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IAMMRSBROWN
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Husbands attending showers

My DH is coming to the shower. We talked about it the other day and feel that the shower is for our future daughter, not really for just me.

Anyone elses DH going to the shower?

Posted 5/10/12 7:09 AM
 
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FergieK
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Re: Husbands attending showers

Yes he was there and he hung out in the restaurant with a couple of his guy friends and family

Posted 5/10/12 7:14 AM
 

MaZz
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Re: Husbands attending showers

Mine went and he hung out with our dads at a separate table a little bit away from the action.

Posted 5/10/12 7:30 AM
 

BaysideForever
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Re: Husbands attending showers

yes. i wanted him there so I made it coed. I don't even think we are going to meet our 30 person minimum and that's with guys!! Chat Icon But I just couldn't bear the thought of celebrating DD without him. He is so involved in everything else, why not also be congratulated, get to see the gifts and remember that special day?

ETA: the men will probably be sitting at the bar watching TV while the girls play games and open gifts.

Message edited 5/10/2012 7:32:18 AM.

Posted 5/10/12 7:31 AM
 

bringonthebaby
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Re: Husbands attending showers

DH might sit in the restaurant at a different table. I think for my bridal shower, he showed up after gifts.

Posted 5/10/12 7:48 AM
 

LiveItUp
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Re: Husbands attending showers

I agree that the shower should be in honor of our baby, not me, so we're having a coed shower so my DH can be there. At first he didn't like the idea but now that he knows coed showers are becoming common he's really excited. I think he's actually more excited than I am! He already told all of his friends about it and they're all excited too. We're just having a casual backyard party so all the guys feels comfortable.

Posted 5/10/12 8:05 AM
 

maybebaby
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Re: Husbands attending showers

I don't think there is anything wrong with it if thats what a couple wants to do!

But for me, I don't know..I was OK with DH not being there. I think he would not have wanted to go if I had asked him (my shower was 6 years ago!), it would have been him with 50 women and I just always associate it with a time for the women to get together, you know? He did however show up about 20 minutes before it ended to say hello to everyone and help bring the gifts to the car. Same as for the bridal shower.

I feel most guys just wouldn't have much of an interest in the showers...I don't think they feel slighted by missing it either, i think they are OK with it! But if its something a husband wants to be at, more power to them!

Posted 5/10/12 8:06 AM
 

Linda1003
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Re: Husbands attending showers

Posted by maybebaby

I don't think there is anything wrong with it if thats what a couple wants to do!

But for me, I don't know..I was OK with DH not being there. I think he would not have wanted to go if I had asked him (my shower was 6 years ago!), it would have been him with 50 women and I just always associate it with a time for the women to get together, you know? He did however show up about 20 minutes before it ended to say hello to everyone and help bring the gifts to the car. Same as for the bridal shower.

I feel most guys just wouldn't have much of an interest in the showers...I don't think they feel slighted by missing it either, i think they are OK with it! But if its something a husband wants to be at, more power to them!



ditto!!! i wouldn't torture my DH like that!!Chat Icon But if the couple wants it.. of course.. they should do it.. I think DH would have taken the knife and pokedh his eyes out!!Chat Icon

Posted 5/10/12 8:20 AM
 

EBG10
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Re: Husbands attending showers

Posted by FergieK

Yes he was there and he hung out in the restaurant with a couple of his guy friends and family




same here

Posted 5/10/12 8:42 AM
 

anonymous20
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Re: Husbands attending showers

Posted by IAMMRSBROWN

My DH is coming to the shower. We talked about it the other day and feel that the shower is for our future daughter, not really for just me.

Anyone elses DH going to the shower?


my dh was at mine and it was awesome!
not only did he help with opening the gifts but he was so cute and excited to see what we got for our Chat Icon
i highly reco. your dh being there--it's a really special moment to share together! he loved every minute!! he is a very hands on dad and i knew he would be from even way b4 i got preggo!i think when you are the one involved in the shower it's not as torturous as just sitting and attending a shower, kwim? it was nice for him to see his entire extended family too!

Message edited 5/10/2012 8:53:23 AM.

Posted 5/10/12 8:47 AM
 

BlessedMomma
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Re: Husbands attending showers

Posted by maybebaby

I don't think there is anything wrong with it if thats what a couple wants to do!

But for me, I don't know..I was OK with DH not being there. I think he would not have wanted to go if I had asked him (my shower was 6 years ago!), it would have been him with 50 women and I just always associate it with a time for the women to get together, you know? He did however show up about 20 minutes before it ended to say hello to everyone and help bring the gifts to the car. Same as for the bridal shower.

I feel most guys just wouldn't have much of an interest in the showers...I don't think they feel slighted by missing it either, i think they are OK with it! But if its something a husband wants to be at, more power to them!



same... My dh has absolutely no interest in the shower, its a girl thing to him lol
hes actually having the guys at our house to hang out during the shower....

Posted 5/10/12 8:49 AM
 

PurpleC
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Re: Husbands attending showers

My DH had no interest and went to a restaurant right next door. He walked in with me, it wasn't a surprise, he said hi to everyone and then left. He came back when it was over.

Posted 5/10/12 8:53 AM
 

alli3131
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Re: Husbands attending showers

My DH was there but only because I was not. I was admitted tot he hospital the day before the shower so he had to go.

Posted 5/10/12 8:58 AM
 

wo0shply
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Re: Husbands attending showers

My DH is going to be there, I think hes super excited about it

Posted 5/10/12 9:48 AM
 

dazies827
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Re: Husbands attending showers

If mine didnt have to work he would have been there.

