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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by MrsA1012
One question : if you thought you dropped your child off at the babysitter / daycare wouldn't you remember not bringing the child in , saying goodbye to the child etc , then driving to your place of work ? That seems like a pretty big thing to forget ! If you took your baby with you on an errand and left him in the car when you arrived that seems a bit more plausible.
I just remember reading a story about a mom whose son died in the car, she drove back to daycare at the end of the day to pick her child up and they told her that he was not there that day - that was when she immediately knew what she had done.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by momtimes2
Posted by MrsA1012
One question : if you thought you dropped your child off at the babysitter / daycare wouldn't you remember not bringing the child in , saying goodbye to the child etc , then driving to your place of work ? That seems like a pretty big thing to forget ! If you took your baby with you on an errand and left him in the car when you arrived that seems a bit more plausible.
I just remember reading a story about a mom whose son died in the car, she drove back to daycare at the end of the day to pick her child up and they told her that he was not there that day - that was when she immediately knew what she had done.
i really cant even read this, jesus christ
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by momtimes2
Posted by MrsA1012
One question : if you thought you dropped your child off at the babysitter / daycare wouldn't you remember not bringing the child in , saying goodbye to the child etc , then driving to your place of work ? That seems like a pretty big thing to forget ! If you took your baby with you on an errand and left him in the car when you arrived that seems a bit more plausible.
I just remember reading a story about a mom whose son died in the car, she drove back to daycare at the end of the day to pick her child up and they told her that he was not there that day - that was when she immediately knew what she had done.
Right, but walking / carrying your baby into the daycare, seeing/talking to the the teachers, hugging your child goodbye, saying goodbye to the staff etc seems like a big chunk of the morning routine. It is hard for me to understand how you can forget that when it is such an ingrained part of daily life. Or if you really did forget it, wouldn't you remember before the end of a long day? For example, I'm very dependent on my smart phone for work as I cannot work without it. I obsessively double check that I have it before I leave the house. Three times in the last three years, I realized that I left the house without it. All three times I realized within 10 minutes and went back for it. So I guess that's what I don't get. Wouldn't you at some point during the day realize, hey I forgot something, kwim ?
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by maymama
We are doing too much. Phones, emails, work, schedules, practice, meetings, appointments .... SO sad.
I think THIS is the root of the problem. We aren't as FOCUSED as we should be.
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| Posted 6/20/14 11:14 AM |
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by kahlua716
Posted by maymama
We are doing too much. Phones, emails, work, schedules, practice, meetings, appointments .... SO sad.
I think THIS is the root of the problem. We aren't as FOCUSED as we should be.
Agreed. All the recent children killed from being hit by cars had me thinking this too. 
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kahlua716
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by MrsA1012
Posted by momtimes2
Posted by MrsA1012
One question : if you thought you dropped your child off at the babysitter / daycare wouldn't you remember not bringing the child in , saying goodbye to the child etc , then driving to your place of work ? That seems like a pretty big thing to forget ! If you took your baby with you on an errand and left him in the car when you arrived that seems a bit more plausible.
I just remember reading a story about a mom whose son died in the car, she drove back to daycare at the end of the day to pick her child up and they told her that he was not there that day - that was when she immediately knew what she had done.
Right, but walking / carrying your baby into the daycare, seeing/talking to the the teachers, hugging your child goodbye, saying goodbye to the staff etc seems like a big chunk of the morning routine. It is hard for me to understand how you can forget that when it is such an ingrained part of daily life. Or if you really did forget it, wouldn't you remember before the end of a long day? For example, I'm very dependent on my smart phone for work as I cannot work without it. I obsessively double check that I have it before I leave the house. Three times in the last three years, I realized that I left the house without it. All three times I realized within 10 minutes and went back for it. So I guess that's what I don't get. Wouldn't you at some point during the day realize, hey I forgot something, kwim ?
The difference is that you USE your cell phone throughout the day. If you are used to your child being at daycare or school or whatever- you don't have to worry about them. If you do think- I'm sure it's more "I hope so and so is having a good day."
