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butterfly20
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facebook stress
22 w pregnant. dr warns blood pressure medicine if bp gets worse and saw high risk specialist due to prior preeclampsia delivered at 36 weeks
I feel I waste too much time on facbeook. if I cut my friends list down to the people that reply on big news id drop it from like 200 to 30. I have family worried I will offend people by doingthat. but why am I offending people when they cant click like when I say im pregnant or having a girl or say sorry to hear that when I say my moms had a stroke.
I feel.like only limiting people who can see my status or pics wouldnt be enough. I could still see their profile.id rather out of site out of mind aproach.
**** THANK YOU. The suggestion of creating a smaller private account seems perfect and what I'll do. I'm trying to eliminate stress where I see it, and some extended family on there that I see in real life are stressing me out. Yes I know it sounds silly, but its an anxiety thing 
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Re: wwyd facebook
Are you saying that you feel like you have hbp in part because of facebook? If that's the case then yes, i would limit my time on there and who/what i talk to/about.
Other than that, I'm sure you could eliminate some people without it being so drastic. Sometimes pregnancy is not the time to make rash decisions
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| Posted 6/15/12 9:45 PM |
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Mrs213
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Re: wwyd facebook
I'm not quite sure what your asking here 
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| Posted 6/15/12 10:29 PM |
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Re: wwyd facebook
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I'm not quite sure what your asking here
i have to agree...are u mad that some people did not like or comment on a staus when u announced pregnancy?
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| Posted 6/15/12 11:10 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: wwyd facebook
its not the only reason why I have high BP, but I think its a chunk of the reason.....
was trying to stay out of specifics but.....
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| Posted 6/16/12 6:43 AM |
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Re: wwyd facebook
I am very selective about facebook friends - if I am not friends with someone in real life, then they are not my facebook friend.
I have like 50 friends. I have denied or ignored random people for example from high school that I didn't even talk to back then, let alone now.
I'm a private person and don't want them knowing my business. I also really don't care about theirs.
Every few months I go through and delete some people - for example, old coworker that I felt kind of forced to accept at the time.
If FB is causing a real disruption in your real life, then maybe it's just time to stop going on that site.
JMO but I would never make a frustrating family comment on facebook. Nor would I put it in writing in an email, etc. THose things are best spoken about, in person, in a mature way. Posting something will just create drama.
I've never had any real life drama caused by facebook, but most of my circle doesn't even use it anymore.
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| Posted 6/16/12 7:09 AM |
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butterfly20
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Re: wwyd facebook
queensgal - I'm at the point that I've started considering deleting the whole thing, but there are family members and old coworkers who I still catch up through there. We like sharing pictures of kids and trips..... That why I think it would be better to drop from 200 to 40 people....
When my mom ticks me off and says she's going to call the new baby her own name I tell my mom thats not her name, but I don't see harm in saying my moms driving me nuts with that....
when a relative decides to not spend the holiday with us to avoid us, then later invites us to a birthday party(which they know we don't attend) and due to other family members I'm not allowed to discuss with relative then I don't see harm in saying that to my friends. otherwise it will take alot more time to text or call all the friends.
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| Posted 6/16/12 7:37 AM |
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Cheeks24
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Re: wwyd facebook
I would stay off FB for a while and reconsider what you're posting on there. If you're posting things like "mom is driving me nuts" you're just adding fuel to the fire. If you don't write that people can't comment on it.
Not everyone "likes" or comments on my stuff and it really doesn't bother me. Who care if not everyone comments? Sometimes people may think you're posting just to get attention and won't comment. I know I do that with some people 
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| Posted 6/16/12 8:25 AM |
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Re: wwyd facebook
It's your FB page so you have every right to delete people you don't want to see it. Especially if you never see them and they aren't in your actual life in any way. I am very selective about who I allow to be my friends on FB. It has to be people I consider myself to be close with.
I would defintely try to avoid making any comments about family members on FB that could be taken negatively. I know it's tempting to vent when you feel hurt or frustrated, but it won't help matters to stir up hurt feelings from others. Maybe have a personal journal for stuff like that that's just for you to vent in and no one else will see.
