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anewday
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any advice on attitudes?
I am at my wits end here. My dd who will be 4 next month has turned into a teenager with pms.
How do I teach her not to be so rude and disrespectful when I just want to beat her
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maymama
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
is she learning from my three year old SON?
all he does is repeat EVERY SINGLE THING I SAY and I want to beat him 
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| Posted 6/27/13 1:27 PM |
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
My family is complete!
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
i warned my almost 4 year old i'm going to shut off the tv if he doesnt listen. so instead of listening he took the remote and hid them in another room and came back and said "now you can't shut it off!" i thought 4 was easier?
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| Posted 6/27/13 1:32 PM |
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MaZz
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any advice on attitudes?
I have no idea bc I'm not there yet but I have to say, your post made me LOL. I applaud you for being so very honest bc I'd prob feel the same way... 
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| Posted 6/27/13 1:37 PM |
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VTTG0609
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
My 4 yr is really bad with talking back and being nasty
I'm probably no help because I threaten to put soap in his mouth
It hasn't stopped the behavior completely but he thinks twice
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| Posted 6/27/13 1:39 PM |
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anewday
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
glad to hear Im not the only one!
terrible twos, torturous threes....got nothing on f* *king fours
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| Posted 6/27/13 1:39 PM |
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dajc23
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
I have no advice. My almost 3.5 yr DD is NASTY.
I asked her the other day to get me a pull up for her younger sister. She ignored me. I asked again. IGNORE. (I know she hears me cause she's giving me the side eye) so I asked again for the 3rd time and she goes "I HEAR YOU. STOP TALKING TO ME AND I'LL GET IT WHEN IM READY"
I wanted to throw her across the room. I was so angry
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| Posted 6/27/13 1:41 PM |
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MarisaK
HELLO Manolo !!
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by anewday
glad to hear Im not the only one!
terrible twos, torturous threes....got nothing on f* *king fours
THAT is what I call them the f*** 4's !!!!
OMG - -
"I don't like you"
"I don't love you anymore"
"I want a new Mommy"
"FINE !! Whatever !!"
"NEVER!!"
"You're so mean"
Did I mention HE is 4? Did I mention he's not a teenage girl?
Oh yes, and there's this face ......
oh and then he flips a switch and is all
"I'm sorry I was mean to you Mommy"
"You're the BEST Mommy"
"I love you so much Mommy" Image Attachment(s):
Message edited 6/27/2013 1:59:59 PM.
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| Posted 6/27/13 1:42 PM |
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MaZz
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by anewday
glad to hear Im not the only one!
terrible twos, torturous threes....got nothing on f* *king fours
 you Ladies are cracking me up... But I'm getting really scared now as well...
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| Posted 6/27/13 1:44 PM |
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ali120206
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any advice on attitudes?
My mom always said 4 was the worst to make you ready to send them off to school (she was a SAHM and I didn't go to preschool).
DS is 3.5 and I've noticed more attitude over the past few weeks. Not looking forward to 4.
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| Posted 6/27/13 2:03 PM |
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Teachergal
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by anewday
glad to hear Im not the only one!
terrible twos, torturous threes....got nothing on f* *king fours
THAT is what I call them the f*** 4's !!!!
OMG - -
"I don't like you"
"I don't love you anymore"
"I want a new Mommy"
"FINE !! Whatever !!"
"NEVER!!"
"You're so mean"
Did I mention HE is 4? Did I mention he's not a teenage girl?
Oh yes, and there's this face ......
oh and then he flips a switch and is all
"I'm sorry I was mean to you Mommy"
"You're the BEST Mommy"
"I love you so much Mommy"
You just described my DS completely!!! He does the same thing. I just keep praying the attitude is a phase...
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| Posted 6/27/13 2:08 PM |
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missliss
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
My 5 year old BOY's body has been inhabited by a 13 year old girl for about a year & 1/2 now...I wish he'd get his period already because the PMS is killing me.
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| Posted 6/27/13 2:12 PM |
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
My family is complete!
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by anewday
glad to hear Im not the only one!
terrible twos, torturous threes....got nothing on f* *king fours
THAT is what I call them the f*** 4's !!!!
OMG - -
"I don't like you"
"I don't love you anymore"
"I want a new Mommy"
"FINE !! Whatever !!"
"NEVER!!"
"You're so mean"
Did I mention HE is 4? Did I mention he's not a teenage girl?
Oh yes, and there's this face ......
oh and then he flips a switch and is all
"I'm sorry I was mean to you Mommy"
"You're the BEST Mommy"
"I love you so much Mommy"
first of all...that face is adorable and evil at the same time
my DS does the same thing!!! i swear some days i think he's bi polar!!! this thread makes me feel better lol
i'll do better once my bf moves in and i can tag him in while i go on a wine break and calm the F down! these kids really know how to push our buttons.
