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aliwnec10
mom of 3 boys
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Ali
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Re: do your parents/inlaws come to your house on xmas? (poll)
Posted by ali120206
Right now they don't but, I can see that changing as my DC get older.
In your case though, I feel they are being extremely selfish. You have good reason to stay home and you were spending the rest of the day with them anyway!
yeah i'm just done. Every year is a problem for holidays and they just make it miserable each year because of it. I'm due next month with #2 and i'm not doing this every year. I'm certainly not going to schlep the kids out of the house first thing in the morning on christmas either.
So this year... fine let them do a drive by and drop off my sons gifts and then not come for dinner. That's THEIR choice. When their daughter goes west for the afternoon/night, then let them sit home by themselves on christmas. Maybe that will give them some perspective on how wrong they are. 
I always try to fix the problem with them or have my husband mend it, but i'm done. I'm not giving in to their temper tantrum.
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Bellaocchi
Hope Faith Love
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Re: do your parents/inlaws come to your house on xmas? (poll)
We do what's easiest for us. Especially this year with LO being only 7 weeks old. I pretty much don't let them make the rules for my family.. KWIM?
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| Posted 12/16/11 2:49 PM |
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LINewbie
Tigger the the Rescue!
Member since 8/08 5647 total posts
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LB
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Re: do your parents/inlaws come to your house on xmas? (poll)
We live in the same area as the inlaws, and we go over there b/c they give gifts to the BIL and SIL too so its easier. We have a light lunch there and hang out until we go to H's aunt for Xmas dinner.
This year that side of the family has broken off so my parents from Colo. and my brother/sil from upstate will be at our house Christmas, then we'll go to the ils for the main meal and presents.
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| Posted 12/19/11 9:03 PM |
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babymakes3
Almost there!
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Re: do your parents/inlaws come to your house on xmas? (poll)
Growing up, my grandparents came to us. We went to there house either Christmas Day night or the weekend before/after.
If we lived near grandparents, they would come to us, but we are 1200 miles away from all of them.
I would certainly not pack up kids & toys 3x a day just to see the same people at a different house!
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| Posted 12/19/11 9:15 PM |
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ddunne2
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Member since 7/05 4189 total posts
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Doreen
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Re: do your parents/inlaws come to your house on xmas? (poll)
Posted by nickipa
My parents are out of town, but when it's our year with them they come to us---for me Christmas is about the kids---I want them to wake up in their beds, run down the stairs and see Santa was here. It doesn't mean we won't ever travel to them for Christmas, but when they are little I prefer to do it at my house.
This is what we do. My kids are 7,5, 18 months, so we stay home despite nonsense from Inlaws about wanting us there on x-mas eve. They live out of town so we would need to travel for and stay for a few days to make it worth it.
Advice to original poster: do what you and DH want. everyone else will have to deal with it. You have all the rights in the world to do what you want on christmas and any other holiday. we've told the inlaws they are more than welcome to come spend xmas morning with us, but they are stuck on their "traditions." We've tried to explain that yes...exactly that...those are YOUR traditions. And now we are create our own traditions for our children like you did for yours.
Its exhausting, but create the memories you want for your family.
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| Posted 12/20/11 8:06 AM |
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ddunne2
LIF Adult
Member since 7/05 4189 total posts
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Doreen
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Re: do your parents/inlaws come to your house on xmas? (poll)
Posted by aliwnec10
Posted by ali120206
Right now they don't but, I can see that changing as my DC get older.
In your case though, I feel they are being extremely selfish. You have good reason to stay home and you were spending the rest of the day with them anyway!
yeah i'm just done. Every year is a problem for holidays and they just make it miserable each year because of it. I'm due next month with #2 and i'm not doing this every year. I'm certainly not going to schlep the kids out of the house first thing in the morning on christmas either.
So this year... fine let them do a drive by and drop off my sons gifts and then not come for dinner. That's THEIR choice. When their daughter goes west for the afternoon/night, then let them sit home by themselves on christmas. Maybe that will give them some perspective on how wrong they are.
I always try to fix the problem with them or have my husband mend it, but i'm done. I'm not giving in to their temper tantrum.
This is my approach now also. Their loss but pouting about whose house they are at. My inlaws do the same thing and I just shake my head b/c my kids are at the best age for xmas...they get it, they absolutely believe in Santa and Chrismtas morning is what they live for. Inlaws prefer to carry on this nonexistant tradition they think they have by having x-mas eve at their house. We refuse to pack up our kids, santa etc and travel 6 hours to them. They have no interest in coming to us. Oh well....more cookies for us to eat on Christmas!
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| Posted 12/20/11 8:09 AM |
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sunflowerjesss
Mommy to 3!
Member since 10/05 20369 total posts
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Jesss, duh.
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Re: do your parents/inlaws come to your house on xmas? (poll)
My inlaws come here for Christmas Eve dinner/exchanging gifts and my parents spend Christmas morning with us (exchanging gifts and breakfast).
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| Posted 12/20/11 8:31 AM |
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MrsGmomof3
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Member since 6/08 3290 total posts
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Irrelevant
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Re: do your parents/inlaws come to your house on xmas? (poll)
Nope. We do Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas Day we spend at home, just us 
We spent TOO many years driving here, there, and everywhere on Christmas. 3 kids, ages 8, 6, and 4... they want to be at home with their new toys. We started this tradition 4 years ago of staying HOME and having a family (just us) holiday. We see the ILS the day after.
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| Posted 12/20/11 8:34 AM |
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JavaJunkie
Someday, Somehow
Member since 6/05 5857 total posts
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Lois
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Re: do your parents/inlaws come to your house on xmas? (poll)
We started hosting Xmas eve our first year married, both sides of the family are invited and this way we get to see everyone at once give gifts, eat etc. Xmas morning is just us at home until about 2ish then we go to inlaws for DS to get his gifts and have dinner. My inlaws don't bring DS gifts on Xmas eve to cut down on chaos since we see them Xmas day too
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| Posted 12/20/11 9:23 AM |
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lorich
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Member since 6/05 9987 total posts
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Grammie says "Lora Gina"
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Re: do your parents/inlaws come to your house on xmas? (poll)
No. I prefer to celebrate Christmas morning with just the three of us - DH, DS & myself.
After DS's nap we head over to my SIL's house where my ILs will be & celebrate again.
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| Posted 12/20/11 10:00 AM |
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neener1211
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Member since 4/07 22952 total posts
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J
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Re: do your parents/inlaws come to your house on xmas? (poll)
We will be going to my mom's for breakfast (bringing my MIL with us) and then everyone will come back to our house for dinner and opening presents.
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| Posted 12/20/11 10:04 AM |
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