These things make me feel so sick. I KNOW I'm not infallible. I hope to God that I never make a mistake like this, and I don't think I would- but I'm sure most, if not all, people who make mistakes don't think it will ever happen to them.
ETA: and it could be that someone else is usually responsible for drop off. Maybe their spouse loaded the baby into the car that morning. It's just so horrific an accident. 
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
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Posted by momtimes2
Posted by MrsA1012
One question : if you thought you dropped your child off at the babysitter / daycare wouldn't you remember not bringing the child in , saying goodbye to the child etc , then driving to your place of work ? That seems like a pretty big thing to forget ! If you took your baby with you on an errand and left him in the car when you arrived that seems a bit more plausible.
I just remember reading a story about a mom whose son died in the car, she drove back to daycare at the end of the day to pick her child up and they told her that he was not there that day - that was when she immediately knew what she had done.
Right, but walking / carrying your baby into the daycare, seeing/talking to the the teachers, hugging your child goodbye, saying goodbye to the staff etc seems like a big chunk of the morning routine. It is hard for me to understand how you can forget that when it is such an ingrained part of daily life. Or if you really did forget it, wouldn't you remember before the end of a long day? For example, I'm very dependent on my smart phone for work as I cannot work without it. I obsessively double check that I have it before I leave the house. Three times in the last three years, I realized that I left the house without it. All three times I realized within 10 minutes and went back for it. So I guess that's what I don't get. Wouldn't you at some point during the day realize, hey I forgot something, kwim ?
I have a terrible memory. I can't keep my days straight half the time. I am always, always rushing in the morning and my days blur together. Maybe they thought of the day before and couldn't remember that it was yesterday and not today.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
I just don't understand wouldn't day care call to see where they were if you didn't call?
this is so tragic. A terrible, horrible mistake :(
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by sfp0701
I don't even know why I am admitting it here but here goes. When ds was little, I arrived at work one day and got out of the car. By some miracle my ds made made some noise and I looked in my back seat before I closed my car door. There he was. He was rear facing and fit so nicely in his seat that it is a miracle I saw him. I drove straight to work and not to his day care. I can't remember why I was so distracted. Maybe it was a late day or he had me up all night. Who knows. All I know is that I was very very close to being one of those tragic stories. Flame away. I am not a bad Mom. I am well educated and have a respected job. I adore my son. I live and breathe for him. But it almost happened. And if it did I honestly can't even imagine how I would allow myself to live another day.
These parents, the one that it happens to by accident, are going to be living in a hell for the rest of their lives. I feel for them. I really do. Just like I feel for the mom whose child wandered away, the kid who was hit by a truck and the child who silently drowns. They are tragic, horrible, unthinkable accidents. No one could ever think it would happen to them and standing on soap boxes proclaiming how bad they are at parenting and how it could never happen to you doesn't make you a better mom. For the longest time I placed my purse in the backseat so that I knew I would see him when I grabbed it. I was terrified.
I think people are so quick to judge because THEY can't see doing it, but you NEVER KNOW
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
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I don't even know why I am admitting it here but here goes. When ds was little, I arrived at work one day and got out of the car. By some miracle my ds made made some noise and I looked in my back seat before I closed my car door. There he was. He was rear facing and fit so nicely in his seat that it is a miracle I saw him. I drove straight to work and not to his day care. I can't remember why I was so distracted. Maybe it was a late day or he had me up all night. Who knows. All I know is that I was very very close to being one of those tragic stories. Flame away. I am not a bad Mom. I am well educated and have a respected job. I adore my son. I live and breathe for him. But it almost happened. And if it did I honestly can't even imagine how I would allow myself to live another day.
