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mommy0604
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Concern for a close friend.....
I have a friend who always had irregular periods. Her periods stopped 12 years ago after she gave birth. What could it mean. She was in her early 30's when this happened. What could this mean?
Told her to go to doctor but she is afraid because she hasnt been in years and is embarrassed.
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Katareen
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Concern for a close friend.....
PCOS? Early menopause?
Does she have other symptoms?
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| Posted 10/1/17 3:09 PM |
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mommy0604
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
Posted by Katareen
PCOS? Early menopause?
Does she have other symptoms?
Just a frequent need to urinate alot. But its not like an urgent need where she cant make it to the bathroom.
urine leakage.....
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| Posted 10/1/17 3:13 PM |
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Katareen
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Concern for a close friend.....
If you look up amenorrhea (which is the absence of periods) you get a few possible causes. But she should see a doctor because none of them seem very frightening--she shouldn't be worried.
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mommy0604
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
Posted by Katareen
If you look up amenorrhea (which is the absence of periods) you get a few possible causes. But she should see a doctor because none of them seem very frightening--she shouldn't be worried.
Thats what i was thinking. Shes also a bit overweight for her age and her boobs are big.
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
Posted by mommy0604
Posted by Katareen
If you look up amenorrhea (which is the absence of periods) you get a few possible causes. But she should see a doctor because none of them seem very frightening--she shouldn't be worried.
Thats what i was thinking. Shes also a bit overweight for her age and her boobs are big.
I have absolutely no idea what having big boobs has to do with amenorrhea but 12 years without any gynecologic care is a LONG time and this is something that should have been addressed years ago.
She needs to find a GYN and go asap.
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
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NervousNell
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
Honestly none of us on this board are doctors so what we say really doesn't matter.
We can't diagnose her.
I'm sure Dr Google has plenty of ideas, but even that is just speculation.
If she really wants to find out why she hasn't had a period in years she will have to see a doctor unfortunately.
They won't judge her for not going in so long. When I got pregnant with DD I hadn't been to a gyn in so long it was actually insane. I told the dr and he was like, it's ok, it's fine, you are here now. He didn't judge or lecture me.
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mommy0604
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
Posted by NervousNell
Honestly none of us on this board are doctors so what we say really doesn't matter.
We can't diagnose her.
I'm sure Dr Google has plenty of ideas, but even that is just speculation.
If she really wants to find out why she hasn't had a period in years she will have to see a doctor unfortunately.
They won't judge her for not going in so long. When I got pregnant with DD I hadn't been to a gyn in so long it was actually insane. I told the dr and he was like, it's ok, it's fine, you are here now. He didn't judge or lecture me.
Trying to encourage her to go but she feels too embarrassed and ashamed.
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
Posted by mommy0604
Posted by NervousNell
Honestly none of us on this board are doctors so what we say really doesn't matter.
We can't diagnose her.
I'm sure Dr Google has plenty of ideas, but even that is just speculation.
If she really wants to find out why she hasn't had a period in years she will have to see a doctor unfortunately.
They won't judge her for not going in so long. When I got pregnant with DD I hadn't been to a gyn in so long it was actually insane. I told the dr and he was like, it's ok, it's fine, you are here now. He didn't judge or lecture me.
Trying to encourage her to go but she feels too embarrassed and ashamed.
I felt the same way. And then I had no choice, i was forced to go because I was pregnant. My Doctor was soooo cool though and never made me feel bad or guilty at all.
Where does she live? I can recommend my doctor if she is nearby
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mommy0604
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by mommy0604
Posted by NervousNell
Honestly none of us on this board are doctors so what we say really doesn't matter.
We can't diagnose her.
I'm sure Dr Google has plenty of ideas, but even that is just speculation.
If she really wants to find out why she hasn't had a period in years she will have to see a doctor unfortunately.
They won't judge her for not going in so long. When I got pregnant with DD I hadn't been to a gyn in so long it was actually insane. I told the dr and he was like, it's ok, it's fine, you are here now. He didn't judge or lecture me.
Trying to encourage her to go but she feels too embarrassed and ashamed.
