buying a house is so frustrating.

We decided to buy my parents house. it has been one dissappointment after another. The house is large and we were getting a really great price. The inspection report came out with a lot things to be done so we convince my parents (the sellers) to do the major things. We figured it was still a good deal but not as great as we originally thought. There has been so many paperwork problems and it actually delayed closing. Yes, we all met up in nassau to close, lawyers included and we couldn't because the paperwork still isn't straightened out. My husband has had enough and quite frankly I have too. This wasn't our dream house and it has been so much more trouble than it's worth. DH wants to start house hunting right away but I'm kinda emotionally drained. Please tell me that our house is out there! This is so frustrating.

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Your dream house is definitely out there...house hunting is such a frustrating process...I am right there with you...I just want to throw in the towel at this point but...we have to stay patient and stay strong!

Lots of luck!!

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The process is terrible. So stressful. So have you decided to walk away from your parents house?

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Buying a home really is one of the most stressful things.... between the $$$, the paperwork getting everyone on the same page, too many people being involved... it is awful. BUT you will find you dream home and once you are living in it, you will look back and know it was all worth the craziness

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Sorry you are having a disappointing experience. House hunting can be fun, especially if you are prepared (financially, emotionally, etc.) and know what to expect at each stage of the process.

If you decide to move on from your parents' house and start a house hunt, let me know if I can help. I'd be happy to meet with you for a buyer's consultation -- no obligation on your part. I can explain the process and answer any questions you may have, and you can tell me what you are looking for in a house. I would love to help you!

As far as your parents' house goes, I am not sure what the issues were that came up in the home inspector's report, but keep in mind that it is the inspector's job to point out every single issue and potential issue, big or small. The inspector's report can often look scary when in reality he is pointing out normal wear and tear or recommending certain maintenance or even upgrades to the house. I am not saying that is the case with you, but just raising it in case your parents' house really is still a good deal for you. It's an emotional process, esp. when the transaction is not an arms' length one, but maybe (despite the unexpected issues and glitches) it is still the best thing for you?

If you will always wonder if you could've found something better and will not be truly happy with your parents' house, though, then maybe you should look to see what else is out there.

Let me know if I can help!

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Thank you all for your replies. I was purposely trying to not get too specific. We went into thiswith the full intention of buying. We gave up our lease and moved in while we waited for closing with permission from my parents. We set up water, oil and gas deliveries and a new LIPA account. Talk about counting your chickens before they hatch.

Leaving the bank without having closed I got started thinking... we've had so many issues from the beginning (not just with the house, personal issues too) and we don't believe this is our house nor is it the great investment we thought it would be. Legally speaking, we fulfilled our end and my parents have not. This is so difficult because I've always been so close to them. A very uncomfortable conversation is in our near future because we have decided to walk away from the deal. We need to start over looking for a place...