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I notice that alot of these comments are about someone mistakenly thinking someone was pregnant. As someone who once put my foot in my mouth doing the very same thing, I just thought to mention that it probably wasn't done intentionally in a cruel way.

A teacher at work came back after the summer having gained weight all in her stomach and her face so she looked pregnant and I congratulated her on her pregnancy. Turned out she just gained alot of weight over the summer and wasn't pregnant. I was mortified. I definitely learned my lesson and will never assume someone is pregnant again just based on how they look... BUT i was really coming from a genuine happy place and not trying to be cruel... if that brings any comfort to any of you.

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Posted by Linda1003

Posted by w8andsee

I have issues with infertility.

Recently a family member while holding a baby turns to me and says “jealous”. .

I HOPE YOU PUNCHED HER IN THE FACE!!

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Some of these things are just horrible. The things that come to my mind is in middle school a boy I was really good friends with grabbed my belly fat one day (and I was only a little chubby) and said I should really try to lose weight so I'd look better. That really crushed me in terms of how I looked at myself.

The absolute worse thing I can remember though didn't happen to me but to a kid in my 4th grade class. There was a boy who was the target of practically the entire school and the teacher picked on him constantly. He got sent in the hallway to be punished on nearly a daily basis.

One day the kid was crying in the hallway and the teacher ran out with a plant in his hands stuck in under the kids face and told him not to waste the water and put something he did to good use.

Another time the same kid was crying in the hall and a younger student called him a cry baby so the (same) teacher ran outside to give the kid who said that a high five and laughed about it.

My mom was his religion teacher and at some point told his mom she needed to transfer him out of the district bc otherwise he'd probably be tortured the rest of his school career. I think she pulled him from school the next month and they moved away. Even at 9 years old I remember being shocked at how cruel people could be.

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In general, I'm pretty non-confrontational so these are the ones that really stick out:

Said by a stranger that I accidentally bumped into while walking to the escaltors

"Watch where you are are going your fat, f'ing b!tch".

I was completely hormonal that day & yelled "I'm 7 months pregnant, you c_____ . (I'm aware it violates the code among women not to use but oh well). Then I threatened to punch her. She got of the escalator & took the stairs. For the rest of my pregnancy, I looked for her every day.

On the flip side many years - and pounds - ago, I was in an aircast & was in pain from trying to walk to work because of a subway problem. I tried to flag a cab & one stopped in front of me (halfway in the block). She ran up the block & pushed me out of the way to get in the cab. Then screamed at me that because I was young & skinny I thought the world stopped for me. The cab driver asked me what I wanted to do because he actually stopped in front of me. I told the cab driver that this fat piece of ___ could take my cab & then yelled back at her something pretty awful that involved wishing her death.

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When I was in 8th grade, at a catholic small school, I wasn't so cool. So, I had a bunch of friends from public school. We weren't allowed to wear much jewlery and my mom couldn't afford much anyway. Since I wasn't rich some of the kids called me scrub.

That I shook off but, once I bought this choker necklace that I LOVED. It was black ribbon with a yin yang on it. Some beotch, Cally, came up to me and said, "Nice choker". I thought she was being nice so i said something stupid like, "Thanks, I got it at Clares". She goes, "hahahahah I was kidding.. it's called sarcasm".

I guess I am still not over it. I was so pissed that I couldn't go to Catholic High School because my mom couldn't afford it.. but, in the end, I went to Seaford and I had the BEST friends. sone of those girls came back later to public school and wound up being in my friend group. THAT felt good. To have them kissing my azz because they had no friends. But, in the end one girl and I put that past us and we are friends now.

I also had a guy in 9th grade say to me, "why do you bother wearing a bra if you have no boobs". I was so angry. And I wore push up bras from that day foward. Now I have a d cup! For real
But, I ran into him at a bar a number of years ago and he was trying to talk to me and I wasn't being the nicest. He called me out on it and I told him why. He didn't remember it and I told him I wasn't mad at him or psycho like that I just don't talk to people who are total jerks like that. HE said that he has been told so many stories of how mean he was to people and he has no idea why he was like that. He apologized and was really embarassed about his behavior. All was forgiven then.

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At my parents block party over the summer, one of the neighbors who I haven't seen in awhile came on over to DH and me...