These parents, the one that it happens to by accident, are going to be living in a hell for the rest of their lives. I feel for them. I really do. Just like I feel for the mom whose child wandered away, the kid who was hit by a truck and the child who silently drowns. They are tragic, horrible, unthinkable accidents. No one could ever think it would happen to them and standing on soap boxes proclaiming how bad they are at parenting and how it could never happen to you doesn't make you a better mom. For the longest time I placed my purse in the backseat so that I knew I would see him when I grabbed it. I was terrified.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by cheryl28
I just don't understand wouldn't day care call to see where they were if you didn't call?
this is so tragic. A terrible, horrible mistake :(
Some do, some don't, but IMO it should be a LAW that they call the parents when the child doesn't show up.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
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Posted by cheryl28
I just don't understand wouldn't day care call to see where they were if you didn't call?
this is so tragic. A terrible, horrible mistake :(
Some do, some don't, but IMO it should be a LAW that they call the parents when the child doesn't show up.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
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Posted by sfp0701
I don't even know why I am admitting it here but here goes. When ds was little, I arrived at work one day and got out of the car. By some miracle my ds made made some noise and I looked in my back seat before I closed my car door. There he was. He was rear facing and fit so nicely in his seat that it is a miracle I saw him. I drove straight to work and not to his day care. I can't remember why I was so distracted. Maybe it was a late day or he had me up all night. Who knows. All I know is that I was very very close to being one of those tragic stories. Flame away. I am not a bad Mom. I am well educated and have a respected job. I adore my son. I live and breathe for him. But it almost happened. And if it did I honestly can't even imagine how I would allow myself to live another day.
These parents, the one that it happens to by accident, are going to be living in a hell for the rest of their lives. I feel for them. I really do. Just like I feel for the mom whose child wandered away, the kid who was hit by a truck and the child who silently drowns. They are tragic, horrible, unthinkable accidents. No one could ever think it would happen to them and standing on soap boxes proclaiming how bad they are at parenting and how it could never happen to you doesn't make you a better mom. For the longest time I placed my purse in the backseat so that I knew I would see him when I grabbed it. I was terrified.
Thank you for posting this. It was very brave to admit that this happened to you. Thank God you saw him and that he was ok.
Thank you for posting this. I know it must be difficult to go back to that moment. For all those that say not me, I would never, not my kid, etc... you never know. I hope this never happens to another child ever but realize that tragic circumstances happen to good and bad parents alike.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by cheryl28
I just don't understand wouldn't day care call to see where they were if you didn't call?
this is so tragic. A terrible, horrible mistake :(
Some do, some don't, but IMO it should be a LAW that they call the parents when the child doesn't show up.
If not a law, a rule or something. Daycares should have a rule saying that if a child is going to be absent, to call. That way, if they didn't receive a call, they can call to check to see if the kid is ok.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
I don't think it should be the daycare's responsibility to check up on YOUR children.
You are the parent, the responsibility is totally yours. I am really not sympathetic to this. Its 10000% unfathomable to me. I can barely go a second without thinking of my son.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by JME78
I don't think it should be the daycare's responsibility to check up on YOUR children.
You are the parent, the responsibility is totally yours. I am really not sympathetic to this. Its 10000% unfathomable to me. I can barely go a second without thinking of my son.
I don't think it should only be the daycare's responsibility either, but let's face it. If a law, or rule was put into practice at daycare centers, then these horrible deaths could be avoided. I'm not saying ALL of them would be avoided, but I'm sure some would be. I know it sounds corny but, it takes a village...
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My sons daycare called when he was out!
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
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And dogs too. God, nothing infuriates me more than seeing this. I call 911 every time, I don't care if windows are down.
yes!
OMG someone is being charged with murder? how?! its an accident!
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
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Posted by sfp0701
I don't even know why I am admitting it here but here goes. When ds was little, I arrived at work one day and got out of the car. By some miracle my ds made made some noise and I looked in my back seat before I closed my car door. There he was. He was rear facing and fit so nicely in his seat that it is a miracle I saw him. I drove straight to work and not to his day care. I can't remember why I was so distracted. Maybe it was a late day or he had me up all night. Who knows. All I know is that I was very very close to being one of those tragic stories. Flame away. I am not a bad Mom. I am well educated and have a respected job. I adore my son. I live and breathe for him. But it almost happened. And if it did I honestly can't even imagine how I would allow myself to live another day.
