How did you know

that it was the right time to have a baby?
DH and I were going to officially start trying and then we talked it over last night and I think we are going to wait
I want a baby like crazy, but we still have a few big projects left to do in our house and we def need my salary to pay bills so I don't even think I can do maternity leave since they don't pay you much.
I am so upset and disappointed

I know it is never the right time but what made you ladies decide to start to try?

Re: How did you know

Well, for us age was defnintely a factor- I am 34 and DH just turned 38. We also realized that there may never be a 'perfect' time. Plus, my best friend and her hubbie had a baby and we started spending a lot of time with them. Just being around a baby so much made us decide that much sooner

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I'm sorry you are going through this. My DH and I decided to start trying because of my age. Although it's not be the best time in terms of financials, we have decided that because it may take a while before I am able to conceive that we would start trying now. We had been thinking that we were going to wait another year or so, but after some visits to drs. we decided not to wait.

Also, like everyone says, if you wait for the "perfect" time to have a child, you'll be waiting forever because there is always something else that gets in the way.

Stay strong.

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Thank you for your responses
I think I am going to have to sit down wih DH and really see what is best for us at this point.
You are right that it is "never" the right time and I don't want to say oh let's see where we stand at the end of the year and we get to that point and then we push off TTC again.
I am hoping that I can join you ladies very soon

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For us we just knew it was time, we were together 7 yrs before we got married and we always discussed that we would start trying a few months after our wedding. We're not 100% financially set but we both agreed that it's time for a baby and we will cross whatever bridge when we get there.

We live in an apartment in a 2 fam house that my parents own so we will never be out on the street and it's a 3 bedroom so we have plenty of room to raise our child/children here, it's in a great neighborhood with really good schools so I'm not worried about the future.

Now if I can only get pg

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Well I was definetly ready before my DH. I am 31 and DH is 38 so age was definetly part of the conversation.

What we did was sit down and research what was the average time it takes a couple our age to become pregnant, then we figured out how much time I would need to take off of work and how many sick days I had. We discussed child care and how we would be doing that. A lot of our friends have kids now and we both want it and we know it will never be a perfect time so if everything else fits we might as well.

We both agreed that March will be our first month ttc. We are very excited and hopeful and you and your dh will be able to make the decision that works best for both of you.

Good luck

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We always figured we'd wait at least 2 years after getting married. But in the first year, I really couldn't imagine having a child. I didn't think about it nearly as much as I do now. If anything, DH was on the baby kick first. Then, about 1 1/2 of marriage, something kicked in (I guess that maternal instinct). We had also recently gotten a puppy and I think that only encouraged my need to nurture something/someone. So I went off the pill last May and started trying before our 2 year mark (we're now past that). And with every passing month, I think my desire grows even stronger.

Could we have more in the bank? Sure. But otherwise we're pretty stable, so I think we'll be able to adapt.

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No matter when we had a child finances would make things tougher but back when I got pregnant with my DD I was already 32 (as was DH) and we were having trouble TTC so I didn't want to waste any time since we want more than 1 child. Money is tight with me not working and it's hard but we are surviving and I am blessed with my DD. We're now TTC #2.

I am firm believer that if you're emotionally ready for a baby then go ahead and TTC. Honestly, finances will always be an issue BUT somehow you will make it work. Plus, you never know what issues you may encounter when it comes to TTC. I thought I would just get pregnant when I wanted and it didn't quite work out that way. You never know.

Good luck!!

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DH and I knew we wanted to start having children right away after we got married. The thought of it made me excited but extremly nervous. We don't have a house and I work full time and go to school part time so the timing didn't seem "perfect" and we tried anyway. In August I got pregnant but miscarried. How devestated we both were just solidified the fact that we are ready to have a baby no matter if our circumstances are a little less than ideal.

Follow your heart

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I turned 30 this year and DH turned 33 and we want 2 so we figured it was time to get the party started. We didn't want to deal with the complications related to advanced maternal age.

They say you're never really ready, but there are considerations like money that are important so it's good that you're being responsible. If you set up a plan and schedule, with goals for savings for the baby and maternity leave and/or to have the house complete, then you'll at least feel like you're working towards a baby, even though you're not actively TTC.

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Age played a big factor for us. We kept saying when we get a house, but that isn't happening anytime soon. We agreed it would be silly to put it off just for that reason. We both want kids. We're both great with kids. So we knew it was time to have our own and stop delaying.

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Thanks girls!!
I am def going to talk to DH tonight, I am emotionally ready and I am sure that I can find ways to save $$ - hey even if I get a BFP the first month trying, I still have 9 months to save up right
I hope to be able to get this all resolved soon, cause it is all I think about


To all of you!