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KimberlyScott
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How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
My neighbor is 12 and she adores my DD and my DD loves her and I like that fact that she wants to come over and spend time with her BUT...EVERYDAY?!?!?! OMG!! She must watch for me out of her window bc Im not even home 5 min and shes at my front door. She watches us eat dinner, watches me give DD a bath. It's just too much. I'm a FTWM and I need some time with my DD alone!! And now with school out...I don't know what to tell her without hurting her feelings?
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
aw.. i could see how that could be annoying. is there any way you could let her, or her parents know, that you would love for her to come by but weekends may be better?
eta i would def pull the shades down too lol
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| Posted 6/20/13 3:57 PM |
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EandF
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
What do her parents say? Are they ok with the amount of time she spends at your house?
You need to politely but firmly put your foot down. Tell her that you work and need some time alone with your family. Maybe you can come up with a specific day and time for her to visit so you don't cut her out completely and she can still come over.
I have to commend you for caring so much about her feelings. I would not be as considerate in your shoes, esp with a neighbor kid!
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| Posted 6/20/13 4:00 PM |
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StaceyWill
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How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
Holy crap! I got irritated just READING that. I can't imagine how you feel.
I think I'd talk to her parents and see if they can let her down easy. Maybe now would be a good time to teach her about other people's personal space & privacy.
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| Posted 6/20/13 4:04 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
That can totally be annoying. Sounds like a friend of mine. She swears the parents loved it bc it was free babysitting. Their 2 kids around 9 and 11 were over everyday.
Just tell her something like... now is not a good time. I have stuff to do and haven't seen DD all day. Maybe later this week.
It's tough though. I hate saying No, but some times you just have to set boundaries.
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| Posted 6/20/13 4:04 PM |
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KimberlyScott
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
Posted by EandF
What do her parents say? Are they ok with the amount of time she spends at your house?
You need to politely but firmly put your foot down. Tell her that you work and need some time alone with your family. Maybe you can come up with a specific day and time for her to visit so you don't cut her out completely and she can still come over.
I have to commend you for caring so much about her feelings. I would not be as considerate in your shoes, esp with a neighbor kid!
See, this is why I feel bad. Her mom is NEVER home. She is one of those, I had a kid when I was young and it stole my childhood so she is always out. And then when she is home, I think she wants her out of her hair. Her Dad tries to monitor but he works nights and leaves at 5 so then she comes over.
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| Posted 6/20/13 4:11 PM |
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
how old is your dd? maybe ask her to be a mothers helper type... but then set the exact days and times you need her help and then try to make it so that she realizes she cant be there at the other times....
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| Posted 6/20/13 4:15 PM |
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buttercup
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
Posted by KimberlyScott
Posted by EandF
What do her parents say? Are they ok with the amount of time she spends at your house?
You need to politely but firmly put your foot down. Tell her that you work and need some time alone with your family. Maybe you can come up with a specific day and time for her to visit so you don't cut her out completely and she can still come over.
I have to commend you for caring so much about her feelings. I would not be as considerate in your shoes, esp with a neighbor kid!
See, this is why I feel bad. Her mom is NEVER home. She is one of those, I had a kid when I was young and it stole my childhood so she is always out. And then when she is home, I think she wants her out of her hair. Her Dad tries to monitor but he works nights and leaves at 5 so then she comes over.
poor kid..I bet secretly she wishes her mom was doting on her as you do with your DD. I feel bad for her but you need your time and space... i guess the best way is to give her a certain time/day to come (that is if you don't mind) and leave it at that and see how she acts after that.
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| Posted 6/20/13 4:20 PM |
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KimberlyScott
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
Posted by BaysideForever
how old is your dd? maybe ask her to be a mothers helper type... but then set the exact days and times you need her help and then try to make it so that she realizes she cant be there at the other times....
DD just turned one.
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| Posted 6/20/13 4:35 PM |
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EandF
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
Posted by KimberlyScott
Posted by EandF
What do her parents say? Are they ok with the amount of time she spends at your house?
You need to politely but firmly put your foot down. Tell her that you work and need some time alone with your family. Maybe you can come up with a specific day and time for her to visit so you don't cut her out completely and she can still come over.
I have to commend you for caring so much about her feelings. I would not be as considerate in your shoes, esp with a neighbor kid!
See, this is why I feel bad. Her mom is NEVER home. She is one of those, I had a kid when I was young and it stole my childhood so she is always out. And then when she is home, I think she wants her out of her hair. Her Dad tries to monitor but he works nights and leaves at 5 so then she comes over.
Ahhh, I see. This makes sense now. It sounds like you are sort of a surrogate family for her. I can understand why she wants to spend so much time over at your place.
Her mom sounds like a piece of work! Nevertheless, this can't continue to be an everyday thing for the sake of your sanity. As some of the others mentioned, maybe you should start with her parents. If that's not really an option, you need to speak with the girl directly. Let her down easy and just tell her not everyday but again, a set day and time that works and is convenient for you.
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| Posted 6/20/13 5:02 PM |
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Katareen
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How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
If she knocks don't answer the door!!
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| Posted 6/20/13 5:52 PM |
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LiveItUp
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How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
Do her parents know how often she comes over? It's sounds likely be they don't since she's comes over when they're not home. If I were you I'd try to catch one of her parents when she's not around and just let them know that she's been knocking on your door a lot, and tell them you don't mind it once in a while but not all the time. Then if the parents don't follow through I would try to let her down easy in the way some previous posters suggested.
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| Posted 6/20/13 6:27 PM |
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DanandNette
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
Posted by Katareen
If she knocks don't answer the door!!
Agree!! And also close the shades. Set boundaries, tell her mom that the baby goes to bed at a set time and it is hard to have visitors on week nights.
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| Posted 6/20/13 9:25 PM |
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
maybe just tell a white lie and tell her that you're changing your dd's bedtime to much earlier so unfortunately there's no play time anymore.
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| Posted 6/20/13 9:51 PM |
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
You are too nice. As much as she sounds like a nicekid, I would not deal with that. No way. Her parents clearly want free babysitting IMO. Now I see why you feel bad but I would not take that on, no matter what.
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gina409
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
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maybe just tell a white lie and tell her that you're changing your dd's bedtime to much earlier so unfortunately there's no play time anymore.
i would prob do this too
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| Posted 6/21/13 12:47 AM |
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maymama
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Re: How do I go about this...pesty neighbor kid
maybe set some ground rules and USE HER to your advantage! She could be your mother's helper on weekends maybe?
Maybe one night per week and a Saturday. Just be open and honest that those are they only hours.
I started being a mother's helper at 12 
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