These parents, the one that it happens to by accident, are going to be living in a hell for the rest of their lives. I feel for them. I really do. Just like I feel for the mom whose child wandered away, the kid who was hit by a truck and the child who silently drowns. They are tragic, horrible, unthinkable accidents. No one could ever think it would happen to them and standing on soap boxes proclaiming how bad they are at parenting and how it could never happen to you doesn't make you a better mom. For the longest time I placed my purse in the backseat so that I knew I would see him when I grabbed it. I was terrified.
Thank you for posting this. It was very brave to admit that this happened to you. Thank God you saw him and that he was ok.
Agreed.
This is one of the bravest posts I've read on here.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
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What baffles me is that some of these babies were left in the car for up to 8 hours! In 8 hours the thought of their child did not cross their minds!!!
Do daycares call the parents if kids are absent without notice? This could be a life saver in a lot of cases!
I know for many of the stories, the parents thought that they actually dropped their child off or that the child was where they were supposed to be (daycare, school, etc)
such a sad thing and I am sure there is no tougher punishment than this father having to live with the idea that he is the cause of his child's death. I just cannot imagine the pain he must feel
I know but I know during the course of day you may think about your kids and then your memory would be jogged back to the last time you saw them.
Another thing....why does this always happen in the summer? You don't hear about this happening in the middle of the winter.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by JME78
I don't think it should be the daycare's responsibility to check up on YOUR children.
You are the parent, the responsibility is totally yours. I am really not sympathetic to this. Its 10000% unfathomable to me. I can barely go a second without thinking of my son.
While I agree that their child is their responsibility, it's a simple practice to have in place that could save lives! Schools call the home when they are not notified of an absence.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
Posted by JME78
I don't think it should be the daycare's responsibility to check up on YOUR children.
You are the parent, the responsibility is totally yours. I am really not sympathetic to this. Its 10000% unfathomable to me. I can barely go a second without thinking of my son.
Absolutely the parents responsibility but like this tragic accident, people forget things. I could see forgetting to call to say your kids weren't going to be in. But if in school the office calls home to see. When I worked in day are we called if we weren't notified. I would think the school would want to know. In fact I was subbing one day and the school called home to see the child was. The mother said in school they said she never came. A search I she's lockdown the while yards and the kid was home decided to. It get on the bus. I just think the teachers and school would wan for know. This is not their fault by any means but if there was a rule in place maybe this could have been prevented.
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
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Posted by momtimes2
Posted by readyfor3
What baffles me is that some of these babies were left in the car for up to 8 hours! In 8 hours the thought of their child did not cross their minds!!!
Do daycares call the parents if kids are absent without notice? This could be a life saver in a lot of cases!
I know for many of the stories, the parents thought that they actually dropped their child off or that the child was where they were supposed to be (daycare, school, etc)
such a sad thing and I am sure there is no tougher punishment than this father having to live with the idea that he is the cause of his child's death. I just cannot imagine the pain he must feel
I know but I know during the course of day you may think about your kids and then your memory would be jogged back to the last time you saw them.
Another thing....why does this always happen in the summer? You don't hear about this happening in the middle of the winter.
Oh it does but you don't hear of it because less likely to die in winter -it's happening because car gets super hot in summer
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
In parents magazine a couple months ago this was a featured article
Wish I could find and link it
I read a few stories of some kids who survived and some that did not.
They had varied stories of we switched cars,we ran late, no sleep etc
It was heartbreaking reading it. I could not imagine living it
The guilt they will feel forever is enough. They don't need he judgements I never realized so many had
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Re: PSA. Please do not forget your children in the car!!
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I'm surprised people think this is understandable! I have never forgotten my children in the car. Neither has my DH. For an entire work day no less?! I do think he should be charged. Can you imagine baking to death because your parent forgot about you? Ugh.
I have to agree. Forget for a whole day? I know sleep deprivation is bad and many new moms (and dads) deal with it but still...a whole day to forget you never dropped your kid off where you headed?...just does not make sense to me
I agree with you guys.. I for example was so sleep deprived because my son was not sleeping at all due to Colic and AR I almost drove into our garage with it's door down while coming home from work - I did not have my son in the car with me but, even though I was so sleep deprived, I NEVER forgot about my baby, anywhere - EVER! It does not make sense to forget a baby in the car!
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