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new2ttc
LIF Infant
Member since 1/10 221 total posts
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its a secret
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
yes...at least the first night!
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tann22
LIF Adult
Member since 6/05 2421 total posts
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
DH stayed with me the whole time when I had DS & it was so wonderful to have him there and share this experience together. This time around I'm not sure. He might stay home with DS unless my parents take him.
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| Posted 4/8/10 1:47 PM |
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melbalalala
Little Lady
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Melissa
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
Hellz yes, I wouldn't have it any other way!
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| Posted 4/8/10 2:04 PM |
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skinny
3 boys and a princess!
Member since 11/08 8178 total posts
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Momma
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
I wish he could but I won't have a private room. 
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| Posted 4/8/10 2:27 PM |
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MetsGirl07
LIF O2 Vendor
Member since 12/07 16202 total posts
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Deanna
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
we have a dog so its better if he goes home every night to take care of her
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| Posted 4/8/10 2:30 PM |
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Aries14
Can't plan life...
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
as a BTDT mom - I really thought I would want my DH to stay, especially the first night but I was sooo tired and drugged up and didnt even feel like worring about him and him sleeping in the chair, lol. I think it also depends alot on what time you give birth. I gave birth at 11:50 pm - by the time I got into my room it was 3am. I was so exhusted and he was too. It honeslty didnt phase me wheather he stayed or not. Which is why I ended up telling him to just go home and be back early the next morning. I was in the hospital for five days (and a private room) and he didnt stay once. I was so tired by the time he was leaving that i just wanted to be alone and sleep!! I think you just need to feel it out when the time comes 
Message edited 4/8/2010 2:42:45 PM.
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| Posted 4/8/10 2:42 PM |
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Little-J-Mommy
I'm a Big Brother
Member since 5/06 8041 total posts
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D
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
I think I made him go home so we both could get some sleep. I don't know how much sleep we really got though
Now that we already have a ds at home, he'll def be coming come to be with our son
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| Posted 4/8/10 2:47 PM |
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jerseygirl
LIF Adolescent
Member since 11/08 808 total posts
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
It's really up to him. I'll bring his stuff in my overnight bag just in case he wants to. But, I'm thinking that he'll probably sleep at home so he can be up and ready the next day when we take the baby home.
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| Posted 4/8/10 2:56 PM |
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mrsprop
LIF Adolescent
Member since 4/09 768 total posts
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Maureen
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
Not sure yet. It all depends on how the delivery goes and if we have someone to watch our dogs.
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| Posted 4/8/10 3:18 PM |
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babymakes3
Almost there!
Member since 7/06 7376 total posts
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
I'm not 1st time but LIJ didn't allow it. He stayed until he had to leave (I think 10pm?).
He was so exhausted from being up nearly the entire 24 hours I was in labor, I wanted him to go home to get a full night's rest.
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| Posted 4/8/10 3:40 PM |
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Goldi0218
My miracles!
Member since 12/05 23902 total posts
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Leslie
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
LIJ WILL let you stay if you have a private room. I had one and DH stayed late but went home.
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| Posted 4/8/10 3:42 PM |
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NYchic
Girl & boy
Member since 6/09 2357 total posts
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
absolutely NOT.
I didn't think they let DH's stay...at least at Winthrop I don't believe they do. I've heard they have to be gone by 10pm.
Even if they did let him stay - I'd send him home. I need my sleep, as will he!
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| Posted 4/8/10 3:49 PM |
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NYchic
Girl & boy
Member since 6/09 2357 total posts
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
Posted by neener1211
The nurses wake you up every 2-3 hours to bring you a baby, and then take your vitals and check what's going on down there.
do they bring you baby all night long if you are NOT BF? ugh I was hoping at least in the hospital I'd get some sleep! I thought I could tell them to keep the baby for the night? 
thanks.
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| Posted 4/8/10 3:53 PM |
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NervousNell
Just another chapter in life..
Member since 11/09 54917 total posts
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..being a mommy and being a wife!
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
Posted by NYchic
Posted by neener1211
The nurses wake you up every 2-3 hours to bring you a baby, and then take your vitals and check what's going on down there.
do they bring you baby all night long if you are NOT BF? ugh I was hoping at least in the hospital I'd get some sleep! I thought I could tell them to keep the baby for the night?
thanks.
I heard you can have the baby in the nursery all night if you are not BFing.
No need to have them there if you aren't BFing them I don't think.
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| Posted 4/8/10 4:03 PM |
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Marbo
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
Posted by NYchic
Posted by neener1211
The nurses wake you up every 2-3 hours to bring you a baby, and then take your vitals and check what's going on down there.
do they bring you baby all night long if you are NOT BF? ugh I was hoping at least in the hospital I'd get some sleep! I thought I could tell them to keep the baby for the night?
thanks.
I delivered at NSUH Manhasset and I could have kept the baby all night, have them bring me the baby every 3 hours or not at all. I let them bring the baby every 3 hours...my roommate let them keep the baby at night-she breastfed during the day and let them give formula at night. I guess it also depends on the hospital.
