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Mom0710
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Who should have final say?

This is a bit silly and not a big deal, but I'm curious. We are doing a photo shoot of all 3 grandkids for my MIL's Christmas gift. It was my bil's idea, so we are just along for the ride. I have 2 kids and bil has 1. So me and sil are going this week for outfits. I have 2 girls and she has one boy. I suggested Christmas pj's. Because I think it's cute and easy and we can get a lot of use out of the pj's. Sil is kind of eh on that idea. Which bothers me, I don't know why exactly. Both of our husbands are the children of our mil, so it's not like it's her mom or my mom.

Who should pick what they wear? What would you put them in!

Posted 11/16/15 6:06 PM
 
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PitterPatter11
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Who should have final say?

If I was paying for a photo shoot, I would personally not have my DS in PJs. I prefer preppy clothes. He'd get a lot of use out of those since that's how I dress him almost every day.

Posted 11/16/15 6:38 PM
 

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Who should have final say?

Idk if someone should necessarily have "final say," but i think you should bother do dorm thing you'll be happy with.

Eta; could you do outfits and then a pj shoot?

Message edited 11/16/2015 6:41:45 PM.

Posted 11/16/15 6:41 PM
 

Sparrow
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Who should have final say?

I'm personally not a fan of professional photos in pjs so Ivan understand the other side of it. As far as who gets to choose, I think it should be a compromise.

Posted 11/16/15 8:30 PM
 

AngnShaun
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Who should have final say?

Could you ask your DHs what they think their mom would prefer

Posted 11/16/15 8:37 PM
 

ChristinaM128
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Re: Who should have final say?

I think the most closest to "standard" wins. I agree that I would not do pj's for a professional shoot. If you do want to do something slightly quirky, I don't think this is the situation for it when others are involved.

Posted 11/16/15 9:12 PM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

Try gymboree.
They are having a big sale (max price $17) & their stuff coordinates. With a coupon, it's even less.
I wouldn't be crazy about my kids in pjs either (we do have those pics, but they are of Xmas morning).

Posted 11/16/15 9:33 PM
 

Wishes1111
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Who should have final say?

I don't think I'd like the idea of pjs either if I'm paying for a photo shoot so since regular holiday clothes would be more of the norm I'd go with that

Posted 11/16/15 9:38 PM
 

Mom0710
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Re: Who should have final say?

Posted by AngnShaun

Could you ask your DHs what they think their mom would prefer



I think she would.like both.

They are going target next Monday for the pics, so.we are meeting this week to get outfits. It just bugs me that.kind of shot it down right away.

Thanks all

Posted 11/16/15 9:43 PM
 

AngnShaun
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Re: Who should have final say?

Posted by Mom0710

Posted by AngnShaun

Could you ask your DHs what they think their mom would prefer



I think she would.like both.

They are going target next Monday for the pics, so.we are meeting this week to get outfits. It just bugs me that.kind of shot it down right away.

Thanks all



im pretty sure you can do more than one outfit at target. I guess you could call to ask. I think pj pics for christmas are adorable

thats what our christmas card is (see my avatar pic) and it will be next year too, i already have matching PJs lol

Message edited 11/16/2015 9:53:17 PM.

Posted 11/16/15 9:52 PM
 

Mom0710
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Re: Who should have final say?

Posted by AngnShaun

Posted by Mom0710

Posted by AngnShaun

Could you ask your DHs what they think their mom would prefer



I think she would.like both.

They are going target next Monday for the pics, so.we are meeting this week to get outfits. It just bugs me that.kind of shot it down right away.

Thanks all



im pretty sure you can do more than one outfit at target. I guess you could call to ask. I think pj pics for christmas are adorable

thats what our christmas card is (see my avatar pic) and it will be next year too, i already have matching PJs lol



Thanks! Your dd's is too cute! Maybe we will do both.

Posted 11/16/15 10:03 PM
 

BlessedMomma
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Who should have final say?

