LIFamilies.com - Long Island, NY


RSS
Articles Business Directory Blog Real Estate Community Forum Shop My Family Contests

Log In Chat Index Search Rules Lingo Create Account

Quick navigation:   

Catholic wedding question

Posted By Message
Pages: [1] 2

JoesWife628
Our family is complete :)

Member since 8/08

3934 total posts

Name:
Me

Catholic wedding question

Is there anyway to have the Catholic Church (RC) recognize a marriage that is not performed in a church? In case my syntax is off, will a Catholic Priest or Deacon marry a couple outside of a church?

Posted 8/2/13 9:31 PM
 
Long Island Weddings
Long Island's Largest Bridal Resource

SeaWolf14
*Crazy Cat Lady*

Member since 7/13

1324 total posts

Name:
Heather

Catholic wedding question

No I don't believe so.

Posted 8/2/13 9:54 PM
 

2BadSoSad
LIF Adult

Member since 8/12

6791 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

No, I don't think so either.

Posted 8/2/13 9:57 PM
 

teachermom
LIF Adolescent

Member since 8/11

843 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

Like at a catering hall? No.

Posted 8/2/13 10:04 PM
 

mbg1007
LIF Adult

Member since 3/09

1247 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

yes, but I think it depends on the religion of who they are marrying. I have been to a few catholic-jewish weddings at catering halls where a priest (who has a pulpit) and a rabbi do the ceremony together and the church recognized the wedding, they had to do precana, etc. Not sure if they would do it if both people are catholic or one was protestant.

Posted 8/2/13 10:12 PM
 

Kitten1929
LIF Adult

Member since 1/13

6040 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

No. It will not be recognized as the sacrament of marriage if it is not performed within the church.

Beware of officiants who say it will be recognized - it will not.

Message edited 8/2/2013 10:29:57 PM.

Posted 8/2/13 10:29 PM
 

WannaBeAMom11
LIF Adult

Member since 1/11

7391 total posts

Name:
Name

Catholic wedding question

Nope

Posted 8/2/13 10:31 PM
 

JoesWife628
Our family is complete :)

Member since 8/08

3934 total posts

Name:
Me

Catholic wedding question

Thanks...I'm Catholic and thought that was the case but said person claims, " she knows someone" as if this is an under-the-table sale of something that fell off of a truck.

Posted 8/2/13 10:32 PM
 

jm2010
LIF Infant

Member since 8/10

241 total posts

Name:

Catholic wedding question

for a Roman Catholic, since marriage is a sacrament, it must be celebrated in a church or a chapel ... my DH & I were married by a bishop from the American National Catholic Church in a garden - the bishop is a Franciscan and our marriage is recognized as a sacrament with the church but the Roman Catholic church is not fond of the ANCC ...

Posted 8/2/13 10:32 PM
 

2BadSoSad
LIF Adult

Member since 8/12

6791 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

I may have been wrong, but don't understand all of this.

From the Diocese of Rockville Centre



http://www.drvc.org/the-chancery/catholic-marriage.html

Posted 8/2/13 10:34 PM
 

JoesWife628
Our family is complete :)

Member since 8/08

3934 total posts

Name:
Me

Re: Catholic wedding question

Posted by jm2010

for a Roman Catholic, since marriage is a sacrament, it must be celebrated in a church or a chapel ... my DH & I were married by a bishop from the American National Catholic Church in a garden - the bishop is a Franciscan and our marriage is recognized as a sacrament with the church but the Roman Catholic church is not fond of the ANCC ...


I stand corrected. I never heard of it being recognized outside of a church/chapel.

Posted 8/2/13 10:36 PM
 

2BadSoSad
LIF Adult

Member since 8/12

6791 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

Posted by 2BadSoSad

I may have been wrong, but don't understand all of this.

From the Diocese of Rockville Centre



http://www.drvc.org/the-chancery/catholic-marriage.html



According to the Vatican website, Canon Law 1118, I just ready that an exception MAY be made for a Catholic marrying outside of their religion BUT that the wedding will only be certified/recognized by the other officiant.

Message edited 8/2/2013 10:59:29 PM.

Posted 8/2/13 10:49 PM
 

SeaWolf14
*Crazy Cat Lady*

Member since 7/13

1324 total posts

Name:
Heather

Catholic wedding question

A priest can officiate a wedding outside of church if he chooses but it's not recognized as a sacrament.

Posted 8/2/13 10:54 PM
 

My2Boys
Love.

Member since 10/05

4796 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

Message edited 8/4/2013 9:02:39 PM.

Posted 8/2/13 11:11 PM
 

JoesWife628
Our family is complete :)

Member since 8/08

3934 total posts

Name:
Me

Catholic wedding question

What if the both the bride and the groom are Catholic?

Posted 8/2/13 11:24 PM
 

BaseballWidow
*****

Member since 8/08

6657 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

Posted by JoesWife628

What if the both the bride and the groom are Catholic?



We were told no by our parish so we opted for an outdoor ceremony with a blessing by a priest after we were already married in a civil ceremony. We could have had a third ceremony inside a church to make us legit in the church's eyes but really didn't care so long as our kids could still be baptized.

Posted 8/2/13 11:35 PM
 

2BadSoSad
LIF Adult

Member since 8/12

6791 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

Posted by JoesWife628

What if the both the bride and the groom are Catholic?



From what Ive read, then no.

Posted 8/2/13 11:38 PM
 

gina409
TWINS!

