ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

I hope this makes sense since I am working on very little sleep...

Up until this past thursday night Talia has slept in her crib - no problem. I would put her down, say goodnight and that is it.

Often she would wake at 4:30-5am and wouldn't go back to sleep. So lately I have been taking her into the bed in her room (we have a full size bed in her room in addition to the crib) and we both fall back asleep until about 8.

WELL...on friday night I went to put T to sleep and she had a FIIIIIIIT - SCREAMING BED BED BED BED...she wanted to sleep in the big bed.

OK - so I put her in the bed and stayed with her until she fell asleep. She woke up at 2am looking for me. I went in there and layed with her until she fell asleep again but she wouldnt let me leave..so I spent the night sleeping with her.

Sat night she slept at my moms in a pack and play no problem.


LAst night same thing - I put her in the crib and she had a FIT...so back in the bed we go. She falls asleep - I leave no problem. At 2:30 she wakes up. SHe has a FULL temper Tantrum that she wants to sleep in my bed...not happening - so finally I covince her to sleep in her bed. SHe didnt fall back asleep until close to 5am!!!!!!! (I was laying with her)

I feel like this is so not working for us - she is too young for the bed and not comfy enough to be alone.

SO - tonight I want to put her in her crib - but my question is do you think I should take the bed out of her room so she doesnt see it? Am I scarring her or teaching her the bed is bad if I put her back in the crib?

OR

Do I just chug along with the bed and hope she gets more and more used to it?

THe problem is she is such a light sleeper and doesnt let me leave at night - I cant start sleeping with her all night every night...

I really am at a loss - and I'm really tired to boot.


Help!

eta: I dont know if this is a factor - but she has been napping in my bed for months due to loud construction in the 'hood. ITs the only place that is quiet.

Message edited 7/16/2007 8:09:57 AM.

Re: ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

bumping because I am desperate.

Re: ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

I have not BTDT but could you buy her a smaller bed or a toddler bed and make that transition? Maybe the full size bed is too overwhelming for her to be alone at night? Is her room fully baby proofed so you could leave her in there safely? Hmmm maybe she's too young.

Re: ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

I would take her crib out of the room, I think shes confused and really wants to sleep in a big girl bed! It might take a few nights of you coming in and staying with her so shes feels comfortable with it, but I'm sure she will get use to it, and will sleep on her own in no time!

Re: ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

Well, it actually sounds like separation anxiety to me. Plus, I think you need to pick one, the bed or the crib, and stick with it, too. Whichever you're not using needs to come out of the room. I'm obviously not at that point yet, but Ava definitely needs consistency with her sleep habits or else we have a miserable baby.

Message edited 7/16/2007 10:47:29 AM.

Re: ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

How old is she?

Re: ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

I also think you should choose whether you want her crib or bed to sleep in. Remove the one you don't want out of the room.
Not sure if you are into CIO, but you might have to do it for a couple of days. It will be hard for a couple of days, but soon she will get use to it.
My oldest gave us a problem right before he turned 2, so we converted his crib to a toddler bed and he still gave us a problem. I CIO for a couple of days and soon he learned that I wasn't budging and he accepted.
If you pick the bed, I don't think it's a good idea to sleep with her. I think it's confusing to her if you are there sometimes and not others. Consistency is the key.
Good luck, I know it tough

Re: ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

Re: ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

I haven't been through this yet, but something similar happened when my brother was younger.

He was afraid to be in his room by himself - it came on all of a sudden, after he was transitioned to a bed. My mom had to take baby steps with him. First she would sit with him on the bed until he fell asleep for a few days. Then she would sit by the door for a few days. After that she moved to the hallway - then down the hall to her room. Finally it got to the point that she could just go down stairs.

I definitely wouldn't say that it was easy or convenient, but it worked. I think that it helped in transitioning that way so that when he woke in the middle of the night he was able to get himself back to sleep without my mom being there with him.

HTH!

Re: ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

she is 22 months.

I have tried white noise machines - night lights - nothing works with her.

I think i am going to have to remove the bed - at least I can try that and see what happens from there.

Re: ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

wow, that sounds tough. Bella is 22 months, we have made no attempt at beds yet, but will soon. When we do, the crib will come down and it will probably be interesting...

Sorry

What I do with Bella is if she wakes at ANY time before 6:45 am, I go into her room and tell her it's too early and time to go back to sleep...usually workd pretty well.

Re: ok ladies - if I ever needed advice - today is the day - long but please read BTDT moms

Okay this may come off harsh but please know it is not meant that way at all.

It sounds like she is working you!!

My dd does this all the time. You give a little and then you end up back at square one. Not sure if you did CIO when she was little but it sounds like you might need to try that again.

My daughter woke up the other night and started screaming like someone was killing her. I am not sure why but she never does this and I ran in there and held her and then brought her in my bed for a little bit. Well, don't you know that for the next 2 weeks she was doing that. She was fine but she knew I would come running. As soon as I would open the door the screaming stopped and she would say mommy bed. I was exhausted so I had two nights of screaming where I would go in once and say "you are fine. You need to go back to sleep. If you scream and cry again I am not coming back in because I know you are fine". She is back to sleeping like an angel all through the night.

Anyway, after all that I think she is testing you. Stick with one and let her yell if she needs to. She will be fine.