It sounds to me like your feelings are hurt they didnt like your idea more than anything else. It doesnt seem like the pjs pic really has any meaning to you. So id let it go...

Personally im not a fan of pj photos... its cute to a certain age after that if im paying for professional photos im dressing up my dd...

Posted 11/16/15 10:38 PM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

PJ's for a professional photo... meh.......

Posted 11/17/15 7:54 AM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

I don't like pjs for professional photos an a child over age one. But it sounds like your feelings were hurt. I would figure out if you could do both regular and pj picks, but my first choice is for dressy photos.

Posted 11/17/15 8:25 AM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

If you're "just along for the ride," as you say, then you don't have the final say. They do.

Posted 11/17/15 8:46 AM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

If your mil is going to put up a big portrait on the wall - I would be against the pj pics as well. Will she want to look at Christmas pjs all year up on the wall.
When we do the portrait for the grandparents we have tried to be dressy but not to holiday like as to make the picture appeasing all year round

Posted 11/17/15 10:43 AM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

Posted by MrsO

If your mil is going to put up a big portrait on the wall - I would be against the pj pics as well. Will she want to look at Christmas pjs all year up on the wall.
When we do the portrait for the grandparents we have tried to be dressy but not to holiday like as to make the picture appeasing all year round



I agree with this

Posted 11/17/15 10:45 AM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

I'm going to say majority rules.

Didn't know pjs for a shoot wasn't popular. This was last year. I also did it again this year but I did have them change to another outfit both times Chat Icon

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Posted 11/17/15 10:49 AM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

We did this last year with SIL and she's very formal...she picked PJs for the cousins shot and it came out adorable. It's a huge portrait on MIL's wall and since they're 3,2 and 1 in the pic it's totally fine they're in PJs.

Posted 11/17/15 11:11 AM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

Posted by MrsO

If your mil is going to put up a big portrait on the wall - I would be against the pj pics as well. Will she want to look at Christmas pjs all year up on the wall.
When we do the portrait for the grandparents we have tried to be dressy but not to holiday like as to make the picture appeasing all year round



I agree. If it's a photo that is going to be framed and hung on the wall, I would go with formal, neutral, non-Christmasy outfits.

Could you do both pjs and formal outfits so everyone is happy? Then give MIL both sets in an album and let her pick which one she wants to enlarge and hang on her wall.

I'm sure they'll come out great whatever you decide.

Posted 11/17/15 11:20 AM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

My siblings do this for my parents twice a year. My one sister takes charge of outfits because the others just don't think/care about it.

At the shoot, they always have the photographer do sibling shots along with group shots. You can have your kids change into PJs and do pics of just them if you want.

I understand why she might not like the idea but it doesn't mean you can't still do it with your kids.

Posted 11/17/15 11:31 AM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

When you say you are "along for the ride" does that mean that you aren't contributing financially? If you aren't then I think your SIL should 100% pick the type of outfits.

If you are both contributing, I'd say that you should find a way to incorporate an outfit change and do 1 of each's choosing.

Posted 11/17/15 12:48 PM
 

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Who should have final say?

If you're not paying, I don't think you can expect final say.

Posted 11/17/15 1:03 PM
 

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Re: Who should have final say?

SIL
It was her project/idea and you, as you said are just along for the ride ........so, she had something in mind when she decided to do this - Unless she's asking you to spend $300 on matching outfits, i'd just continue to go fro the ride.

Posted 11/17/15 1:06 PM
 

Mom0710
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Re: Who should have final say?

Posted by MarisaK

SIL
It was her project/idea and you, as you said are just along for the ride ........so, she had something in mind when she decided to do this - Unless she's asking you to spend $300 on matching outfits, i'd just continue to go fro the ride.



I agree with you. To answer a few questions, my Dh paid for the groupon and will be paying for the photos. I would like a say in what they wear. Maybe "final say" was the wrong expression to use. I just know we have different styles and I don't want to be steam rolled over.

Thanks all!

Posted 11/17/15 3:57 PM
 
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