pregnancy and anger...

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I'm 17w1d. just wondering if i'm alone on this one... i've been having really bad anger/temper issues lately. i don't know what's gotten into me but it's making me really upset and withdrawn - i don't like feeling this way but i'm having trouble keeping my cool. i feel like it builds up when i'm at work (and i have to force myself to keep calm) and then all comes out when I get home. which of course is not fair to DH.

he asks me what's going on and that he thought i should be "happy and glowing" in the second trimester... and i just don't know how to respond. because i'm just not.

on top of it i can't sleep. i am still working 50ish hours a week. and money is a constant stress factor.

anyone go through this? hormones? am i just losing my mind?

thanks...

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i'm totally with you... i feel really irritable and withdrawn and i also work crazy hours, can't sleep and am constantly exhausted

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aww dont worry! its totally normal! its prob a combination of the stress working so many hours, the money stress and hormones!!! (i know all 3 of those way too well)

try and not let it get to you, everything will work out!

and if you gotta scream! scream!

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I hear ya loud and clear!

My road-rage is beyond ridiculous!! I seem to be aggravated at the world and since DH is deployed, I have no one to take it out on.

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It's par for the course -- don't be too hard on yourself.

I call it pregnancy roid rage.

Some days are better than others and the lack of sleep can be a big factor too.

When you start feeling like that, do your best to take time for YOU. Take the weekend to do nothing and get some rest and treat yourself.

With my 2nd trimester came hormones where I could snap in 0.2 seconds. That whole "glowing" thing is crap to me. The 2nd trimester is when the baby is really growing, taking so much from you, and you are having to adjust to this new body that is shaping. It's a lot of stress.

The best advice I'd say is to sometimes tell people you need "me" time and do something that is good for your own mental health.

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Honestly I had this same problem--still do at 24W. I wasn't the super-excited pregnant woman I felt I should be....withdrawn is definitely a good word to describe it.

I really need to ask my doc if "pre-partum" depression exists because I really think I have some form of it.

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Yes! I am normally such a cool calm and collected person, but every so often lately i can seriously loose it! DH says "relax Lis!" I'm like, yea ok, easier said than done!!! Just leave me alone or just do what I ask of you!!!

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I could have written this myself!! The past two days have been overly stressful for stupid reasons!! I am getting overly upset about things and I feel out-of-whack

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yeah, my temper has gotten really really bad. i totally think it's all related to pregnancy so I try not to dwell on it too much.

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thank you so much for your responses/advice. it's really good to know i'm not alone. we're leaving for our babymoon/anniversary trip tomorrow and I really hope it brings me back to earth, somewhat.

i also have my 16w (even though i'm 17w) appointment today, and i think i'm going to tell my dr. how i'm feeling and see what he says.

i was on meds for anxiety for almost 8 years up until i got pg. I started weaning off them last summer in anticipation of TTC. I was just about weaned when I got my bfp... but i still had to stop abruptly. thank god i was at the lowest dose possible already.
I'm sure the lack of meds is also a contributing factor but i know it cant be ALL the reason why i feel this way.

MJ - love the "pregnancy roid rage"

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It's like magnified PMS...all the time!

I'm so anxious over everything, and I can 180 my mood in 0.2 seconds....over NOTHING sometimes.

I'm also having trouble keeping my mouth shut...I'm usually a very reserved person and if someone upsets me/does something stupid, i tend to not say anything...now, I'm just "tellin' it like it is" before I have a chance to stop myself!

DH can not wait until October and has said this is DEFINITELY our last kid (it was going to be anyway) since he can't take this again!! .....This usually serves to get me all ****** off again....even though I know he's right!

I think (at least I hope) it's normal...our hormones are all OVER the place with the baby growing inside. I think it's a wonder we stay sane at all!!

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My patience level is short too!

I just want to send you it'll get better!

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OMG! Thank you, i thought it was just me. It has been horrible this time around. Im 24 weeks and since 12 weeks i has been bad, one little thing goes wrong and my blood starts to boil and get so mad, i try not to lose it if DD breaks something or does something she isn;t supposed to. I caught myself yelling at her over something stupid and i felt horrible the whole day. Maybe it's because im unemployed and stressed about money and the CRAZY maternity bills, the hormones....i want my old self back...

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Believe me... you are NOT alone.
Poor DH got a whole lecture the other day about getting everything done with the house for DS's 2nd b-day, his room, the nursery for the new baby, etc.
He's a contractor and I threatened to hire someone. LOL

I feel totally stressed and working FT with a toddler doesn't help.
For the first time I had to take a deep breath and tell myself... It's OK if it doesn't get all done. DH has been wonderful and calming, but he knows I can snap at a moment's notice

It's not easy! Pregnancy hormones are bad!
I even got a call from a friend's mom about a small Sprinkle they're having for her daughter. I have my weekends planned out till LO arrives and this messes up everything. THen I realized I was being silly.
I'm on a rollercoaster of emotions!

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This is my take on it....hopefully it comes out right, lol.

I feel my anger comes from the lack of attention.

Not attention that I want everyone google-eyeing over me every sec..attention to realize, I'm going to take a little longer walking the stairs, I need a little more help with my son, a little longer to sit in between pts( my boss will actually call up front and ask where is his next, when I'm the quickest tech he's ever had!) I really feel like sometimes ppl forget I'm preggo and push me over and over, and I'm waiting for someone to say....give her a break, she's got 2 kids at home, a household to run, and she's on her feet at work all day. I think way in the back of my mind I become resentful towards the ppl that sometimes forget and push.. its not their fault cause 99 percent of the world forgets....

I think that's where my frustration and anger sometimes comes from.

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with both my pregnancies I'm awful...I even hate being around me....DH keeps saying I cannot wait until this baby is born...

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I feel like I was more of a time bomb in my 2nd trimester, now I am happy and glowing and love and peace and all that good stuff in the 3rd, so it will pass .

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Not angry, but I used to be overly nice and concerned about others, I feel like I don't have the time for that anymore. I'm more straightforward and stick up for myself more.

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I think it's probably hormones...I'm sure it's all normal, and hopefully just a little phase for you.

I'm a teacher and I feel like I have no patience anymore at work. I currently hate my school, so it's a lot of added stresses that make me miserable. My kids constantly say I have mood swings, but I think it's just because they act up so much, and then I blow up like a crazy woman. hahaha So I can relate at work..At home, thankfully, I haven't had mood swings.

Can you cut your hours at all? Explain to DH, it's a combo of your hormones and stress over money and work. Talk it out with him.

Give yourself a break and time to relax. Maybe get a massage, or have hubby give you one.

It's not easy being pregnant!!

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OMG YES. For me it started this week. Not sleeping and my moods change in an instant. I teach middle school and bottle it up all day and then flip out when I get home.

My MIL sent me an email about not liking the crib's we pick out for the twins and i lost it. Cried for hours last night. I know it is hormones, but that doesn't make it better in the moment.

I also having major self image problems. Not helping anything, my clothse don't fit and I hate the way maternity tops look. Why can't I wear tank tops to work? again hormone related. So I feel really bad about myself, and snap ALL THE Time.

Some how throwing up last month seems so much nicer.

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Yes... I completey feel the same. I'm so cranky and easily irritated everyday. I can go from so ****** off to upset and crying that I'm so ****** off then right into laughing at myself because I feel ridiculous for how I'm acting in .2 seconds. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster ride of emotions lately.

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Totally with you, stressing all the time about money and getting ready for the baby and frustrated and short fuse.