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| Posted 6/27/13 2:53 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by IansMommy23
i warned my almost 4 year old i'm going to shut off the tv if he doesnt listen. so instead of listening he took the remote and hid them in another room and came back and said "now you can't shut it off!" i thought 4 was easier?
When I threaten my 4 year old with a consequence, he says I don't care that's fine!
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| Posted 6/27/13 2:55 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by anewday
glad to hear Im not the only one!
terrible twos, torturous threes....got nothing on f* *king fours
THAT is what I call them the f*** 4's !!!!
OMG - -
"I don't like you"
"I don't love you anymore"
"I want a new Mommy"
"FINE !! Whatever !!"
"NEVER!!"
"You're so mean"
Did I mention HE is 4? Did I mention he's not a teenage girl?
Oh yes, and there's this face ......
oh and then he flips a switch and is all
"I'm sorry I was mean to you Mommy"
"You're the BEST Mommy"
"I love you so much Mommy"
He is gorgeous! I get the same from my boys.
I don't like you!
You're a baby!(the highest insult by the way)
You're being a naughty girl(This is my SIL who uses naughty as a joke with them)
I will not draw anymore pictures for you. Not here or at school!
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| Posted 6/27/13 2:57 PM |
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
My family is complete!
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by DRMom
Posted by IansMommy23
i warned my almost 4 year old i'm going to shut off the tv if he doesnt listen. so instead of listening he took the remote and hid them in another room and came back and said "now you can't shut it off!" i thought 4 was easier?
When I threaten my 4 year old with a consequence, he says I don't care that's fine!
i get to the point where i tell him if he doesn't listen something very bad is going to happen. he looks at me like...she may be serious....and then tests me and says...do it! at that point i can throw him out the window.
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
My family is complete!
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Diana
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by DRMom
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by anewday
glad to hear Im not the only one!
terrible twos, torturous threes....got nothing on f* *king fours
THAT is what I call them the f*** 4's !!!!
OMG - -
"I don't like you"
"I don't love you anymore"
"I want a new Mommy"
"FINE !! Whatever !!"
"NEVER!!"
"You're so mean"
Did I mention HE is 4? Did I mention he's not a teenage girl?
Oh yes, and there's this face ......
oh and then he flips a switch and is all
"I'm sorry I was mean to you Mommy"
"You're the BEST Mommy"
"I love you so much Mommy"
He is gorgeous! I get the same from my boys.
I don't like you!
You're a baby!(the highest insult by the way)
You're being a naughty girl(This is my SIL who uses naughty as a joke with them)
I will not draw anymore pictures for you. Not here or at school!
naughty
i get:
you're not my friend anymore
stop talking!
i'm not listening to you
you're a bad girl
im going to go live with daddy <that rips out my heart>
but then not even 2 minutes later he'll say...i'm sorry mommy i love you the best.
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| Posted 6/27/13 2:58 PM |
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MarisaK
HELLO Manolo !!
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Marisa
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by DRMom
Posted by IansMommy23
i warned my almost 4 year old i'm going to shut off the tv if he doesnt listen. so instead of listening he took the remote and hid them in another room and came back and said "now you can't shut it off!" i thought 4 was easier?
When I threaten my 4 year old with a consequence, he says I don't care that's fine!
"I don't CARE" - HOW could I have forgotten that one ??
Where do they even learn this stuff ???
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| Posted 6/27/13 3:39 PM |
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Xelindrya
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any advice on attitudes?
oh four is so much fun isnt it?
(snipped a long thing i wrote since I know I'm in minority on parenting ideals)
To summarize
Every action has an immediate reaction. I rarely threaten and just respond instead. She then has to make it right. No matter what, she MUST address her wrong doing and she MUST made amends. I never let her off the hook. Once she was just overtired cranky and pulled some crap. I woke her UP to resolve it. You can’t and won’t just ignore you messed up. YOU WILL respond and we will all sleep when everything is square or no one sleeps.
THANKFULLY these blow ups are getting further apart but oddly enough they get dumber and angrier with each one. Like she’s testing her limits. Each new BS she’ll learn from and not repeat but think of a new one. So she keeps me on my toes.
Its these times I think my head.. everyone always says how kind, polite and darling my daughter is.. “always happy” wish they witness these insanity times! LOL Overall, she’s a good kid. I appreciate that and yes, I give her WAAAAAAAAAAY more leeway than I should but as long as she’s not being disrespectful, causing property damage or too loud, I let it go as a kid being a kid.
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
My family is complete!
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by Xelindrya
oh four is so much fun isnt it?