I felt the same way. And then I had no choice, i was forced to go because I was pregnant. My Doctor was soooo cool though and never made me feel bad or guilty at all.
Where does she live? I can recommend my doctor if she is nearby
She is in LIC. She feels embarrassed because she hasn't gotten her period in so long. I also think she's afraid. I offered to go with her.
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
unless you are going to put a pillowcase over her head, throw her in the back of your car and physically take her to the doctor, there is nothing you can do. And no, no one here can diagnose, even those with a medical degree.
You cannot make someone give a damn about their own health.
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Concern for a close friend.....
I would encourage her to go see a doctor by saying that doctors are professionals who don't judge patients and to do it for her DC if not for her.
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
I didn't go for like 5 years after I had my DD. They didn't judge me or say a word. I know many people who have had their periods just stop...early menopause. But, like others have said, we can't really speculate what is going on with your friend. If she doesn't have insurance, she can visit the county health clinics, and they have sliding scale fees. Good luck to her
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
I know people who this has happened to and it was just early menopause. Others in the family has it happen to them as well
I think she should go and get checked out because she should anyway. But 12 years of no period and no symptoms, I’m doubting it’s anythig super serious. Could be thyroid because you mentioned weight.
First step she could take to ease herself into going is to see her primary dr. Your primary can check blood levels to see what’s happening and maybe they can recommend an OBGYN known for great bedside manner. But at least she can get some testing done to see if there’s anything up hornonally or w her thyroid
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MrsT809
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Concern for a close friend.....
I didn't go after my 6 weeks check up for over 2.5 years. I was definitely a bit embarrassed too. The doctor laughed and said you have kids, you're busy! She didn't bat an eye and said she felt like I was just there. They probably get people in every day that haven't been in years. They'd much rather see you now then not.
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mommy0604
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
I know people who this has happened to and it was just early menopause. Others in the family has it happen to them as well
I think she should go and get checked out because she should anyway. But 12 years of no period and no symptoms, I’m doubting it’s anythig super serious. Could be thyroid because you mentioned weight.
First step she could take to ease herself into going is to see her primary dr. Your primary can check blood levels to see what’s happening and maybe they can recommend an OBGYN known for great bedside manner. But at least she can get some testing done to see if there’s anything up hornonally or w her thyroid
I was thinking she should go to a GP first. She doesn't take good care of herself. Which is why she should go have herself just checked out.
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mommy0604
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
I know people who this has happened to and it was just early menopause. Others in the family has it happen to them as well
I think she should go and get checked out because she should anyway. But 12 years of no period and no symptoms, I’m doubting it’s anythig super serious. Could be thyroid because you mentioned weight.
First step she could take to ease herself into going is to see her primary dr. Your primary can check blood levels to see what’s happening and maybe they can recommend an OBGYN known for great bedside manner. But at least she can get some testing done to see if there’s anything up hornonally or w her thyroid
Just out of curiosity what symptoms would she feel if something were out of whack?
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
Posted by mommy0604
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
I know people who this has happened to and it was just early menopause. Others in the family has it happen to them as well
I think she should go and get checked out because she should anyway. But 12 years of no period and no symptoms, I’m doubting it’s anythig super serious. Could be thyroid because you mentioned weight.
First step she could take to ease herself into going is to see her primary dr. Your primary can check blood levels to see what’s happening and maybe they can recommend an OBGYN known for great bedside manner. But at least she can get some testing done to see if there’s anything up hornonally or w her thyroid
Just out of curiosity what symptoms would she feel if something were out of whack?
Everyone feels different. Google Hypothyroidism
Could be feeling cold when everyone else is warm
hair loss
peeling nails
Can have nodules which will cause the neck to look big
So many different things
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Re: Concern for a close friend.....
Lots of people don't go see the gyn for decades and then show up one day because they have to. These doctors are used to that and are very understanding. A good doctor isn't going to make her feel bad for it, so she shouldn't feel embarassed. Also, who cares what the doctor thinks as long as she goes and gets checked out?
Where is your friend located? You can get a bunch of recommendations on here for doctors with a good bedside manner.
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