, this exactly. I'm very selective on who my kids can go to for playdates anyway. I prefer them here
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StaceyWill
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by MerryChristmas
Posted by WannaBeAMom11
Wow, my dh would be incredibly upset if he knew he wasn’t trusted because he’s a dad/man. This is sad. OP, my dh would grumble if it was a Sun since it’s his only day off but he would do it.
If I haven't met or don't know the dad then I would be uncomfortable with one of my young daughters being left with him. Having DDs himself my husband wouldn't be offended and would understand. Frankly, I couldn't care less how a dad felt not being trusted with my daughters. That is my call to make.
I agree. I would not be comfortable if I didn't know the dad.
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blu6385
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by StaceyWill
Posted by MerryChristmas
Posted by WannaBeAMom11
Wow, my dh would be incredibly upset if he knew he wasn’t trusted because he’s a dad/man. This is sad. OP, my dh would grumble if it was a Sun since it’s his only day off but he would do it.
If I haven't met or don't know the dad then I would be uncomfortable with one of my young daughters being left with him. Having DDs himself my husband wouldn't be offended and would understand. Frankly, I couldn't care less how a dad felt not being trusted with my daughters. That is my call to make.
I agree. I would not be comfortable if I didn't know the dad.
you guys do know that if a dad was going to sexually assault a child which is what I am assuming is being applied here it can happen even if the mom is there.
IMO you either trust everyone in the house for a play date or you shouldn't leave your child there. Of course its everyone choice on what they want to do for them selves.
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NervousNell
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Re: Am I wrong or right
To be honest, I have met some mom's that I would not be comfortable leaving my DD with. Not sure why it's a man thing that everyone is afraid of.
Kind of sexist.
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Am I wrong or right
I don't have enough information. Like, if the dad is a doctor and the children were playing a dangerous sport, I'd rather the dad stay home than the mom. But if the mom is a doctor, then vice versa. What if the mom is a sloppy drunk? Again, I'd prefer the dad. What if the dad has narcolepsy? Then I'd prefer the mom!
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NervousNell
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by NYCGirl80
I don't have enough information. Like, if the dad is a doctor and the children were playing a dangerous sport, I'd rather the dad stay home than the mom. But if the mom is a doctor, then vice versa. What if the mom is a sloppy drunk? Again, I'd prefer the dad. What if the dad has narcolepsy? Then I'd prefer the mom!
What if one or both parents is the hypothetical LIF diabetic though?
Then what?
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w8andsee
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by NervousNell
What if one or both parents is the hypothetical LIF diabetic though?
Then what?
You send your kids to the playdate with bananas.
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| Posted 1/22/18 5:03 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by w8andsee
Posted by NervousNell
What if one or both parents is the hypothetical LIF diabetic though?
Then what?
You send your kids to the playdate with bananas.
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AllyMally
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Am I wrong or right
If I set up the playdate I stay. If I can't then I tell the parent my husband will be home. I think if the parents and the child know the other parent it's fine, but I wouldn't leave unless I had to. Personal preference. We also live in a small town and the kids go to a small school so we all know each other.
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Sash
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by AllyMally
If I set up the playdate I stay. If I can't then I tell the parent my husband will be home. I think if the parents and the child know the other parent it's fine, but I wouldn't leave unless I had to. Personal preference. We also live in a small town and the kids go to a small school so we all know each other.
I agree with this.. I would want to know. Male/female I don’t trust anyone just at face value with our getting to know them.
Also maybe I’m overprotective or my DS is too damn immature but him hanging down the street and not at the house would be more concerning. I’m guessing the parent knows this.
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by w8andsee
Posted by NervousNell
What if one or both parents is the hypothetical LIF diabetic though?
Then what?
You send your kids to the playdate with bananas.
Unless the parents hang icicle lights on their house.
Anyone that does that should be avoided at all costs.
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by NervousNell
To be honest, I have met some mom's that I would not be comfortable leaving my DD with. Not sure why it's a man thing that everyone is afraid of.
Kind of sexist.
I'm picky about moms too. I prefer kids to come here or to do activities out of the house like movies, painting places, etc.
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by blu6385
Posted by StaceyWill
Posted by MerryChristmas
Posted by WannaBeAMom11
Wow, my dh would be incredibly upset if he knew he wasn’t trusted because he’s a dad/man. This is sad. OP, my dh would grumble if it was a Sun since it’s his only day off but he would do it.
If I haven't met or don't know the dad then I would be uncomfortable with one of my young daughters being left with him. Having DDs himself my husband wouldn't be offended and would understand. Frankly, I couldn't care less how a dad felt not being trusted with my daughters. That is my call to make.
I agree. I would not be comfortable if I didn't know the dad.
you guys do know that if a dad was going to sexually assault a child which is what I am assuming is being applied here it can happen even if the mom is there.
IMO you either trust everyone in the house for a play date or you shouldn't leave your child there. Of course its everyone choice on what they want to do for them selves.
That is why I prefer to have playdates come to us or meet up for out of the home activities.
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NervousNell
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Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by PearlJamChick
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by w8andsee
Posted by NervousNell
What if one or both parents is the hypothetical LIF diabetic though?
Then what?
You send your kids to the playdate with bananas.
Unless the parents hang icicle lights on their house.
Anyone that does that should be avoided at all costs.
Well, that's just common sense 101. Come on!
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| Posted 1/23/18 10:33 AM |
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Boobobunny
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Re: Am I wrong or right
if this was at my house, i dont think my husband would have had an issue with me running a quick errand.
That being said, i know of a husband and wife...in which the husband refuses to be left alone with anyone else's kids besides his own. The reason for this is that he knows another man who was falsely accused of inappropriate behavior towards a child's friend. It turned out the child was being abused, but by a family member...but it took months for this man to clear his name. Neighbors, Friends and Family shunned him. So in the case of my male friend he feels that the likely hood of something similar happening to him is decreased if his wife is home for play dates.
sharing because it is just another way of looking at things
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| Posted 1/23/18 10:39 AM |
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CSK
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Am I wrong or right
I find this thread to be pretty eye opening that people feel this way.
That it seems that it would be a big problem if my wife ran an errand while my son has a play date and I was left home with the kids.... just crazy in my mind.
I have met most of the parents of my son's friends and do most of the birthday parties, so I don't think it would be an issue, but I seriously question how people justify this sort of double standard....
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