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antoinette
boy mamma
Member since 5/05 2975 total posts
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Antoinette
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not reciprocating gifts
My Grandma and My aUnt have money. And they always send checks and gift cards for us. We cannot reciprocate but we are always thankful and apppreciative. I still feel bad about it :( Dh is out of work and we are lucky we can get enough for the kids from Santa and the other people that we see. We dont see them they just send the gift. Do you have anyone that gets you a gift and you do not recipricate??
Message edited 12/22/2010 11:52:46 AM.
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heathergirl
Cocktail Time!
Member since 10/08 4978 total posts
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American mouth
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Re: not reciprocating gifts
We do not, but you could always just send a nice card that says how appreciative you are  or send a gift basket when times get better
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| Posted 12/22/10 11:55 AM |
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JenniferEver
The Disney Lady
Member since 5/05 18163 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: not reciprocating gifts
We do, actually. I send homemmade cookies to some family members. Some give us more expensive gifts which we can't return, but which we write nice thank you cards for, and some don't send us anything.
The idea of a gift is that it's from the heart and should not carry an expectation of a return. If they care enough to send gifts, they care to understand your situation. 
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| Posted 12/22/10 11:57 AM |
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fight the future
Master of my domain.
Member since 3/10 2067 total posts
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Rebecca
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Re: not reciprocating gifts
they're family. they probably know and understand.
they want to help you guys out and be generous and they can afford to.
express your gratitude as best you can. let them know you love them and appreciate what they're doing for you.
maybe you can make them something? give back in ways you can.
even if its just calling them up for no reason or going to visit them if you can?
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| Posted 12/22/10 11:58 AM |
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Otherme
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Re: not reciprocating gifts
DH's aunt always gives him money at Hanukuh.. always has and probably always will!
We don't get her anything in return, but he's sure to send her a nice thank you card.
I think the appreciation of the gift is all that's necessary - you don't need to justify why you can't or don't return it. People don't give gifts to get something in return, they do it because they want to
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| Posted 12/22/10 11:59 AM |
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MrsS6510
2 girls?!?!?
Member since 9/10 3318 total posts
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L
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Re: not reciprocating gifts
DH's aunt and uncle gave us a check for Christmas. We never get them anything 
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| Posted 12/22/10 12:01 PM |
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jilliibabii
Mrs. O'Connor
Member since 6/10 12821 total posts
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Jillian
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Re: not reciprocating gifts
Posted by Motown Throwdown
they're family. they probably know and understand.
they want to help you guys out and be generous and they can afford to.
express your gratitude as best you can. let them know you love them and appreciate what they're doing for you.
maybe you can make them something? give back in ways you can.
even if its just calling them up for no reason or going to visit them if you can?
ITA. I don't give a gift in anticipation of getting something back in return. I understand how you feel though. I think a homemade gift is a great idea!
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| Posted 12/22/10 12:01 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
HAPPY
Member since 2/07 17374 total posts
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EMBRACING CHANGE
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Re: not reciprocating gifts
Posted by JenniferEver
The idea of a gift is that it's from the heart and should not carry an expectation of a return. If they care enough to send gifts, they care to understand your situation.
this is how i feel.
there have been times when i've been able to give more than i've received. there have also been many times when i wasn't able to give.
just let them know how much it means to you. they understand
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| Posted 12/22/10 12:03 PM |
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GoldenRod
10 years on LIF!
Member since 11/06 26792 total posts
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Shawn
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Re: not reciprocating gifts
If someone gives a gift, expecting a return gift of equal value, they aren't giving a gift, they are basically just returning the gift they have in their hands for a different one.
I never expect reciprocal gifts. I give what I want to give, and if the receiver is able to give me something in return, that's cool, even if it's a box of cookies. 
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| Posted 12/22/10 12:24 PM |
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bicosi
life is a carousel
Member since 7/07 14956 total posts
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Re: not reciprocating gifts
Posted by jilliibabii
Posted by Motown Throwdown
they're family. they probably know and understand.
they want to help you guys out and be generous and they can afford to.
express your gratitude as best you can. let them know you love them and appreciate what they're doing for you.
maybe you can make them something? give back in ways you can.
even if its just calling them up for no reason or going to visit them if you can?
ITA. I don't give a gift in anticipation of getting something back in return. I understand how you feel though. I think a homemade gift is a great idea!
ditto!
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| Posted 12/22/10 12:39 PM |
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blondiebabyZ
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Re: not reciprocating gifts
we try to reciprocate gifts or at least make up for it by buying more pricer things for our fams kids. this year we just got a check from DH's aunt for xmas and our birthdays and we are like sh*t we didnt plan on buying her anything what do we get her!
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| Posted 12/22/10 12:56 PM |
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christinec2010
LIF Adolescent
Member since 10/09 637 total posts
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Christine
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Re: not reciprocating gifts
Most family & friends understand situations like that. If they don't then too bad for them.
I have a few friends who kids I will always purchase gifts for at Christmas time. I do not want a gift back, I just give them a gift because I love shopping for kids.
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| Posted 12/22/10 12:56 PM |
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