Member since 12/09

27635 total posts

Name:
g

Re: Catholic wedding question

Posted by SeaWolf

A priest can officiate a wedding outside of church if he chooses but it's not recognized as a sacrament.



this

Posted 8/2/13 11:42 PM
 

PhyllisNJoe
My Box Is Broken

Member since 6/11

9145 total posts

Name:
Phyllis

Re: Catholic wedding question

Posted by BaseballWidow

Posted by JoesWife628

What if the both the bride and the groom are Catholic?



We were told no by our parish so we opted for an outdoor ceremony with a blessing by a priest after we were already married in a civil ceremony. We could have had a third ceremony inside a church to make us legit in the church's eyes but really didn't care so long as our kids could still be baptized.



This

If both are catholic it is not recognized. If one is anything other than catholic, then it is recognized by the church.

I found this whole thing to be ridiculous and was happily married in our wedding hall. Opted out of the mini church ceremony after. No need in my eyes.

Posted 8/3/13 9:04 AM
 

HisNoMore
LIF Toddler

Member since 12/10

415 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

My sister was married at a catering hall by a priest which she thought was recognized by the church. Turns out a few years later when it was time to baptize their son the church wouldn't allow them to do it unless they had a marriage IN the church so that it was recognized as a sacrament. So they did have to do that before they were able to have their son baptized.

Posted 8/3/13 1:14 PM
 

mbg1007
LIF Adult

Member since 3/09

1247 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

Posted by HisNoMore

My sister was married at a catering hall by a priest which she thought was recognized by the church. Turns out a few years later when it was time to baptize their son the church wouldn't allow them to do it unless they had a marriage IN the church so that it was recognized as a sacrament. So they did have to do that before they were able to have their son baptized.



wow, strict church, I have a friend who was married by a judge and was able to baptize her kids no problem. guess it depends on the church.

Posted 8/3/13 1:53 PM
 

OhBoyorGirl
LIF Adult

Member since 2/12

1789 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

Posted by JoesWife628

Thanks...I'm Catholic and thought that was the case but said person claims, " she knows someone" as if this is an under-the-table sale of something that fell off of a truck.



Lol. Maybe it is true. I didn't think it was at all possible but supposedly the priest who married my cousin somehow fudged some paperwork to make this happen. The priest was a family friend of her DH. Or my cousin lied to my aunt and uncle about it to get them off her back about not having it in a church, who knows? I guess a shady priest was the lesser of the two evils in their eyes, Chat Icon .

Posted 8/3/13 2:10 PM
 

PhyllisNJoe
My Box Is Broken

Member since 6/11

9145 total posts

Name:
Phyllis

Re: Catholic wedding question

Posted by mbg1007

Posted by HisNoMore

My sister was married at a catering hall by a priest which she thought was recognized by the church. Turns out a few years later when it was time to baptize their son the church wouldn't allow them to do it unless they had a marriage IN the church so that it was recognized as a sacrament. So they did have to do that before they were able to have their son baptized.



wow, strict church, I have a friend who was married by a judge and was able to baptize her kids no problem. guess it depends on the church.



It does depend on the church.
There are plenty of unwed parents who are able to baptize no problem. I could never understand why some churches are so strict and other go with the flow of changing times.

Posted 8/3/13 2:11 PM
 

shadows
LIF Adult

Member since 1/10

4694 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

Posted by Kitten1929

No. It will not be recognized as the sacrament of marriage if it is not performed within the church.

Beware of officiants who say it will be recognized - it will not.



This. My friend had a priest do an outdoor wedding at a country club. Years later she admitted that they had previously gotten married privately in the church since the outdoor wedding wouldn't be official.

I still think it's shady for a priest to do the 'fake' wedding outdoors Chat Icon

Posted 8/3/13 5:54 PM
 

MrsDamonSalv7319
Somewhere in Westeros

Member since 10/10

4495 total posts

Name:

Re: Catholic wedding question

No, a catholic priest/deacon will not marry outside of the church b/c marriage is a sacrement. But if the couple were to marry outside of the church and wished to have the church recognize their marriage, they could arrange to go in and sacrementalize (? I might have nade up this word) their marriage with a priest or deacon.

ETA that MOST churches do not require the parents to be married in the church in order to have their child baptized. The only requirement is that at least 1 of the God parents has to be a catholic who has made ALL of his/her sacrements (I know bc a family member works for a church and is in charge of scheduling baptisms). If you are given a hard time about baptizing a child, it ALWAYS pays to call a different parish.

Message edited 8/3/2013 6:00:35 PM.

Posted 8/3/13 5:54 PM
 
Pages: [1] 2
 

Potentially Related Topics:

Topic Posted By Started Replies Forum
A wedding question (not your typical question).... PotofLuck06 1/25/13 14 Families Helping Families ™
this is wedding related...sorry...but i have a question saraH 10/8/05 4 Families Helping Families ™
1 Year Wedding Anniversary Cake-Question LuvMy2Girls 9/15/05 5 Families Helping Families ™
Another wedding ring question... AJsMommy122 9/7/05 29 Families Helping Families ™
Question about your Wedding Rings... Moehick 9/7/05 28 Families Helping Families ™
wedding Thank you question dm24angel 8/4/05 4 Families Helping Families ™
 
Quick navigation:   
Currently 519796 users on the LIFamilies.com Chat
New Businesses
1 More Rep
Carleton Hall of East Islip
J&A Building Services
LaraMae Health Coaching
Sonic Wellness
Julbaby Photography LLC
Ideal Uniforms
Teresa Geraghty Photography
Camelot Dream Homes
Long Island Wedding Boutique
MB Febus- Rodan & Fields
Camp Harbor
Market America-Shop.com
ACM Basement Waterproofing
Travel Tom

      Follow LIWeddings on Facebook

      Follow LIFamilies on Twitter
Long Island Bridal Shows