My dh did not spend the night-better for him to be refreshed at least. I got to the hospital at around 2:30 am (started with contractions at like 11pm so I never got to sleep) and had the baby at 12:34pm and then was up that whole day...so we were pretty much up for 2 days straight. I was exhausted by the time I got home...the picture of me the day we came home is horrible
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| Posted 4/8/10 4:06 PM |
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LoriH
There's no place like home
Member since 8/07 4110 total posts
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Lori
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
Posted by NYchic
Posted by neener1211
The nurses wake you up every 2-3 hours to bring you a baby, and then take your vitals and check what's going on down there.
do they bring you baby all night long if you are NOT BF? ugh I was hoping at least in the hospital I'd get some sleep! I thought I could tell them to keep the baby for the night?
thanks.
Even if you are breastfeeding, you can request they supplement with formula overnight and leave the baby in the nursery. They may advise against it because of nipple confusion ect but you can do it.
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| Posted 4/8/10 4:13 PM |
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Shellyfj
LIF Adolescent
Member since 8/07 744 total posts
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Shelly
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
I would like him to be there.
Even if I told him to go home, he probably wouldn't.
We are attached at the hip!
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| Posted 4/8/10 4:21 PM |
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Superkat
More a stranger than a friend
Member since 5/06 9730 total posts
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K
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
My husband did with our first baby. I probably won't ask him to the second time, unless I deliver late at night/evening.
With my son, I was in labor for 22 hours and hadn't slept in 48 hours. So once the baby was born, out of NICU and safely in our room, I was fast asleep. I didn't want him in the nursery. I wanted him with us. My husband said when he woke up to feed my son for that first night time feeding, he really felt like a father at that moment.  Then my son peed on him and he felt even MORE like a dad.
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| Posted 4/8/10 4:38 PM |
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FiR4Grif
LIF Infant
Member since 12/07 103 total posts
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
I have yet to hear of a hospital that allows husbands to stay the night. I would have loved for my DH to stay and he would have loved to. They allowed him to stay late, but it is not typical that they will allow them to stay over (and I had a private room as well.)
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| Posted 4/8/10 4:42 PM |
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neener1211
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Member since 4/07 22952 total posts
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J
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
Posted by NYchic
Posted by neener1211
The nurses wake you up every 2-3 hours to bring you a baby, and then take your vitals and check what's going on down there.
do they bring you baby all night long if you are NOT BF? ugh I was hoping at least in the hospital I'd get some sleep! I thought I could tell them to keep the baby for the night?
thanks.
I know other girls posted to this, but I'll just give my experience. I had DS at 11:44 at night after laboring all day. I told them I wanted to try to breastfeed. When they got me to my room at around 1:30 ish, they asked if I wanted them to feed him a bottle for his first feeding and keep him in the nursery. I was so exhausted I said yes. 10 minutes later they roll DS in to try to breastfeed. So ok, I try. Didn't happen for us. I decide I am going to formula feed DS. They then brought him to me every 2.5 hours (or something like that).
The next night, they asked if I wanted to keep him in the nursery to get some sleep, I said sure! Well, around 4 am, they wheel DS in, because that was the start of THEIR day. So needless to say, they didn't really keep him in the nursery at night-but it was fine because I couldn't wait for when they brought him to me each time, and I hated when they took him away.
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| Posted 4/8/10 4:44 PM |
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NYchic
Girl & boy
Member since 6/09 2357 total posts
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
Posted by neener1211
I know other girls posted to this, but I'll just give my experience. I had DS at 11:44 at night after laboring all day. I told them I wanted to try to breastfeed. When they got me to my room at around 1:30 ish, they asked if I wanted them to feed him a bottle for his first feeding and keep him in the nursery. I was so exhausted I said yes. 10 minutes later they roll DS in to try to breastfeed. So ok, I try. Didn't happen for us. I decide I am going to formula feed DS. They then brought him to me every 2.5 hours (or something like that).
The next night, they asked if I wanted to keep him in the nursery to get some sleep, I said sure! Well, around 4 am, they wheel DS in, because that was the start of THEIR day. So needless to say, they didn't really keep him in the nursery at night-but it was fine because I couldn't wait for when they brought him to me each time, and I hated when they took him away.
good to know...thanks! and so sweet on hating when they took him away! LOL that the nurses day started at 4am...ouch!
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| Posted 4/8/10 4:46 PM |
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BreezyBrie
Loving my "CC"
Member since 4/10 1975 total posts
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
I'm not sure if Good Sam allows this, but if they do and he wants to stay I'm okay with it. BUT I wouldn't enforce it. Knowing my husband, if he can stay...he will.
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| Posted 4/8/10 5:05 PM |
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jgl
Love my little boys!!!
Member since 8/07 7060 total posts
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
yesI play on him doing so Im not a fan of being alone
Ill have family feed our cat and rabbit.
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| Posted 4/8/10 5:13 PM |
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BabysMomma29
Due with Baby #2!
Member since 10/08 2004 total posts
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Tricia aka MattandTricia07
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
I told him he didn't have to, but he insists. I'm pretty uncomfortable about staying over night in a hospital so he wants to make sure I'm okay.
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| Posted 4/8/10 6:41 PM |
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sasha96
lovin' my 2 little ladies!
Member since 5/05 7401 total posts
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Julianne
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Re: 1st time mommies . . are you having DH stay at the hospital over night with you?
check with your hospitals...many don't let dads stay overnight in maternity. they can, of course, stay in L&D.
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