She says, "I see one of you has lost weight since the wedding!" (She looks at DH). Then she looks at me and goes, "Oh, I see you stopped walking..." (I used to walk around the neighborhood.)

1. Wtf???
2. Actually, I had lost weight since the wedding too.
3. Of course I stopped walking around the neighborhood. DH and I MOVED.

I got over it fairly quickly. My family and friends were absolutely livid though.

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I am honestly appalled at some of these replies. So sorry for all of you

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Serously people suck!

I also remember my Kindergarten grade teacher saying in front of the whole class that I obviously had eaten too much Thanksgivng turkey. started out being underweight and petite and then my family started feeding me junk just to get me to eat, so i had put on some weight. it really hurt my feelings.

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I have another one.

My sis and BIL have been married for several years but don't have children.

A relative casually suggested that they can always go to a sperm bank.

WTF!

And this is someone who knows my poor sister miscarried twice.

My BIL has never quite gotten over that comment. I guess it's the opposite of the old way people would always blame the woman for IF issues.

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I went through a rough time with acne in my late 20s and there would be so many people who would tell me how to take care of it. Like I didn't know I had acne. But it was brought to my attention a lot. I honestly did not want to leave the house because I was afraid of seeing people

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The worst thing EVER said to me was at cvs, this guy kept staring at me online at the pharmacy. So when i got on the regulae line after dropping off my scripts, he comes over to me and says "did anyone ever tell you that you look like that chickwho killed her kid, casey anthony." Hes like, " i was like holy shit thats the girl who killed her kid" hes says, " shes preftty hot though" i was 3 days post partum, embarassed ashell. I wanted to cry.

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I got called fat so often when I was a kid that even when I lost weight they called me that. It finally stopped after 7th grade.

In adulthood, people still make comments on my body. They imply that I'm fat or tell me that my chest is too small. Take a look in the mirror before you attempt to insult my looks

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A woman I work with (moron) said to me, "You look like your gaining weight." Then she tried to soften the blow by following up with "Don't worry, some men like fat women."

This woman is like double the size of me, so I should have just said to her, "You would know." but I just turned around and left.

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After I miscarried, my neighbor said, "well it's not like you had enough room at your house for a baby anyway."

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Wow I am sitting here reading through all these responses and feeling sad that I started this thread..........it just shows how many cruel, horrible people are in this world unfortunately.



Some of these comments......I just have no words.

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I cant remember much except I have played so many sports my whole life. I can not tell you how many times I have heard parents and coaches yelling at the boys on the other team when I SCHOOL them. LOL I always heard, whats wrong with you! Shes only a girl! youre letting a GIRL beat you!!!

The boys were embarrasses and honestly it only made me work harder to beat them and to show them girls can do just as good if not better! They picked on the wrong girl!

Im a phys ed teacher in elementary school and when I hear things like that from the boys I squash it immediately. sometimes I ask them if theyd like to play THIS girl. LOL

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I had mean comments about a flat chest when I was younger.
I had mean comments when I was pregnant, "Wow, you really gained weight all over."
I had mean comments after I had the baby, "I knew you were having a girl because she stole your beauty...but now you're pretty again."

But the worst thing anyone ever said to me was a student. I was talking about how my brother was a Marine currently stationed in Iraq during the war. One very angry boy looked at me and said, "I hope he never comes home. I hope he dies there."

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But the worst thing anyone ever said to me was a student. I was talking about how my brother was a Marine currently stationed in Iraq during the war. One very angry boy looked at me and said, "I hope he never comes home. I hope he dies there."





OMG! That is awful!!!! I cannot believe your student said that to you!!!??

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i have had my share of fat girl comments from drunk people or kids hanging out of the car..those i can roll off my back

one time i was at splish splash and there was 2 lines one for double one for single tubes..

everyone wanted double so on the single was just me and 2 other peopple..none of us were skinny but not obese and this guy comes up to the three of us and goes,oh is this the line for the heavier people tubes ...i do not think he was mean just a moron

the only one that ever got to me was after our 1st mc somebody said..do not worry that was not your baby...your baby will come

um..no that was my baby and we lost it..

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Posted by OrganicMama

Posted by w8andsee

I have issues with infertility.

Recently a family member while holding a baby turns to me and says “jealous”. .

OMG, I have no words for how vicious that is We also have issues with IF, and if someone said that to me I would never EVER speak to them again.