And when I post things about my pregnancy, maybe only about a fourth of all my FB friends like or comment on it. I don't take offense though. Some people don't go on FB that often and they miss certain announcements. Or some people don't feel comfortable making comments on FB that other people will see, but are still wishing me well in their own way. I know my brother sees my stuff, doesn't like or comment on it, but then when I talk to him on the phone, he mentions my posts. No big deal, it doesn't bother me.
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| Posted 6/16/12 9:18 AM |
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butterfly20
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Re: wwyd facebook
It doesn't bother me that people in general don't comment... But I've realized there are a lot of people from high school that are "friends" on there, yet we were far from friends in high school. I was teased alot. I guess I'm realizing I wasn't selective when I should have been.
What does annoy me is family that is on there, that don't comment AND in real life don't say anything either.... to me its kinda like, if we are going to act like strangers than whats the point of you knowing what I've been doing
I know its all silly, and if it weren't for a dozen people I would have already deleted the stupid site, and it probably relates into not hanging out with friends much in person.
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Re: wwyd facebook stress
If you are wasting too much time on fb and it's causing you stress/drama, it sounds like it's time to delete your account period.
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| Posted 6/16/12 10:47 AM |
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Re: wwyd facebook stress
Why don't you leave your regular account there but start a second account like with just your first name and just add the 20-30 people you want to that one. Only log into that one for now. When you're ready to go back to your "big" list, switch back.
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| Posted 6/16/12 11:29 AM |
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Re: wwyd facebook stress
Posted by springsandra
Why don't you leave your regular account there but start a second account like with just your first name and just add the 20-30 people you want to that one. Only log into that one for now. When you're ready to go back to your "big" list, switch back.
I would do this. Deactivate your current account and have a seperate account for close family you want to keep in touch with.
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| Posted 6/16/12 12:32 PM |
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Re: wwyd facebook stress
Posted by butterfly20
its not the only reason why I have high BP, but I think its a chunk of the reason.....
If the chunk of your bp issues are because of FB you need to leave. A social media sight shouldn't be that much work. Either delete the people you want and stop listening to your family or leave entirely. You are literary making your self sick over you "friends" list. That sounds pretty silly if you think about it like that.
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DumpsterBaby
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Re: wwyd facebook stress
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Posted by butterfly20
its not the only reason why I have high BP, but I think its a chunk of the reason.....
If the chunk of your bp issues are because of FB you need to leave. A social media sight shouldn't be that much work. Either delete the people you want and stop listening to your family or leave entirely. You are literary making your self sick over you "friends" list. That sounds pretty silly if you think about it like that.
I agree. It's not worth it.
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Mrs213
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Re: wwyd facebook stress
If people not commenting or liking your status is giving you high blood pressure I think it's time to cancel. And I would never even notice if someone blocked me from an album. You're taking it way too seriously
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Re: wwyd facebook stress
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Posted by medic6809
Posted by butterfly20
its not the only reason why I have high BP, but I think its a chunk of the reason.....
If the chunk of your bp issues are because of FB you need to leave. A social media sight shouldn't be that much work. Either delete the people you want and stop listening to your family or leave entirely. You are literary making your self sick over you "friends" list. That sounds pretty silly if you think about it like that.
I agree. It's not worth it.
ITA... honestly, i can't imagine that something like facebook is legitimately giving someone high blood pressure for an extended period of time. if it truly is, then you #1 have an awesome life if that is your biggest stressor (and i say this not to be mean, more to remind you to be thankful that FB is your biggest stressor and not something much more serious ), and #2 it is your choice to remain on FB so the very obvious choice to protect yourself and your baby would be to not go on or follow the PP advice to start a newer smaller account. continually partaking in a leisure activity that could put yourself and baby at risk is flat out irresponsible. ditch the computer, put your feet up, and mass text updates to those who need to know any details
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| Posted 6/17/12 8:59 PM |
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mamabear
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Re: facebook stress
If FB was causing stress, I would take a break from it. Or at least take a break from posting. Hide statuses of people who post things that annoy you. People comment or dont comment for all sorts of reasons. I wouldn't allow myself to be upset over who comments or doesn't comment on my stuff. If they post mean things, that one thing. But I dont read into what's not there.
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