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Bearcat
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WWYD re: inviting person to shower
DH's brother (BIL) is in the process of a divorce. I emailed MIL for her shower list. She responded... what about BIL's GF?
His divorce isn't final so of course there's no ring on GF's finger. I don't (at this point) have a relationship with her (except when we see them on rare occasion). My thoughts were not to invite her at this point. If things change by september, then we can always add her.
Thoughts?
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
I wouldn't invite her at this point either. It'd be different if the 2 of you had more of a relationship/friendship. Like you said, you can always invite her later on if you'd like.
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| Posted 5/28/11 9:39 AM |
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
Well for me it would depend on how long they have been dating. If it's a couple months like 6 or more I would then ask BIL what he thought so I didn't offend anyone. If he would like her there then it would be no big deal to me, I have people coming to my shower that I don't know cause they are MIL friends, it doesn't bother me, just more celebration for baby lol
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| Posted 5/28/11 9:46 AM |
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CloudNine
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
can you give more info?
how long have BIL and ex wife not been together?
how long have BIL and GF been together?
i think you have some time before needing to know DEF if you want to invite her. in the end though, if you still arent sure then i would ask BIL his opinion since its his gf.
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| Posted 5/28/11 9:57 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
I think I would just ask BIL what he thinks/wants this way no one id offended
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| Posted 5/28/11 10:47 AM |
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
I'm apt to say that if things have been over for a while with XW and no one at the shower will be connected to her in anyway - invitee the GF. She might be your child's aunt one day.
unless they've only been dating a few months.
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Bearcat
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
they've been dating about 10 months (so we think). he moved out from his home with STBX about 11 months ago.
ive seen her fewer than 10 times.
if it's a factor at all, MIL's guest list is 4 people (including herself).
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| Posted 5/28/11 11:05 AM |
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
how long have they been dating??
im going to say if you are not close with her i wouldnt invite her.
is your MIL close with her??
i would say if things change you can always invite her later.
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| Posted 5/28/11 11:20 AM |
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
I wouldnt invite here either. I think its way too soon & its not like you have a very tight connection just yet. However, if you feel like this may cause a problem with anyone then to avoid that send an invite. lol
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MrsKS
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
Posted by DiamondGirl
I think I would just ask BIL what he thinks/wants this way no one id offended
Yup yup!!
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| Posted 5/28/11 2:33 PM |
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JulyMommy2Be
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
at this point, i would NOT invite her. but save an invite just incase things change by the time of the shower.
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| Posted 5/28/11 9:04 PM |
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lynnd126
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
10 months I would definitely invite her.
Before DH and I were dating he had a gf for about 5 years. They broke up about a year before we started dating and then about 7 months into our relationship I was not invited to a shower- which hurt me very much.
eta- In his fam showers are huge 100 person events- not like an intimate close friends thing- which made me feel worse bc everyone under the sun was invited.
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| Posted 5/29/11 8:19 AM |
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Katareen
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
I personally wouldn't, unless you have a personal relationship with her. My BIL's gf isn't even on my radar to invite to my shower.
However, showers in my fam (especially baby) are very small and intimate.
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| Posted 5/29/11 8:58 AM |
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CloudNine
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
Posted by Bearcat
they've been dating about 10 months (so we think). he moved out from his home with STBX about 11 months ago.
ive seen her fewer than 10 times.
if it's a factor at all, MIL's guest list is 4 people (including herself).
ok so its almost a year. the invites arent going out yet right? i would prob put her on the list so that BIL doesnt get annoyed. if she doesnt wanna go then the ball is in her court at that point but BIL may find it as a nice gesture to have her included. Worst case if she isnt comfy, she'll say no and probably send a gift
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| Posted 5/29/11 9:47 AM |
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Bearcat
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Re: WWYD re: inviting person to shower
wow looks like opinions are across the board on this one.
BIL won't be offended, i can say that with 100% confidence. I'm gonna see how things transpire over the next couple of months. my shower isn't until mid september so that's plenty of time.
we are trying to keep it around 50 people but whatever - if they're clearly more serious by then of course i will invite her.
thanks everyone for your input!
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