(snipped a long thing i wrote since I know I'm in minority on parenting ideals)
To summarize
Every action has an immediate reaction. I rarely threaten and just respond instead. She then has to make it right. No matter what, she MUST address her wrong doing and she MUST made amends. I never let her off the hook. Once she was just overtired cranky and pulled some crap. I woke her UP to resolve it. You can’t and won’t just ignore you messed up. YOU WILL respond and we will all sleep when everything is square or no one sleeps.
THANKFULLY these blow ups are getting further apart but oddly enough they get dumber and angrier with each one. Like she’s testing her limits. Each new BS she’ll learn from and not repeat but think of a new one. So she keeps me on my toes.
Its these times I think my head.. everyone always says how kind, polite and darling my daughter is.. “always happy” wish they witness these insanity times! LOL Overall, she’s a good kid. I appreciate that and yes, I give her WAAAAAAAAAAY more leeway than I should but as long as she’s not being disrespectful, causing property damage or too loud, I let it go as a kid being a kid.
i wish i had your will power. sometimes i dont have the energy to fight
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| Posted 6/28/13 9:19 AM |
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Ltdentway99
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Well, my advice comes really from working with teenagers, but maybe it could work with little ones. Whenever, I got an attitude I always addressed it immediately. I would immediately say "excuse me... " and address the tone, attitude, whatever. Almost always the teen would say, "oh, sorry" and slink away. I think it is just a case of kids testing their boundaries, so it is important to set boundaries. With a small child if they want something I suppose you can make them say it again nicely or else they do not get it. Also, be careful how you speak because kids tend to pick up sass from their parents. Hope this helps.
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| Posted 6/28/13 10:02 AM |
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MrsA714
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
When you find out please let me know! My DD will be 4 in October and the attitude she dishes out sometimes is insane!! DH always says 'where does she get this from?' while looking at me ! Oh no way you're putting the blame on me for this mister!! I hope there is some kind of miraculous change in her attitude soon because this house ain't big enough for both of our attitudes!
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| Posted 6/28/13 10:23 AM |
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FergieK
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
I dont know if I should laugh or cry at these posts. I applaud your honesty.
Its scaring me that I will have to endure this. I dont remember anyone saying anything about 4!!
Oh no!!
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| Posted 6/28/13 10:29 AM |
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MrsA714
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by dajc23
I have no advice. My almost 3.5 yr DD is NASTY.
I asked her the other day to get me a pull up for her younger sister. She ignored me. I asked again. IGNORE. (I know she hears me cause she's giving me the side eye) so I asked again for the 3rd time and she goes "I HEAR YOU. STOP TALKING TO ME AND I'LL GET IT WHEN IM READY"
I wanted to throw her across the room. I was so angry
This is something my DD would totally do!! When I ask her to do something a few times (because obviously she can't do it the first 5x I ask) she finally responds, "ALRIGHT ALREADY!" What goes on?? LOL. Where do they get this from?? 
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MarisaK
HELLO Manolo !!
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Re: any advice on attitudes?
Posted by MrsA714
Posted by dajc23
I have no advice. My almost 3.5 yr DD is NASTY.
I asked her the other day to get me a pull up for her younger sister. She ignored me. I asked again. IGNORE. (I know she hears me cause she's giving me the side eye) so I asked again for the 3rd time and she goes "I HEAR YOU. STOP TALKING TO ME AND I'LL GET IT WHEN IM READY"
I wanted to throw her across the room. I was so angry
This is something my DD would totally do!! When I ask her to do something a few times (because obviously she can't do it the first 5x I ask) she finally responds, "ALRIGHT ALREADY!" What goes on?? LOL. Where do they get this from??
and this is what is so difficult - I KNOW how I'd deal w/ an adult or teenager speaking to me that way but 3/4/5 year old children are NOT adults -
They're not nasty just for the hell of it, all of the time - I get that attitude when he's cranky, or I tell him no, or for whatever reason he's made or annoyed at me - and when a kid is cranky it's just NOT the same as dealing w/ an adult who SHOULD know how to behave and compose themselves regardless of their emotional state KWIM? A little kid still has to be taught what is/is not appropriate behavior.
I think it's a phase - God, I PRAY it's a phase !! I usually immediately respond with "When you're ready to speak to me the right way, come and talk to me" - or I calmly tell him (and sometimes not so calmly tell him) to go into his room and stay there until he can speak to me like a person - he gives me the face b/c he KNOWS he's out of line - if I'm asking him to do something and I get the nasty attitude, I can't help it, I yell at him and let him know I"m his MOTHER, not his friend on the playground (totally my father's words right there) and he will not speak to me that way. Then I'm in his face until he does whatever it is, and THEN he goes to his room ........
I've also just turned off the TV, taken the iPad away, removed the toy from his hands - whatever it is .....
I never just ignore it - but sometimes you're just so taken back by what comes out of their mouth you stand there dumbfounded like a moron !!! To the point that I've actually said to him "DID you REALLY just SAY that to me????"
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