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Wondering protocol for friend's parents passing
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spooks
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Wondering protocol for friend's parents passing
Sadly, My friend's father passed. I'm not sure of the protocol - I'll be attending the funeral (Jewish) and assumed I should go to the gravesite as well but My parents said that isn't necessary?
Also, I see her and sometimes with the kids, the husbands rarely get together with us. So I was going to have DH not attend funeral but pay a shiva call with me. Does this seem ok?
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Posted 8/9/16 8:55 PM  |
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Wondering protocol for friend's parents passing
I would go to the funeral, maybe not the cemetery unless your friend would like you there. I would def sit shiva as much as possible and bring or deliver food to the shiva house.
Edit. I'd have dh stay home with the kids during the funeral but I would def have him at the shiva
Message edited 8/9/2016 9:03:09 PM.
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| Posted 8/9/16 9:01 PM |
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mommy2B3
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Re: Wondering protocol for friend's parents passing
I just lost my dad, I'm not Jewish though so I can't comment on those traditions, but I can say anything you do will be very appreciated. For us, only close family and friends go to the gravesite, so that would depend on your relationship with her.
I would say to keep in touch with your friend about her dad, just continuing to ask if she's ok etc., it's been a little over a month since my dad passed and I feel quite isolated because nobody seems to care any longer even though it's just getting harder for me. Prayers for your friend and her family.
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| Posted 8/10/16 8:12 AM |
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Wondering protocol for friend's parents passing
I think it depends on your relationship with her. How often do you speak? Not necessarily how often you see each other but more how often there is communication. Did she tell you about the passing or did you find out on social media?
My friends mother passed about a year ago (he's married to one of my best friends - I introduced them). Because I know both of them and knew his mother (our dad's worked together), I went to both wakes, the funeral, and the gravesite. If it was just someone that I speak to on occasion, I'd probably just pay the shiva call and that's it.
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| Posted 8/10/16 9:37 AM |
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Eunyboo
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Re: Wondering protocol for friend's parents passing
Posted by mommy2B3
I would say to keep in touch with your friend about her dad, just continuing to ask if she's ok etc., it's been a little over a month since my dad passed and I feel quite isolated because nobody seems to care any longer even though it's just getting harder for me. Prayers for your friend and her family.
This!!!!
I would have DH go to Shiva and I would go to the actual funeral (gravesite).
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| Posted 8/10/16 9:46 AM |
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