Posted 5/10/12 10:03 AM
 

IAMMRSBROWN
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Re: Husbands attending showers

Posted by anonymous20

Posted by IAMMRSBROWN

My DH is coming to the shower. We talked about it the other day and feel that the shower is for our future daughter, not really for just me.

Anyone elses DH going to the shower?


my dh was at mine and it was awesome!
not only did he help with opening the gifts but he was so cute and excited to see what we got for our Chat Icon
i highly reco. your dh being there--it's a really special moment to share together! he loved every minute!! he is a very hands on dad and i knew he would be from even way b4 i got preggo!i think when you are the one involved in the shower it's not as torturous as just sitting and attending a shower, kwim? it was nice for him to see his entire extended family too!




Your DH sounds exactly like mine! Hes so hands on, comes to every single appt. Is very involved in registering. Hes very excited about having a daughter. Im so happy he will be there with me that day :)

Posted 5/10/12 10:04 AM
 

wishing2012
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Re: Husbands attending showers

I'm not having a shower because I'm Jewish and the whole superstition thing. However, I've been to 3 showers in the past month (so many pregnant friends!) and one did have the husband attend. I see nothing wrong with it - and you're right, the shower is for the baby!

Posted 5/10/12 10:28 AM
 

maybebaby
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Re: Husbands attending showers

Posted by Linda1003

Posted by maybebaby

I don't think there is anything wrong with it if thats what a couple wants to do!

But for me, I don't know..I was OK with DH not being there. I think he would not have wanted to go if I had asked him (my shower was 6 years ago!), it would have been him with 50 women and I just always associate it with a time for the women to get together, you know? He did however show up about 20 minutes before it ended to say hello to everyone and help bring the gifts to the car. Same as for the bridal shower.

I feel most guys just wouldn't have much of an interest in the showers...I don't think they feel slighted by missing it either, i think they are OK with it! But if its something a husband wants to be at, more power to them!



ditto!!! i wouldn't torture my DH like that!!Chat Icon But if the couple wants it.. of course.. they should do it.. I think DH would have taken the knife and pokedh his eyes out!!Chat Icon



This would be my DH...and he is a very hands on dad who was so involved in the pregnancies and doing everything after the babies were born..but when it comes to showers, he just thinks BORING and honestly I kind of do sometimes too, even at my own, lol! Although baby showers are always nice and a cute way to celebrate a baby of course...I just know he'd take a few hours of silence or going to the gym instead and leave that stuff to me!

Posted 5/10/12 10:30 AM
 

JDubs
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Re: Husbands attending showers

i don't think he was planning to but we may not make our minimum, so i told him to come and eat just in case we don't Chat Icon

Posted 5/10/12 11:06 AM
 

anonymous20
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Re: Husbands attending showers

Posted by IAMMRSBROWN

Posted by anonymous20

Posted by IAMMRSBROWN

My DH is coming to the shower. We talked about it the other day and feel that the shower is for our future daughter, not really for just me.

Anyone elses DH going to the shower?


my dh was at mine and it was awesome!
not only did he help with opening the gifts but he was so cute and excited to see what we got for our Chat Icon
i highly reco. your dh being there--it's a really special moment to share together! he loved every minute!! he is a very hands on dad and i knew he would be from even way b4 i got preggo!i think when you are the one involved in the shower it's not as torturous as just sitting and attending a shower, kwim? it was nice for him to see his entire extended family too!




Your DH sounds exactly like mine! Hes so hands on, comes to every single appt. Is very involved in registering. Hes very excited about having a daughter. Im so happy he will be there with me that day :)



then for sure he will have a good time at the shower!! and again, it goes quickly when u r the one that it's for....i really loved having him there and i love our pics together getting ready to celebrate the biggest moment of our lives!! :) we had soo many gifts, i could have never opened them alone--with my big belly!LOL

Posted 5/10/12 12:01 PM
 

TheDivineMrsM
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Re: Husbands attending showers

Mine would've rather watched grass grow, but if your DH is interested, he should go!

Posted 5/10/12 12:13 PM
 

Otherme
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Re: Husbands attending showers

My DH was at mine because it was at our house Chat Icon

i wanted him there, and he helped cook on the bbq! Chat Icon

Posted 5/10/12 1:11 PM
 

Loveme
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Re: Husbands attending showers

My DH had no interest in attending, he just came after to help pick up the gifts

Posted 5/10/12 2:15 PM
 

nraboni
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Re: Husbands attending showers

My DH brought me there and came in and said hello then left. He and my dad and all the other uncles, dads, guys went to Chilis to watch Hockey.

They all came back at the end to help with the gifts and pick up their spouses.

There is no way my DH would have wanted to be at the shower but if yours does that great!

Posted 5/10/12 4:07 PM
 

labonnevie
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Re: Husbands attending showers

i have been to one 'shower' where DH & male friends were there. it was a backyard party that turned into a beerpong, loud music bbq rather than a shower celebrating the baby.

my DH is so involved with everything- from the second we got our first BFP with our first DD. he went to everything, we registered together, made decisions together, etc. but he wanted nothing to do with the shower- said it was for women and he would go off with the men and have a good time.

i'm not opposed to men being there at all, i just think most don't want too because they don't oooooh & aaahhhhh over baby booties and breastpumps and nipple cream like women do Chat Icon

Posted 5/10/12 4:13 PM
 
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